dealing with mum

[twisted_trinity]

i find it hard to cope on a day to day basis as it is. and now i'm living away from home tuesday-saturday, and my mum wants to move it's all that much more difficult.

my mum is a very over sensitive person

and she gets very anxious very easily. she runs 2 small businesses, and has to cope with her abnoxious alcoholic ex boyfriend/business partner. now i hate him, he treats mum like dirt. but now when i'm at home i need to chill because i run around like a headless chicken during the week. but i've now got to help pack up our 4 bed house, and do my studies and try and cope with all my stuff, for which i'm still resieveing no help for.

she is getting litrally sick with anxioty and i get worried when i go away.

i really don't know what to do?

help!

[Zella]

If you and you mum pack up the house together room by room, then it could be a good chance for you two to spend some quality time together and renew a bond.
(i'm sure it was you that said she had problems with her mum)

[supergrover]

it sounds like your mum is leaning on you a lot more than she realises for emotional support and you need a big hug for just bein there to provide that amongst all your other stresses.

Maybe your mum doesnt realise how much stress and pressure you're under during the week? it really does sound like you need someone to offload all your stresses to. Just talking through these things with someone can really help get rid of the emotional baggage. Have you anyone you can chat to about this? I know ive suggested it lots on the boards but childline really can help with things like this. (08001111) a lovely counsellor will be there just to listen and help you sort through options and youll come off feeling lots lighter re the emotional baggage.

Otherwise, is there anyone else in her family or a close friend who can also help out with the moving thing? Maybe you could come to some arrangement where you could help out for say half a day and get others to rope in?
like zella says, it could also be a good chance to spend some qual time with your mum.
Bottom line is, you need to start lookin out for little you as well as it sounds like you spend a lot of time worrying/carin for others. youre important too you know.

hang in there trinity and keep talkin coz its good to talk:cool:

[twisted_trinity]

at the moment, i'm working myself into the ground, and i've made myself ill.

ever since i've been small, i've always been my mums emotional support. and i'm well and truely fed up of it.

one of the problems of living out here is that we have no family here. not that we had any at home as they have all passed away but i'm the only one keeping my mum going in this sense. and i've only got me to keep me going.

i've been desperatly trying to find someone to talk to i.e. a councilor that speaks english out here for 18 months, ok my spanish is good, but not good enough to explore my emotions. and i can't get anywhere. nothing has seemed to happen. :(

so right now, i don't really know what to do, because i feel like i'm at a point again where i'm no longer just floating on the surface but i'm being pushed under the water and struggling for air.

with all thats going on at home, and in my head, and now one of my bestfriends is moving back to england on monday, i'm seriously struggling. i don't want to end up having another break down like i did this time last year.