sticky situation

[heartlessBYhim]

hey there!
just got back with my boyfriend of two years had after 5 months. both have slept with other people during that time. i have accepted that he did that and didnt have feelings for her. that is the same with both the guys i slept with. but my boyfriend got really clsoe to this other girl. while we were not going out he told me he had the same feeling with her as he had with me when we first met. which is hurtfull as what me and my boyfriend had was special. for him to have that with someone else is heartbreaking. he also told me she was hot and better looking than me. which kicked me in the gut. anyhow he is saying that becuase i slept with two guys i am a slut.(i think i was on the rebound even though i finished with him) i dont think i am a slut but he is finding this hard to forget but i told him i dint have the slightest feeling for the two guys. it hurts to think he had that with another girl but i accepted that happened.
so we are back now but he is never going to give up on making me feel worthless as of what i did.
makes it harder as we hardly have sex-see the post about love but no attraction. thats my wonderful boyfriend. please try and help us get through this sticky situation. hes definately worth it.

[perfect***day]

Why are you back together?

I'm not sure I understand. He thinks it's ok to for him to sleep with someone else, and yet not for you. He deliberately hurts you and put you down by telling you the other girl is prettier than you, and that he had something special with her. And he won't give up making you feel worthless. He sounds like a bit of a cock to be honest.

Why do you bother saying he's definitelty worth it? No man who puts you down like taht is worth it, and you shouldn't put up with it. There must have been good reason why you broke up; don't these still stand?

[g_angel]

Ok, quick post.

1. An ex- is an ex- for a reason.
2. Double standards are just bullshit.
3. If he keeps bringing it up - what's the point?
4. It sounds like he's playing the 'power' card by bringing you down with his comments = unacceptable.
5. I'd not bother honey. Get shut of him.

G.

P.S. I'm a bloke - just to clarify! Lol!

[Youwantromance?]

lol this post is so one sided and v unfair

[perfect***day]

Originally posted by Youwantromance?
lol this post is so one sided and v unfair
As in, we should take the ex's side? Going on what heartlessBYhim has posted, you surely have to admit it sounds like she's being trodden upon. Ok, so she's slept with someone else, but that doesn't make him an angel; and maybe it's another sign that he's just not good enough for her. We can only go on what's been said; do you have a problem with it?

[angel_2004]

Originally posted by g_angel007
Ok, quick post.

1. An ex- is an ex- for a reason.
2. Double standards are just bullshit.
3. If he keeps bringing it up - what's the point?
4. It sounds like he's playing the 'power' card by bringing you down with his comments = unacceptable.
5. I'd not bother honey. Get shut of him.

G.

P.S. I'm a bloke - just to clarify! Lol!

I have to say that I totally agree with this! Especially the 'an ex is an ex for a reason'. Its true. Sorry if it seems harsh but things seem to be on different paths for you both. If you both want to be together you need to work on things and he should stop putting you down. You need trust more than anything.

[*TiNK*]

No offence, but why are you with him if he puts you down all the time?

[big_man_with_a_]

Originally posted by perfect***day
Why are you back together?


first thing mentioned and gets straight to the point. makes perfect sense... get rid of him, like you did before. walk away and find someone several million times better, immature prick. :rolleyes:

[Youwantromance?]

Originally posted by perfect***day
As in, we should take the ex's side? Going on what heartlessBYhim has posted, you surely have to admit it sounds like she's being trodden upon. Ok, so she's slept with someone else, but that doesn't make him an angel; and maybe it's another sign that he's just not good enough for her. We can only go on what's been said; do you have a problem with it?

As a matter of bloody fact miss know it all, i do have a problem with it. I know this guy in real life and the whole truth is not being told here, like how this girl has cheated on her boyfirend a few times. He tries very hard to make her happy, you dont know the whole story. So just calm the heck down

[spongebobsgirl]

Originally posted by Youwantromance?
As a matter of bloody fact miss know it all, i do have a problem with it. I know this guy in real life and the whole truth is not being told here, like how this girl has cheated on her boyfirend a few times. He tries very hard to make her happy, you dont know the whole story. So just calm the heck down

To be honest, it sounds like these 2 people really aren't suited for each other. He treats her badly and cant accept she slept with another person, but on the other hand she has (apparently) cheated on him. I think it'd be best for both of them if they moved on and found other people to be with - maybe try to keep the friendship :confused:

[carolina_girl]

Ok... so we're not getting the full story (according to Youwantromance), but you never get the full story.

If sounds to me like there are way too many issues (on both sides) for y'all to try to be together. He can't get over that you slept with someone else, and it sounds like you can't get over the fact that he had feelings for someone else. It sounds doomed to me...

Really, consider everyone else's advise and move on with your life. Y'all are just going to make each other miserable and prolong the inevitable by staying together.