She has issues

[TroubledBf]

I have for the first time found someone I really like. We worked together and were housemates for only 8 days before we realised how right we were for each other. For the last two months it's been amazing. Very deep and intimate and really good fun. She is highly intelligent and very confidant but very recently she's fallen apart. We went shopping to get something saucy recently, and then and there she just broke down. Slipping into a manic depression about feeling ugly, fat, and apparently not good enough for me. She said she could never feel sexy enough for me, and that other like girls would do better, and that I could do better. I told her how much I loved her and did the loving boyfrined thing because I wanted to, and it hurt me to see her so unhappy. This is still going on. I know she is under a lot of pressure at work but this this seriously bright girl I love is withering in front of me. She doesn't want me to touch her because she thinks she's horrible. And if I do hug her she just breaks into tears in some sort of guilt that I'm so nice. If I'm nice and loving she only feels more inadequate. Ladies I need your help! What is going through her head? Does the fact she has recently gone on the pill mean she may be experiencing depression? Any thoughts much appreciated!

[lisa simpson's saxophone]

Originally posted by TroubledBf
Does the fact she has recently gone on the pill mean she may be experiencing depression? Any thoughts much appreciated!

I get feelings like her sometimes but not on a regular basis. If she's just starting to feel like this now, and the change has occurred at the same time as her starting this pill then yes there could definitely be a link.

Do you know the name of the pill she's on? If she goes to her doctor and tells him/her that the pill is giving her mood swings then they can prescribe a different one.

At the end of the day all you can do is be there for her as you are now. You can't magically make everything better for her but just knowing you care about her will be a big help even if it doesn't seem like it.

[Wyetry]

When I was reading through the first half of your post I thought that it was possibly just PMT or something. I had a friend who went on the pill about a year ago and immediately contracted depression. Her doctor said that the two couldn't be linked but I thought that the coincidence was to great. So i would advise you to tell her to go back to her doctor and ask his advice.

[xmizzcattyx]

its true that the pill can cause depression. her doctor should have told her that when it was prescribed. tell her to go back to the doctors asap

[otter]

A common side effect of the pill is depression; as is: reduced sex drive, headaches, decreased appertite, nausea, - etc. It is possible this could be the cause of her emotional distress on some level; however, it's also possible that her distress is a result of something more personal than this. you have already mentioned "she is under a lot of pressure at work". Have you tried talking to her about what happened and about how she is feeling? You say that it is "still going on" - generally side effects with the pill last a couple of months max. I'm not sure how long exactly this has been going on with you and your girlfriend, but I think, that you really need to talk to her and advise that she makes an appointment with her GP, ASAP.

[swank]

*gone*

[Welsh Jemz]

some good advice in this thread!

i agree with the majority that it might be the pill affecting her but i think that swank's theory carries more weight.

it seems to me that she's realised how much she likes you and her head has started to go off on one wondering how she managed to pull you.

my advie is just to talk to her and reassure her with loads of hugs. it worked for me :)

[SuzyCreamcheese]

The pill shouldnt make someone feel like that. I doubt its that tbh. It sounds like shes deeply insecure. Has she given you any idea to whats made her feel like this? Has she been abused?