Help - Friends bf problem

[Hellfire]

This is part of a conversation with her about her bf

she said

on the other hand he gets very jealous even though i would never do anything to hurt him. im scared of the things he makes me feel. scared to be around him because ive never had such strong feelings before...i dont know whats going to happen. what do you think i should do?

i said

if ur scared why u with him

she said

its not that im scared of him its just that i dont know how to act around him. in the past, things have been so mallow with my boyfriends.....relaxed......but hes different. i feel like im not just messin around in this relationship and i want to make it work. its scary because for once, i dont know what i'd do if i became single again

what do you reckon people? im stuck for what to say,

[Franki]

That's confused me...it sounds like she has strong feelings for him...why is this bad?

[RepeatToFade]

Yeah sounds like she loves him. Is the problem the fact that he gets jealous?

[Hellfire]

I am not sure, but As far as I can make out I think she is scared of losing the guy and ruining it by going to fast.. Any advice I can give her please

[littlemissy]

Originally posted by Hellfire
I am not sure, but As far as I can make out I think she is scared of losing the guy and ruining it by going to fast.. Any advice I can give her please

Not really. Only she would know how to gauge him. If she thinks that they are going too quickly then she needs to slow it down herself. You can't know this about their relationship, it has to come from her.

But it just sounds like she needs to relax and enjoy it instead of worry about things. In most relationships if there is a problem then one party will tel the other, so if the b/f thinks things are going to fast, he will tell her.

[Hellfire]

Thank you, I just thought I'd look for helpful advice, I gave her what you said and her words where, your right, I should stop worrying,

Many thanks you lot :)