fixing a realtionship?

[thesacredterror]

I have been with my girl for over 2 1/2 years and I love her 100% and she loves me back the same!

When we first got together it was amazing we got on so well and never fought! We still get on really well and i still consider her to be my best friend...the thing is now we always seem to hurt each other and end up rowing over stupid shit, things I cant even understnd why they became a fight, we both hate it and it depresses us! She says that she feels nervous when she sees me in case we do fight, i kinda feel the same! we always try and talk and sort things out...i just never know what to say because i really dont know whats wrong! A lot of things that we row about i would never argue with her over if she was just my friend...weird!!!

Anyways - i really want/ need advice on a way we can just relax around each other and go back to how it was!!!

[swank]

*gone*

[Kermit]

Any couple that never argues are not being honest with each other. That's bad.

Byut if you are arguing a lot, over stupid little things, you both need to sit down and talk rationally about what is wrong. Is one/both of you stressed or depressed? Are you btoh getting everything you want out of the relationship?

Some arguments are normal, but if you argue a lot then you need to find out why.

[thesacredterror]

sorry...i should have added we live apart because we met at uni! maybe only seeing each occasionally now (since july) is part of the prob! stuff was a lil sour before that though and we dont actually live a HUGE distance apart!

i do miss her though and im pretty sure she misses me! i think what we miss the nost though is the chilled out, cool, fun times!

thanks for replying though :-)

Kermit:

I think we both have our things that stress us out and i can be pretty bad at communicating my feelings - sometimes prefering just to mope about!

I think both want the same out of the relationship and thats just someone to be close to and enjoy their company!

[Olive]

all couples have fights. the key is how you fight, and how quickly everything is forgotten.

if you're rowing over something stupid, all it takes is one of you to say 'you know what, this is really stupid. why the hell are we even fighting?' not enough people do that.