In love but no attraction??

[Youwantromance?]

Hi people, i have a problem on my hands. Iv been with my gf for on and off 2 years. We get on really really well, definately the best of friends, always kissing and cuddling. We had a five month split in which both of us slept with others,,,

Well when it comes to sex my gf basically told me that she doesnt fancy me as much anymore and barely wants to have sex with me, and when she does it hurts. This deeply upsets me as i feel so low that she doesnt fancy me anymore and i dont know what to do. I always try and look my best but it doesnt seem to work, she only seems to want sex when she is drunk. The thing is aside from sex the realtionship is fine, we always get on most of the time. She blames the sex being painful on the length of my dick but i sometimes wonder...

I dont know how to solve this as i cant really do anything about it, its getting me very depressed.Can anyone give me some advice?:(


p.s Sorry if this is in the wrong forum as i wasnt sure which one to put it in

[BumbleBee]

Perhaps she is saying she doesn't find you as attractive as an excuse not to have sex because it is painful for her? That might also explain why she only wants sex when drunk - to numb the pain.

Try different positions to accomodate the length better. :)

[~lil*butterfly~]

Have you tried talking to her, telling her how much she means to you and how hurt you are? It might be that she still fancies you but just doesn't want sex, which is understandable if she finds it painful. There could be lots of reasons why sex is hurting, and your size could be one of them. I have this problem with my boyfriend and its totally fixable by trying different positions etc. Good luck

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[Youwantromance?]

I have spoken to her several times, we have a very open realtionship. She knows how hurt i am, but she is just being honest.

Perhaps the non fancying is associated with the pain? That does make me feel better but it may be hopeful thinking.
I think im gonna just let her come to me when shes ready, and hopefully try and take things a lot slower. The thing is sometimes she wont tell me that it hurts and i think shes enjoying it when im hurting her:( .

Besides from this we are fine so heres hoping, thanks for all your helpful replies:D


Anyone else is free to contribute:cool:

[~lil*butterfly~]

Originally posted by Youwantromance?
The thing is sometimes she wont tell me that it hurts and i think shes enjoying it when im hurting her:( .


I've done that with my boyfriend. I felt guilty and didn't want to spoil it for him, so I didn't say anything. I just needed reasurance that he loves me and that he'd rather stop than hurt me.


If you both love each other, I'm sure you'll work through this in the end :)

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