Screwed Up

[ReverandX]

i am pretty sure i am in love with my ex girlfriend still. i suppose a better term would be in love at her since she isn't with me. it has been 2 years (kind of sad i know) and i thought i was more or less over her. it all came back after a phone call i had with her earlier.

i really want to be her friend and not just a guy who uses the friendship thing to get her back. besides, i am sure she wouldn't want to get back together anyways.

i don't want my feelings to screw things up. any suggestions?

[Kermit]

If you're not a close friend now, ignore her, put hwer in the past and get over her that way.

Constant contact with her will make you pine even more, and that's never a good thing.

A clean break is what you need.

[ryoko_rock]

But on the other hand it would be a shame to waste what you did have. I guess you've just gotta try your absolute hardest to just be her friend, but if it's too much for you and you just can't deal with it then you might have to resort to a clean break, as Kermit said.

*hugs*

[Kermit]

Originally posted by ryoko_rock
But on the other hand it would be a shame to waste what you did have.

What he did have stopped two years ago.

Sorry to sound so cruel, but if one phone call makes you still love her then the friends thing can't work. Every time she's nice you'll take it as her wanting to get back together, no matter how much you don't think you will it's what happens.

[ReverandX]

it doesn't sound cruel Kermit, just honest. appreciate it. gonna try what ryoko_rock said first though and try to be friends. i've managed being just friends with girls i've really wanted to date. at one point i just stop wondering and things get comfortable.

if that doesn't seem to work then a clean break is what i'll have to do. guess i am just a glutton for punishment.

thanks for the advice guys.