Mates??

[Makoto]

I went away with 2 other mates but came back a little early, in fact 3 days early. All was going well untill we got there and one mate started to get a little anxiety. Not sure why tho, he has been away with us before.

We went into town the following day, had a look round, went to a bar, chilled out and he seemed ok. Then when he spoke to his parents and girlfriend, he got off the phone & had a panic attack. After that he had anxiety pretty much all the time, so we decided to come home early because he didn't want to stay.

I ain't really that pissed off because we had a good few days there. I gave him a bell a little while ago and he didn't pick up the phone, so I poped round there and his missus came to the door and she seemed pissed of with me as of to say, "what the fuck have you done to my boyfriend" . I say is Stevie there and she said I don't think he really wants to speak to you.

Now I'm like.. WTF?

[malteser monkay]

That's really odd! :eek2: I mean, is it abnormal for him to be anxious and has he ever had a panic attack before - if not the whole thing may have shook him up to an extent where he's almost anticipating the next? I dunno!? His gf may have got the wrong end of the stick, obviously figuring that you're the reason for his change in behaviour? I'm not really sure- sorry if I'm useless!

Malt Munk xx:)

[Indrid Cold]

There seems to be a sort of misunderstanding here. Maybe you should talk to her, explain your side of the story and find out what happened?

[Makoto]

Nah he don;t have panic attacks from what I know of, his misus does treat him like a baby tbh. Maybe he didn;t feel as safe with us?? I dunno. I'll wait till the weekend and talk to him then. Or her.

[lisa simpson's saxophone]

Did anything happen while you were away which might have seemed insignificant to you but could have been a big deal to him?

I don't know what exactly but stuff like... did he not want to go out somewhere but you persuaded him to and then he had a shit time? Does he have any massive phobias which you overlooked or forgot about... like making someone go swimming when they're scared of water or something? Crappy example but anyway. Or is there something he's really sensitive about and you've put your foot in it somehow?

Have you spoken to the other guy you were on holiday with? Can he shed any light on it?

If you really, genuinely don't have a clue what's going on then talk to his girlfriend, or maybe even his parents. Don't go out on the defensive saying 'why's he pissed off with me, I haven't done anything wrong!' just say you're concerned and know that he wasn't right on holiday, and is there anything you've done to upset him or anything you can do to help?

ETA if he got the panic attack after he got back from phoning home, maybe there's something going on at home which you don't know about or have forgotten or overlooked?