Getting along with your partners family

[spongebobsgirl]

ok, well ive been with my b/f for nearly a year now+spend alot of time round at his house. He lives with his grandparents+ive always gotten along ok with them. However last night his gran was really funny with me when we came home.
A couple of weeks ago me+him were working out how much money he'd have by august (he's been giving her £30 a week for holiday spending money), bcos we though he was gonna have to buy a new car. I wanted to know which week it'd be when he'd have to stop saving for a car+start saving for his hols, and she said to me (in a jokey kinda way) "its ok dear, you dont have to double check, i can count" i then explained that i was working out summat different+then wrote it down on the calendar.
That was 2weeks ago+nothing has been said about it.
Then, last night when he came home+gave her his rent money she asked him why he hadnt given her any savings this week+he said cos he'd had to do some work on his car this week. then (infront of me+him) she said "Well, someone must think im stupid cos they've written amounts of money on the calendar" she then turned around to look at me+said "either that or somebody must think that id steal money off my own grandson!!"
This really upset me, so me+him went up to his room.
Now, he says his gran doesn't dislike me, but i got really upset about it, bcos:
1 - she knew we were working out 2 different things
2 - it happened 2 weeks ago, so why mention it now
3 - she must think im horrible, if she thinks that i think she'd steal from her own grandson
I dont know what to do. Ive told my guy that im not gonna go round as much now, cos i just feel very unwelcome. I said goodbye to his gran this morning, when i took my b.f to work, and she said 'bye', so she isn't ignoring me!
What would you do in this situation - its really important to me that she likes me :confused: Sorry for rambling

[*TiNK*]

Have you tried talking to her? Just explain to her that you didnt mean to make her feel stupid, and your sorry. Tell her what you were working out and why, im sure she will understand :)

[spongebobsgirl]

Originally posted by *TiNK*
Have you tried talking to her? Just explain to her that you didnt mean to make her feel stupid, and your sorry. Tell her what you were working out and why, im sure she will understand :)

I dont really want to bcos im crap with this sorta stuff, i just know il burst into tears when i try to talk to her! Also, i dont understand why she's being wierd with me for this reason - it doesnt make sense as it was 2 weeks ago+she knew what i was doing! Im not going to my b.f's 2nite, gonna give her some space, but i may go tomo night!
i really dont want her to hate me, but she can be a little bit unsociable sometimes. Her+my b/f often row, and she interferes alot in his life. The other week she threw away a pressie id bought him when we'd been 2geva or 6months+said it was "useless crap+was cluttering up my b/f'd room", even though its been in the same place for the last half a year??

[SuzyCreamcheese]

I think you should just mention to her (as youre leaving or something) that you think youve had a misunderstanding somewhere, and you want to clear the air, because you really dont want there to be any bad feelings.

[BumbleBee]

Maybe she was saying it in a jokey way but you didn't pick up on it because you were so shocked she mentioned something?

[spongebobsgirl]

well i just spoke to him on the phone+apparently his gran said "Where's ur other half 2nite", cos i normally go his after work+he said "she's gone home, cos she's got an exam tomo morning" and she said "oh, erm, ok". Apparently, she asked if i was ok last night cos i seemed very quiet. I think it'll be ok, gonna just act normal tomo night+if she seems wierd towards me il apologise. thanx 4 all ur help ppl :thumb:

[ShyBoy]

old people are forgetful. fact. :razz:

[*TiNK*]

Originally posted by spongebobsgirl
well i just spoke to him on the phone+apparently his gran said "Where's ur other half 2nite", cos i normally go his after work+he said "she's gone home, cos she's got an exam tomo morning" and she said "oh, erm, ok". Apparently, she asked if i was ok last night cos i seemed very quiet. I think it'll be ok, gonna just act normal tomo night+if she seems wierd towards me il apologise. thanx 4 all ur help ppl :thumb:

Sounds to me, like she was joking when she mentioned it the other night :yes:

[spongebobsgirl]

this stinks, it really does. i went home last night+went his 2nite. Said hi when i walked in+she said hi back+seemed ok. Then me+my b.f went out to our local pub with some mates - same thing we do every tuesday night. When we went to leave we both said goodbye, but got no reply. My b.f though she was just watching tv, so he opened the living room door+had to say "bye nan" a further 6 times b4 she mumbled "oh..bye" in a really narky voice.
THEN, we came home about 11 and she'd gone to bed. My b/f unlocked the front door using his key, but couldnt open the door since she'd bolted it from the inside :eek2: She'd done the same to the back door+in the end he had to force the back door open. she's never locked him out in his 19 yrs of living there. he knows that if she ever goes to bed b4 we get in, then she'll lock the door, but wont put the bolt on+he's gotta bolt it when he's home! Ive come home again 2nite, i feel totally shit. I dont want this 2 affect our relationship, but me+my b.f are so used to sleeping next to each other every night.
Ive got exams and i dont need this stress :mad:

[*§atania*]

Lol c'mon she's an old granny (with all due respect). I don't think it's worth fretting about. Just ignore her.