advice please

[angel_2004]

Hey! I have a bit of a dilemma. Well not a dilemma but just something that is playing on my mind. The guy im seeing works in the same place as me and we see eachother a lot so things are going great, and im thinking of sleeping with him. We've both talked about it etc but recently hes just told me that hes got the interview hes wanted and if he gets the job he'd have to go away. I dont know when, maybe winter or next summer or maybe even sooner I dont know. He wants to b a hol rep and so if he gets the job then he'll go cos we're only really a new develpoment and hes turned down the job a couple years ago cos he was in a serious relationship. So I know that if he gets it he will go. The thing is id be so gutted now if he left, but then I thought itd be so much worse if i had slept with him as id be more emotionally involved etc. I dont really know what to do, just wanted some advice. Either way its guna hurt if he leaves but can see how it would be worse if things were to progress further with us. We're not in a relationship and so im hoping as time goes on he'd want me to be more of a part of his life. Im confused as to what to do! Sorry this is so long but had to explain the situation!:(

[Carolina]

If you can end this now and walk away then i give you credit because i wouldn't be able to manage it, unfortunately it's part of being female we get attached to things easily :D

Joking aside, if he does get the job like you said he probably won't go until at the earliest winter time. So why not just relax and stop thinking of the what if's and enjoy the time you have together. Life's too short to try and plan the future. You never know maybe in four months time you could be really happy together or you could have split etc. No point in worrying about something that might not happen.

The sleeping together is fully your choice. Your hearts involved anyway so it depends on whether you feel ready to sleep with him.

[angel_2004]

Thanx a lot for reply! Was good one! Yeah i think that either way my heart is in it already, although could see it being worse further down the line. :( Thanx a lot for reply! Was good one!originally posted by Carolina :no:
If you can end this now and walk away then i give you credit because i wouldn't be able to manage it, unfortunately it's part of being female we get attached to things easily
I dont think I could walk away now! Im not strong enough! Also I enjoy spending time with him. What do you think you would do in a similar situation? As for the sleeping with him, I do feel ready but am more worried now with thinkin how much more emotionally involved i'll be if he has to go away. But then anything could happen so maybe I should not think the worst and be a bit more positive! Usually helps to prepare for the worst if think its not goin to work out, but I want it to! Okay im guna shut up now! Thanx for your advice. :) Hope you can reply.