First Date!

[BumbleBee]

I'm going on a date tonight with this bloke and I'm am really, really nervous. I've never been out with anyone other than my ex boyfriend before and I'm so scared!

We've never met face to face before but have been speaking online and talking for hours on the phone. I just keep thinking 'what if he doesn't like me?'. I am going to be so embarrassed meeting him for the first time because I don't have much confidence in the way I look in particular.

So, two things; does anyone have any advice for me and can you share your first date experiences?

[lucifer devil]

Well, I met this lad out just about a year and a few months ago when me and some friends got a mini-bus to a nearby city. For about a year, we'd txt when I could be arsed and then march just gone, I started thinking he was actually quite nice. Thing is I couldn't remember what he looked like, and I remember being very drunk. This might sound sad, but he posted me a photo of himself and well, I hadn't done badly considering how drunk I would've been! So I sent some back of me and then we spoke on the phone for ages a few times and met up the following week. I wasn't too worried, 'cause we'd spoken on the phone and I'd known him quite a while and he already knew what I looked like. Anyway er, I think what I've just written is a bit irrelevant. :\

Where are you going? We went to the pub and then the cinema which was nice, 'cause going to the pub gives you chance to talk and get to know eachother. For my first ever date, I went to a resteraunt which was god awful, 'cause he sat watching me eat. :eek2:

The best tip I could give really is to be yourself and have fun.

[Poison_Girl666]

ooo first date jitters!love em! hehe. hmmm. well its basically a kind of blind date then yeh? as you've not met face to face before.....
ive been in that situation- whereby i met this guy whilst hiring a local band for my party- was a friend of a friend etc..etc.. we talked on msn and on the phone for ages (like you and your dude) without actually meeting up first! we eventually decided to meet up, i was so nervous i nearly chickened out but i thought no.im going to do this-because of the connection we had on an emotional/intellectual it just seemed right. i didnt have any expectations of what he might look like, i went in with an open mind and he did the same. i turned up about 5ish minutes late so i could spot him first heehee.

anyway! turns out we both clicked even more on our date,somehow our physical appearances didnt matter to each other as we still had that connection - so we ended up going out for about a year!

so huni, my advice to you would be- to go in there with an open mind. remember that you already click on a deeper level so appearances wont matter! be confident with yourself, and just be yourself!its one of those experiences that you have to just go with the flow and have fun too, im sure you wil be fine and you'l have a fab date! let me know how it goes- i hope ive helped a lil ... :)
xx

[BumbleBee]

We're going to the cinema but we're going for a drink in the cinema bar beforehand.

I am so nervous. We know what one another looks like but I have more of an idea what he looks like as he showed me millions of pictures of him in varying states whereas I've only ever shown him pictures of me looking all dressed up, with my makeup done nicely and hair done.... so I don't want him to turn up to pick me up and think 'jeez, those pictures were deceiving' - thats my main worry.

[BumbleBee]

Originally posted by Poison_Girl666
so huni, my advice to you would be- to go in there with an open mind. remember that you already click on a deeper level so appearances wont matter! be confident with yourself, and just be yourself!its one of those experiences that you have to just go with the flow and have fun too, im sure you wil be fine and you'l have a fab date! let me know how it goes- i hope ive helped a lil ... :)
xx

Yeah you have, thanks. :)

I know what you mean about having a deeper connection. We can get on really well on the phone so hopefully we should get on ok in person, and if we don't, he lives far enough away that I''l never see him again, lol.... oh except he's a regular in the only bar in town I ever visit (although I've never seen him I have to admit!)

[katchika]

what are you going to see?

You are gonna do your hair and make up tonight aren't you, so you will look just as good as in the photos.

If you get on on the phone, that's a good sign that you will find lots to talk about.

[BumbleBee]

Originally posted by PussyKatty
what are you going to see?

The Day After Tomorrow.

[lucifer devil]

i'm sure he'll think you're lovely, he obviously likes you 'cause you're meeting up after he's seen your photo. i know you've said you were all done up, so get a bit done up for the date. if it'll make you a bit more confident then it's worth it.

[wee wuman]

just go for it and good luck. make an effort but make sure you are wearing something comfortable or you will probably just be desperate to get home. he probably has the same worries as you do.
i worried when i asked my fiance out. i thought he was stunning and im nowt special and was sure he would say no but he didnt and 7 years on we are still together. he probably thinks he isnt that great looking either although ive never asked him.
the first time we went out we decided on a film and when we got there the woman tells us "it isnt on til tomorrow" and there was nothing else decent on, we didnt have a clue what to do so we ended up driving about in his car just chatting and it was an excuse to go out again the next night.

[ClaireBear]

Hiya,
I'm not trying to be a party pooper here (did I really just write that..?!) but please check out this article (http://www.thesite.org/youthnet/jsp/polopoly.jsp?d=272&a=792) before you go.

Oh and I hope it goes well,
CB

[wheresmyplacebo]

a date after knowing him on internet - if this is cause if it a inperson mate of one of your mates introduced you etc thats alright but if he jsut a net guy - just go as mates



and if it a is a date - keep an open mind! i say - always works a charm cant be disapoointed then

[lucifer devil]

oh yeh i forgot about that bit, make sure someone knows where you're going and what time etc.

[*TiNK*]

Originally posted by lucifer devil
'cause he sat watching me eat. :eek2:


I hate that so much! I refuse to go to restaraunts with people other than my mates and my family. I couldnt face it with a fella watching me eat. Then again, i get shy about the thought of going to a restaraunt or something with a fella :blush:

[BumbleBee]

Originally posted by wheresmyplacebo
a date after knowing him on internet - if this is cause if it a inperson mate of one of your mates introduced you etc thats alright but if he jsut a net guy - just go as mates


Hmmm, well I didn't take that advice and I'm pretty glad I didn't!!


Well people, it went really well. He's amazing and he likes me back! We're going to date for a while and take things from there but he made me feel really special and he likes me for me, which can only be a good thing!

We're going out again tonight! Hehe! :)

[lucifer devil]

Originally posted by *TiNK*
I hate that so much! I refuse to go to restaraunts with people other than my mates and my family. I couldnt face it with a fella watching me eat. Then again, i get shy about the thought of going to a restaraunt or something with a fella :blush:

it was awful, the worst thing is i ended up hardly eating any of my meal. :mad:


glad it went well BumbleBee. :D