Please help

[Briony]

I feel really mixed up at the mo. Me and my fella was getting on really well (as we always do) until this dinner. He rang me up as he always does when I'm on my dinner break, and he just casually droped into the convo that he was at this girls house, an old mate he hasnt seen for ages.

I dont mind him going, actually I do mind it if i'm honest. This girl and my fella got 'quite close' as he puts it, ages ago. I've asked him if he has slpet with her, he says no. But course he's gonna say that if he's meeting up with her! She aint got a b/f and when me and my fella got together she was texting him to meet up, he didnt..... well he says he didnt.

We havent seen each other today because I was working late and he is at footy traning. He said to me on the phone "you dont mind me going to (her name) house, do you" I said no, but I do mind. For all I know, he could of been shagging her today. I do trust him, and I bet you all think I dont, but I really do. I just dont trust him around her. I think he has always fancied her. He just got his car on Sunday, and he going round there all day. I feel like shit today.

At dinner I just cried when he told me he was at her house, and put the phone down on him. He doesnt know I put the phone down on him because of that, he thinks my boss came in. I really wanted to say somert down the phone to him, but I know she would be there...... listening probably.

I wanted to end it today, I was soooooo close. I do love him so much, but I just feel he's taking me for a ride. Im probably being silly, but I feel like I shit.:banghead:

What should I do? My mate said to just tall him how I felt. But then he'll think I'm being stupid.

Thanks for reading my babble! Any comments welocme, thanks:)

[StupidGirl]

I know it's going to be hard but what you have to decide is whether you do trust him or not. What I have discovered recently is that trust really is the most important thing in a relationship...and a lack of it will eat away at you until it ruins everything.
You could try talking to him about it, but if you do be sure not to throw accusations around. If you structure your argument by using comments like "when you do this, it makes me feel like this", he can't get angry with you because you are not throwing blame in his face, you are just telling him how you feel. Ask him to consider how he would feel if you were doing the same with someone he knew you used to have feelings for, and tell him that while you trust him, you don't know this girl or what her intentions are and as such, him spending time with her makes you feel uncomfortable. Then, it's down to him really - if he values you and your feelings, he'll do what he can to make you feel better and put your mind at rest. If he doesn't - then maybe you have to reconsider if he's really right for you.