gf vs internet friend

[Timidtiger]

:/ ok so im kinda in an awkward position cause i really like my gf but we have a long distance thing going on although its not really long distance as we only live about 2 hours away from each other but as a student i cant afford the train to see her regularly.

The problem i have is that there is this girl i met over the net who i also think i really like but she lives very far away so i doubt anything will happen there, but i'm just really confused because i really really do like my gf i just find it hard being away from her and the thing with this internet girl has me all confused :(

I knowi m being pretty vague but any guidance would be appreciated thanks alot!!!

[Martin_Bashir]

this is just my opinion, but i think it could be dodgy to compare a real-world relationship with one that only exists in text based conversations.

Have you ever met up with this girl in a situation in where you wouldnt be able to 'turn each other off' (as in log off msn or whatever).

i dont know the ins and outs of your relationship, but all i'd say is that we can seem like the nicest person in the world in a few lines of text, but i really do believe there is a limit to how well you can know someone you have never met personally. What that limit is i do not know, and this is all just my opinion.

im not sure how it could be, but i hope this has been helpful in some way :)

[littlemissy]

Originally posted by Martin_Bashir
this is just my opinion, but i think it could be dodgy to compare a real-world relationship with one that only exists in text based conversations.

Have you ever met up with this girl in a situation in where you wouldnt be able to 'turn each other off' (as in log off msn or whatever).

i dont know the ins and outs of your relationship, but all i'd say is that we can seem like the nicest person in the world in a few lines of text, but i really do believe there is a limit to how well you can know someone you have never met personally. What that limit is i do not know, and this is all just my opinion.

im not sure how it could be, but i hope this has been helpful in some way :)

You talk complete sense.

[Franki]

Originally posted by littlemissy
You talk complete sense.

:yes:

How do you know this Internet girl isn't just faking everything about herself? It may sound a bit harsh, or far-fetched, but it's a very real possibility. Personally, I'd stick with your girlfriend...I've done the whole "Internet relationship" thing and it's bollocks unless you're definitely planning on meeting up with them. And even then, it's not definite that you'll have the same relationship with that person offline as you do online.

As Martin said, you can "turn each other off" when you're online. So, if it starts getting a bit tedious or annoying, you can just stop talking to her. What happens if it comes to that in real life? You can't just piss off and leave the girl.

Also, if this girl lives farther away than your girlfriend now, and you can't even afford to see HER often, then how are you going to afford to see this girl any more? Why would it be any better?

Stick with your girlfriend mate...it's always for the best.

(Also, can ya try and use a bit more punctuation next time please, my brain got a bit confused with that massively long sentence at the beginning there)

[Martin_Bashir]

(Also, can ya try and use a bit more punctuation next time please, my brain got a bit confused with that massively long sentence at the beginning there

who me :confused: :)

[Timidtiger]

thanks for the replies :)

I dunno i mean i really really do like my gf but i feel like im being disloyal having feeling for another girl although like u say its not like they are actually for her just what i know of her from online. ah well heh but you guys are right really

[CHARLY]

just have them both, or why not get a g-f were you live.

[Franki]

Originally posted by Martin_Bashir
who me :confused: :)

Nooooooooo not you. Your punctuation's spot on.

Timidtiger :yes:

[Zella]

Originally posted by CHARLY
or why not get a g-f were you live.

Easier said than done

[Mr_Wobble]

Sounds like your internet friend is filling a gap, a space, a void, in your relationship with your real life g/f.

[**Cinderella**]

Originally posted by Mr_Wobble
Sounds like your internet friend is filling a gap, a space, a void, in your relationship with your real life g/f.

Do you think that is the case?
im going through a similar situation, been wiv my boyf for 3 years, getting really tired of the routine and also habit that we av gotton into. Met this lad, one nite and continued talking thru msn, hes everything i want my boyf to be, so is this because im unhappy?
im confused 2!xx

[Kermit]

If you're looking at another person then something isn't right, either in yourself or in your relationship.

Either you can work out what it is and fix it, or you can end the relationship.