romantic things......

[twisted_trinity]

do guys still see things as romantic or not? and if so what kind of things? is it the same for guys and girls???

[RudeBwoy]

Iv been told im quite a romantic :D lol

But for me, a woman being romantic can be as simple as cuddling up to me watching a dvd under a duvet or something like that.

[aimz]

Originally posted by RudeBwoy
Iv been told im quite a romantic :D lol

But for me, a woman being romantic can be as simple as cuddling up to me watching a dvd under a duvet or something like that. thats what i find romantic but all the blokes i find dont seem to understand that the little things are important too

[Kermit]

The word romantic means "special" for a lot of men.

A cuddle isn't "special".

[aimz]

Originally posted by Kermit
The word romantic means "special" for a lot of men.

A cuddle isn't "special". Depends who with in my eyes...

[Kermit]

Originally posted by aimz
Depends who with in my eyes...

I don't think you quite got what I meant.

A cuddle is just a normal feature of the relationship, it isn't a "special effort".

[Martin_Bashir]

The word romantic means "special" for a lot of men.

no i can see what he's getting at.

matey makes one call to 'Flying Flowers' and suddenly he's Don Juan...

ditto cuddles; for ALOT of blokes a night in cuddling up in front of....whatever, is an exception not a rule.

Grossly simple but true in quite a few circumstances is the ratio of pints-to-hugs in many relationships:p

Edited to say: i've got fuck all statistical basis for this so it's just an observational inferrence:)

[Indrid Cold]

I think I have absolutely no idea what "romantic" means. But I may be wrong.

[wheresmyplacebo]

'romance' went when it was taken over by disney ina aggressive takeover bid


personally though its about doing something that will hit the right buttons on the opposite sex, normally something that only works on the person

only real problem is going out ona limb some people take that the wrong way and chuck you down to the ground cause youre being sweet and all

[aimz]

Originally posted by Kermit
I don't think you quite got what I meant.

A cuddle is just a normal feature of the relationship, it isn't a "special effort". oh lol ok :blush: i agree

[lisa simpson's saxophone]

Originally posted by Kermit
The word romantic means "special" for a lot of men.

A cuddle isn't "special".

I'm a girl but I think I'm with Kermit on this one. Depends what you mean by 'special', but if you mean making a special effort to make someone smile or let them know you care, then yep, I agree with you.

Romantic gestures to can be such tiny things, but the romance comes from the thought behind them. My boyfriend once gave me a packet of chocolate buttons which he'd bought from some corner shop on the way to my house. Chocolate buttons aren't of themselves romantic and probably cost about 50p, but the fact that he remembered I'd been saying I was craving chocolate buttons a couple of days before and went out of his way to buy me some was pretty romantic in my eyes!

Same with things like sending a card or a letter just to say 'I'm thinking of you' - it might cost nothing more than the price of a stamp and 10 minutes of your time, but it's still making an effort to surprise your partner and make them feel loved.

[RudeBwoy]

Are you defying romance as "turn ons"?

What i meant is that i find cuddling up kinda sweet because i believe relationships and romance means a lot more than just knowing how to please someone.

I like the little things for example holding hands and the feeling you get when you cuddle your partner and even though they dont say anything they give you the sence of "i need you", that makes no sence lol

[lisa simpson's saxophone]

I don't really define physical interraction as romantic. Holding hands and stuff is almost instinctive in a relationship. Sure it's sweet and nice but I don't think it's 'romantic' as such.

The word 'romance' to me conjures up images of courtship and trying to please each other because you love each other. Not just 'sweet' stuff like cuddling.

[evil_dave]

im really romantic, my girlfriend is much more masculine in that area i suppose, i like telling her how great she is and bringing her little presents just to show her how great she is, and sacrificing my sanity on public transport for 2 hours just to see her. She does like me i know it, but she never tells me unless i drag it outve her. So i think i know how it feels to be one of those wives who say "you never say you love me any more" and when the husband genereally replies "you know i love you" she generally says " But i still need to hear you say it" or something. She never tells me she even likes me adn the first time she did i pointed out she never said it, and she just said "i dont do that, it doesnt mean im not thinking it"

[RudeBwoy]

Its interesting to see theres so many different opinions on "romance", its a hard work to define.

Mr dave, looks like your misses wears the trousers ay. Travelling 2 hours is sweet well done :)

[evil_dave]

Originally posted by RudeBwoy
Its interesting to see theres so many different opinions on "romance", its a hard work to define.

Mr dave, looks like your misses wears the trousers ay. Travelling 2 hours is sweet well done :) thanks, yeah she is quite trouser bearing, but she would also do anything i asked her to, i think anyway, 2 hours ever other saturday, cos she does the same for me every other other saturday :S

[Replicant]

I am :blush: I buy flowers, take her out to dinner, buy little presents randomly, rub her feet.... you know, the generally nice things that they tend to like ;)

[evil_dave]

my girlfriend is trying to give up smoking so im helping her by buying her a little prezzie every day she goes without one.