So let down, no one is coming

[melanie]

ok, tonight im ment to be going out for my 21'st. There were ment to be about 8 of my best friends from home and my old job (only left two weeks ago) coming up to see me.

If they had said that they didnt want to come / couldnt afford it/ were working ect ect ect fine, i dont mind, im not a nasty person and realise that the word doesnt revolve around me. But everyone apart form one that was a maybe said that they would be here. But today all i have had is phone calls off people saying i cant make it because... fair enough if you have other things to do but they could have told me yesterday, the day before none of them were reasons that had come up today other than my best friend who had a very good reason and i understand completley.

Theres even two people from my old job who i rang on their mobiles and neither answered so i thort they must be working. when i rang their work and asked if either of them were in i was told that they were back in at 9pm. Neither of them had bothered telling me!!!! i find that so rude.

I know that my birthday isnt really important to anyone but me but its my 21st and i would make the effort for their birthday and they all know that.

So now im meating a couple of people from uni that i dont really know in a club but i have all the stuff for the party kind thing that i was having at my flat before i went down. Bottles of wine, beer, vodka bowls of crisps and pizza and theres no one here.

Im trying so hard to stop crying and to pull myself together but its so hard. My friends are probably the most important thing in my life and ive just realised that i dont really matter to any of them. they all know what a hard time iv had recantly and not one of them can be bothered to put in the effort.

Im finding it hard to pull myself up aswell as i am on some very strong pain killers that have the effect of making me cry even if there is no reason to cry (this is a recent thing i havnt scared any of my friends with this).

I dunno what i want anyone to say really and i know i should just pull myself together and go and meat my friends from uni but i feel so let down i just feel like crawling into bed

[1983]

Fuck them!

Honestly, birthdays are shit. As someone said in my LJ; Birthdays have this whole anticipation placed on them which is pressure for you to make them the BEST when in actual fact the pressure makes them shit.

I say, you go out..have a good night as much as you can. Then, next weekend organise another night out. People have 1 week's notice whether to RSVP.

My birthday has been quite shit because of my Depo nearing the beginning of this month, as I was 21 last October there. My night was absolutely shite. Everyone was skint until the week after, etc.

So it was me and my bloke, shit night-ish, but it was better than sitting in thinking how shit your birthday is.

I'd say sod it. You're only 21 once. If you stay in, you'll think what if. If you go out, you'll know if it's worth it or not.

Fuck this expectancy that 21sts are fantabulous. They're not really. Just go and have a belter of a night.

Happy birthday, anyways. :birthday:

[melanie]

thanx im feelin a bit better now anyway. it just pissed me off because it has been organised for about three months. think it just feels like so much of a letdown as everyone har done it at once. well fuck them, if they cant make the effort then im not going to bother about them.

im gonna do my hair and go out. thanx 1983

[1983]

Originally posted by Mel-H
im gonna do my hair and go out. thanx 1983

You go girl!
:D

*toasts glass of Lambrini to you*

[BumbleBee]

Try to have fun with whoever you're with. My 21st seemed a complete let down at first. I'd invited 10 people and booked a table for a meal. Five people came in the end. My best friend 'forgot' she had to work even though I asked people two months in advance. My ex-boyfriend's brother was too ill to come, but later that night could be found in the local pub. Hmmm. Anywho, I had almost decided to stay in but was so glad I went out because I had a lovely time with people who cared about me.

So yeah, people suck, but remember that when you get older birthdays become 'just another day' to a lot of people. Personally I think everyone should have fab birthdays where possible.

[Indrid Cold]

Good luck today! :thumb:

My 15th birthday was a disaster like that... Up until then, I'd always loved them...

[Jazza]

Your 16th is supposed to be good, but mine was shite. Just sat in. Most of my friends are wasters who I wouldn't want to be seen dead with now and the rest I just don't see much outside of school now so I couldn't go out. Didn't really bother me.

[MsMinxy]

it was my 20th at the begining of Oct, all my mate started back at their unis a week or so before me and had said about coming home the weekend of my birthday because i had said i would definatly be home that weekend to see parents and that.
not a single one of them bothered to come home, suddenly had loads of work to do only weeks into term. in the end i spent the eve (was in classes all day) at home with parents, brothers n boyfriend with take-out pizza in front of telly! Happy bday to me!
thing that got to me the most was that i had to conferm plans for the weekend to find out people werent coming home, they werent even going to tell me! and only one txt me happy bday on the day!
least i know that even if my friends arent the friends i thought they were my family and guy were there to spend it with me. better luck next year i hope!:rolleyes:

[Kermit]

It happens, birthdays are shit. All the expectancy, all the pressure to "fit in" with the image of rip-roaring birthday nights out, and if it doesn't work out to plan it's a depressing disaster because of the pressure.

I spent my 21st unpacking crates in our new flat, and then we had a takeaway pizza. It was utter bollocks. So as a couple we had a roaring night out two days later.

[melanie]

it was an ok night, as luck would have it 2 dj's that were on had organised a coach trip from a club in wigan that i worked at for four years and all my old friends who i havnt seen for years were there. strance coincidence but i enjoyed it.