online relationships

[twisted_trinity]

is there really anyway of making online things working?

realisticly?

because i've got something going on atm but it's a little difficult

please help!!

and sorry for the vagueness, it's a member so i really really don't want to give to much info out.

[rachie004]

there's been loads of topics on this already...

if it's just going to be online and you'll never meet etc etc then theres no point and I wouldn't call it a relationship either

[Kermit]

If the internet is your main or only form of contact then no, it won't work.

Meeting people on the internet works all the time, but unless you can run the relationship in real life then it's a waste of time. And it's not a relationship, either.

[twisted_trinity]

well we have already said that we are going to meet up in the easter holiday, so the meeting we shall be doing. it's just we live in 2 countries and it's difficult because of the distance...:(

but we phone each other quite a bit, and text each other......

bloody damn distance! :(

[Kermit]

Meet up and have a laugh, sure hon.

But unless you can be meeting in real life often, then it won't work in the long term.

A relationship without physical contact and physical intimacy is not a relationship.

[twisted_trinity]

Originally posted by Kermit
Meet up and have a laugh, sure hon.

But unless you can be meeting in real life often, then it won't work in the long term.

A relationship without physical contact and physical intimacy is not a relationship.

i know, i know, i know

it's all so difficult.....

to be honest i don't know what to do, we tried to cool it off but it didn't work.....

maybe i should just be complacent with it just being fun right now.

because to be honest i can move back to england before jan 2006 and thats a long time away.....so i don't know what to do...

[Kermit]

If it's important to you then have a go, see what happens. If you could get back to England on EasyJet or something reaosnably regularly then it could work, but don't get your hopes up.

If you can't hug or kiss your partner at least sometimes then IMHO the relationship is doomed.

[Franki]

Originally posted by Kermit
If you can't hug or kiss your partner at least sometimes then IMHO the relationship is doomed.

:yes: I see mine at weekends, that's 2 days a week, and I hate it. I talk to him almost all the time (when he's got credit), but it's not the same. Physical contact = always better.

[kakarrot]

I know it sucks :(

[MsMinxy]

thats the only thing i dont like about being at uni, miss my bf so so so so much. :crying: I dont no how wed cope if we couldnt see eachother for months on end, would be unbarable! but if you can do then good on you. you wont no if you dont give it ago.

[twisted_trinity]

i'm gonna give it a go.

he saw this and we talked about it.

it is so difficult without the phsical stuff though :(

and i really do like him sooooooo much.....

boo hooo :(

[Young and sexy]

If you can regularly meet up, it stands a chance of working, but you have to be determined and dead set that you want to make it work, 'cause if your hearts not in it 100% then it'll show. Kermit's right about physical contact though: If you can't meet often enough it may prove to be too tough. Stick at it though, I know how hard it is, I'm in the same situation. :(

[stargalaxy]

I've got a very special connection with a person that I know online and am very likely to be meeting up with her in the next few months. We've simply helped each other through difficult times and just fancied meeting each other.

[littlemissy]

The thing with internet relationships is that you cannot really call it a relationship until it is in the real world. You can have a connection with someone online or whatever but in reality you do not really know someone until you meet them IRL.

Only get together with this person if you are able to see them on a regular basis, if you are completely sure that this is what you want and if you are sure you have the time and effort for a LDR. Otherwise you may as well not do anything as there is no point. You will end up hurt.

LDRs do work, I am proof of this. They are *really* hard but they do work. As do meeting people online. It is ok to have a relationship with someone you met online but you need to take it into the real world too.

[otter]

A relationship without physical contact and physical intimacy is not a relationship.

i.e. You'll never get enough sex!

- not helpful, I know, but truthful none the less :D

[littlemissy]

Originally posted by otter
i.e. You'll never get enough sex!

- not helpful, I know, but truthful none the less :D

I disagree. Yes, you won't get enough sex but there are other things, just the odd kiss every so often or a cuddle when you are feeling down. These all count in the term physical contact. And you can't have a relationship without this.

When I was doing long distance it was horrid not being able to get a hug from my b/f when I was feeling really depressed on evening. Yes, I missed the sex, but I missed the hug more.

[Kermit]

Originally posted by otter
i.e. You'll never get enough sex!

- not helpful, I know, but truthful none the less :D

That isn't what I meant.

As littlemissy says, missing the sex is sometimes a drag. But there are telephones and hands;)

You can't have a cyber or a telephone cuddle.

[wheresmyplacebo]

Originally posted by Kermit
That isn't what I meant.

As littlemissy says, missing the sex is sometimes a drag. But there are telephones and hands;)

You can't have a cyber or a telephone cuddle.

sum it up really well :blush: