Age Difference?

[JayZ]

To cut a story short.
Fallen in love with a lovely girl and she feels the same.
The problem... shes 16 and im nearly 25.
Nearly nine years difference.
Too me i see it as a large age gap and feel i should go out with someone my own age.
But i cant help stop thinking about her and she feels the same.
Im stuck in a ruck.
What are your opinions on age differences?
Does it matter?

Cheers.

[solid_L]

a toughee to me, i guess in 15 years, ull be 40 she'll be 31 n no1 would bat an eyelid, but they would now:rolleyes:

To me, I think it depends on maturity, she might be really mature for her age but most people would frown upon the age difference. Personally, i think you should try and find a girl your own age, but, what can I say, whos not a sucka for love?

[lucifer devil]

I don't think it matters, no. Aslong as you don't make a big deal of it. If you're suited to eachother and what not, go for it. Just make sure you both want the same things.

[sillystring]

i agree with solid_l but i would say that its be wise for you to wait fer her to reach 18. that way you're both covering your backs for not quite so pleased rents that might disagree with the age gap. but go with what feels RIGHT...good luck either way.

[BeckyBoo]

I dont think her parents would be happy, I wouldnt be.

I personally think the age difference would probs cause problems. She is only 16, she is going to want to have fun, go out with her mates and do stuff that younger people do. Your 25, probably wanting to do what adults do like go to the pub ?

Nah, I think she is too young for you..........sorry.

If she was in her 20's and you were in your 30's then things would be different but as it stands a 16 yr old with a 25 yr old is just too much of a gap.

[JayZ]

Thanks for the replies.
Its in my mind all the time thats shes too young for me to be honest.
I guess we will have to have a chat. :(

[PartyAnimal1245]

If you both love each other as much as it seems you do, no, it doesn't matter. I'm 19, and my chick is 22, and we love each other to pieces.

[g_angel]

Yes it does matter. 19 and 22 is nothing as you are both at similar places in your life...

16 and 25 is just too big a gap.

Crap as it is, it just ain't right to start a relationship.

[lucifer devil]

Originally posted by g_angel007
16 and 25 is just too big a gap.

Okay, I agree to that to some extent, but there's a bout 12 years between my Dad and his Fiancee. Do you still see that as a problem?

[SuzyCreamcheese]

Youre both adults, even if she is only just an adult. I dont think its morally wrong or anything, but theres a big risk you are going to find a lot of the things she does a bit immature and expect her to act more adult than she needs to at her age.
I dont think theres a lot of hope but if you both really like each other then go for it - just dont hold out any false hopes.

[g_angel]

Some people fail to grasp that the difference becomes less of an issue the older you get.

I'm taking a wild guess here that your dad is at least in his 30's (most likely 40's) which would mean that his fiance is in her 20's or 30's. Soooooooo not an issue then.

16 and 25 is still just wrong to my eyes. Legally it's fine. Morally, for me, it's wrong as she still has a hell of a lot of living and growing up to do which he has already done!

[lucifer devil]

Originally posted by g_angel007
Some people fail to grasp that the difference becomes less of an issue the older you get.

I'm taking a wild guess here that your dad is at least in his 30's (most likely 40's) which would mean that his fiance is in her 20's or 30's. Soooooooo not an issue then.

16 and 25 is still just wrong to my eyes. Legally it's fine. Morally, for me, it's wrong as she still has a hell of a lot of living and growing up to do which he has already done!

My Dad's in his late 40's and his fiancee's in her early 30's. You say it's fine in her 20's to 30's - so at 18, 19 it wouldn't be acceptable?!

I think it's fine aslong as they understand what they want and love eachother.

[g_angel]

My god lass... Talk about wanting to go over things again and again!

To me, somebody of say, 18/19 seeing somebody of 23/24 is pretty much ok. They are a bit closer in mentality. Oh - and no, I don't think it's really right somebody of 19/20 seeing somebody in their 30's - but mid 20's would be fine. Again - mental gaps. When it comes down to this though, in this case they are both consenting adults.

People always forget that people change a huge amount over the ages of 16-18/19. The way they look at things, act etc etc etc.

Your dad and his fiance are not an issue - I really don't know why you brought that up to be honest! You *know* that an age gap at that age is just not an issue!

You are still a minor up until you are 18. I honestly think that anybody under 18 should really stick to people of roughly the same age! Somebody of 16 should not, in my eyes, be seeing somebody older than say, 19 as from then on the difference is just too great.

Rainbowbrite - they are NOT both adults - he is, she isn't. That, to me is a pretty decisive factor in my reasoning...

People are always trying to grow up too quickly.

I would personally leave the girly to enjoy her teenage years as she should be. Nothing personal but go for somebody closer to your own age.

G.

[g_angel]

Oh - and how can your dad be in his late 40's and his fiance in her early 30's if there is a 12 year age gap.

The maths doesn't work girly!

[ShyBoy]

Im 16 and I have a friend whos 13 and ive got loads of crap just for that, been called perve in the corridors at school etc. But they do have a point - if she was older I would go out with her because she's soooo sweet and you get that 'feeling' I guess. She's great as a close friend though.

Up to you - I'd personally say don't becuase I reckon it will backfire.

[Lickalotapuss]

I say if it feels right go for it.

I don't agree with g_angel007 's "laws", there is no set down rule of how much you relate to each other at what age. That is just a massive generalisation of peoples mentality at different ages. Everyone grows up and matures differently. You'll find a 16yr old who acts like a 12yr old and you'll find a 16yr old that acts like a 20yr old. You just can't say everyone is the same cos they are not. Ok Boy-oh :p

I'm not far off being 22, my GF's just turned 17, I've being with her 2yrs. We get on excellently, doesn't really fit into your "rules" :
You are still a minor up until you are 18. I honestly think that anybody under 18 should really stick to people of roughly the same age! Somebody of 16 should not, in my eyes, be seeing somebody older than say, 19 as from then on the difference is just too great.

[Makoto]

There's nothing wrong with that... as long as you are 16+ go for it. Altough you will proberly find that you will grow apart as you are only young and you will want different things. Don't matter what anyone else says because you are the one who has got to go out with the girl, nobody else.

[g_angel]

Originally posted by Lickalotapuss
I say if it feels right go for it.

I don't agree with g_angel007 's "laws", there is no set down rule of how much you relate to each other at what age. That is just a massive generalisation of peoples mentality at different ages. Everyone grows up and matures differently. You'll find a 16yr old who acts like a 12yr old and you'll find a 16yr old that acts like a 20yr old. You just can't say everyone is the same cos they are not. Ok Boy-oh :p

I'm not far off being 22, my GF's just turned 17, I've being with her 2yrs. We get on excellently, doesn't really fit into your "rules" :

Ok - so you were 19/20 and your girlfriend was 15?! I'm not *surprised* that you don't agree with me as you're LIVING what I'm talking about FFS!! lol!

Your situation is not exactly the same though. 21 and 17 is SOOOO not the same as 16 and 25! 4 years to 9 years - bit of a difference matey. I know how I have changed even over the last couple of years etc... I just think that much of a gap (9 years is HUGE) is just far too much, far too young!

Oh - they're not my laws, just my opinion - which is something that I am free to state on here. :)

My current situation is I am 24 and my lass is 26. All good. I'm not looking at this from the perspective of somebody a lot older, frowning upon the younger generation, I just know that there is no way that I, personally, would even consider embarking upon anything with anybody under the age of around 22 to be honest. Personal opinion. Not law. Simple.

Really though - I'm 25 in a couple of months and I've chatted to a few girls in clubs etc that have turned out to be very young and mentally they just haven't had it up there which shows! It's just something that comes with age/experience etc etc.= hence why I'm with a woman that's a little older.

Oh - and no, I wouldn't have dreamed of seeing somebody of 17 when I was 21... and definitely never with anybody under 16 if I was any much older than 16. This is just something I feel strongly about... People trying to grow up too young and 'missing out' on their childhood.

Ah - opinions and opinions. I just think that at his age he should be looking at somebody that will have more in common in general.

G.

[lipsy]

i had just turned 18 when i started going out with a 26year old. his lifestyle was completley different to mine and i had to grow up and act mature! only lasted a year because we were on different paths and stages in life.

i doubt it would work out and really she is a child. but hey, give it a go theres nowt to lose.

[Lickalotapuss]

Originally posted by g_angel007
Ah - opinions and opinions. I just think that at his age he should be looking at somebody that will have more in common in general.
He states in his first post that he is in love with her and she feels the same. Got to have something in common for them both to fall in love with each other.

My opinion is to go for it mate, you may come across a lot of narrow minded people who can't see past the "age difference" but fuck em, follow your heart, you are not doing anything lawfully or morally wrong imo.

My Girl mates dad is getting married to a girl the same age as my mate. Good for him, she is a nice looking lass and I just hope I can still pull em like that when i reach his age.

[g_angel]

Heh - I did say "more in common in general".

Of course you can have *something* in common with somebody 9 years younger than you at that age, but I just don't see exactly how you could have enough to hold a relationship together!

I'm not narrow minded at all, either (you'd be bloody surprised if I told all)... This is just something I have strong opinions on! Heh... I would not be able to sit there and listen to her chunter on about what her and her mates did at school that day when i've most likely got mortgage issues etc on my mind. Just two different worlds, two far apart.

............I was gonna mention her going on about who fancies who or bitching about somebody - then I remembered that women just carry on doing than anyway, it's not soley reserved to teenagers! HAhhahahahaahahaha :D :) ;)

I've said my piece - I just don't think he should bother. Too much, too young.

[Olive]

i agree with the angel.

i know 25 year old guys, and i have been a 16 year old girl, and there is a massive difference between what they expect in a relationship.

she's just a kid. she probably has a million crushes a day, and will fall desperately in love every 12 seconds. she wants a bit of fun, nothing too serious, no pressure. wants to hang out with her mates lots, be silly, do things that young girls do.

he's 25. he's maybe getting to a point in his life where he's starting to take responsibility. maybe thinking about buying a house, or possibly settling down with a girl? thinking about his career, those kinds of things. he's more likely to want a mature relationship - sex, nights out, diy on a sunday? seems great now, but when the novelty has worn off, her giggly immaturity is really going to get on his tits.


when i was 16, i was seeing a 19 year old, and even that turned out to be too much of a gap. and i was fairly mature for my age, and he was pretty immature. still too different.

maybe in a few year, when she's an adult, it'll be a different story. but now my prediction is for trouble.

[Carolina]

I think a lot of the time it depends on the individuals. At 16 i was a pretty level headed mature 16 year old and dated people older than me and while i was obviously less mature it wasn't so much of a gap that it caused too many problems.
But i know someone who is my age (23) and he's seeing a 16 year old and it just doesn't seem right. Mainly because she's a very immature 16 and he's a slag who's arse the sunshines out of because she's too young to realise what he's like. This is where i think age gaps matter, maybe because the youngsters haven't got experience behind them to judge the situation as well. But to be truthful he's fooled many women and not all of them 16.

I'd probably say hey why not but that's me, i've never had problems with age gaps when it comes to me dating people. I would have to say that though as my partners 39 ;) Practice what you preach eh.

[SuzyCreamcheese]

Originally posted by g_angel007

Rainbowbrite - they are NOT both adults - he is, she isn't. That, to me is a pretty decisive factor in my reasoning...

.
hmm dunno, shes old enough to leave home, get married if she wants blah blah, i guess it depends on what shes like as a person, whether shes very childlike or not. I know when I was 16 I left home, i was living with someone and I was doing my own thing, In all honesty in a lot of ways I dont feel that different now at 27 than I did at 16/17 except im a bit more settled.
At 16 I think its up to her who she sees, and if she wants to go out with a 25 year old, then theres nothing wrong with that, all im saying is that it probably wont last, but she might not be bothered about that - hes likely to be more bothered about that possibility at his age. I dont think its ideal to have a large age gap like that, but its definitely not morally wrong unless one person is coercing the other, and it would be wrong if they got together and he made her grow up before her time.

[wheresmyplacebo]

Originally posted by JayZ
Thanks for the replies.
Its in my mind all the time thats shes too young for me to be honest.
I guess we will have to have a chat. :(


he looks like he really likes her and has some morals so poor him... but maybe in a couple of years time :P

[Brummy Bird]

I can see what some people are saying bout her only being 16 and that, but at the end of the day it is upto the two individuals involved.

When i was 16 I was seeing a kid of 23, my dad didnt really like it but i carried on anyway cuz i liked him. We only lasted 4 months cuz we both wanted different things. When i was 18 I got with my current fella who was 25, which is almost a 7 year age gap again bar a few months, but we've been together gettin on two years now, and were still happy. My dad gets on with him really well and isnt really bothered bout the age gap now.

So at the end of the day its totally up to you and how u feel :)

[lucifer devil]

Originally posted by g_angel007
Oh - and how can your dad be in his late 40's and his fiance in her early 30's if there is a 12 year age gap.

The maths doesn't work girly!

well, i think she's 34 and he's 47 so that equals 13. no need to be picky. :(


edited to say, i only said 'about 12 years'. :p

[BeckyBoo]

Originally posted by rainbow brite
Youre both adults, even if she is only just an adult.

I normally agree with a lot of what you say but at 16 she aint an adult, she is a teenager, even if she is a mature 16 yr old it dont make no difference. She's an adult when she's 18.

[PositivePain]

If it's really meant to be, you can wait till she's 18. There is just no way a 16 year old can know what she wants in a relationship. I'd venture a guess that she barely knows who she is yet, let alone what she wants in someone else. If you really love her, you'll give her the time she needs (that she probably doesn't even know she needs) to be her young self.
There's 8 year's difference between me and my guy, and even at 25 and 33, the issue comes up every now and then (although, it does make things spicy!). It's a factor we must be sensitive about every time a major decision is made. It takes patience, bravery and a deep willingness to be understanding (not just with each other, but with everyone in your community that it will effect) for something like that to work. Life doesn't need to be that heavy. Give it time. Besides, waiting makes the take that much sweeter. ;)

[lucifer devil]

Originally posted by BeckyBoo
I normally agree with a lot of what you say but at 16 she aint an adult, she is a teenager, even if she is a mature 16 yr old it dont make no difference. She's an adult when she's 18.

some people would say you're not an adult till you're 21 though. i suppose when you're 18, you're still a teenager 'cause you're eighteen but i never hear people say you're an adult when you're 20. maybe the teen bit has nothing to do with it afterall!

[ryoko_rock]

If you both like each other, you get on well, and she's mature enough, then just go for it. My mum and Dad are 8 years apart!!

actually, they've split now...and she's with a guy who's more than 8 years apart from her... haha.

I don't think the age gap makes a difference at all, if you feel right together then it shouldn't be an issue :)

[crescendo]

I'm sorry but thats just shocking. I fail to understand how a 25 year old man could have even reached the point of flirting with a 16 year old girl, let along start loving her.

I'm just wondering how you met her?

Most people in their early 20s would hardly come into contact with 16 year olds in a socialising sense. They probably go uni/work, and the 16 year olds still go school.
You can't meet them at the pub/club cuz they're too young, so how did you even meet her, let alone talk to her, let alone get flirty with her, let alone start loving her....?

I agree with Kaffrin, she probably has a millions crushes a day.

*Why do I ALWAYS read Kaffrin's name as...... Karrafin??? :crazyeyes *

[rachie004]

I read the first page of replies and I can't be bothered to read the rest...

I don't have a problem with it because at the end of the day your relationship with your girlfriend has fuck all to do with me or anyone else!

Honestly, I think it depends, she could be very mature for her age but then again she could be very immature, likewise, you might not act your age.


of course I'm biased because I, myself am in a relationship where there is a substanstial age gap! :p

[SuzyCreamcheese]

Originally posted by BeckyBoo
I normally agree with a lot of what you say but at 16 she aint an adult, she is a teenager, even if she is a mature 16 yr old it dont make no difference. She's an adult when she's 18.
see it must be just a matter of opinion then. I think 16 year olds should be able to make choices for themselves and make their own mistakes. Even if she looks back in a few years and thinks `god that was a mistake`, its all a learning process, and she shouldnt be stopped from experimenting and seeing who she likes.
Ive done plenty of things you lot would seriously disapprove of, I look back and think a lot of it I would have done differently given the chance again, but then on the other hand, past experiences have made me who I am today.
I dont think a 16 year old having a relationship with a 25 year old is going to ruin her life, unless he stops her from doing what she wants and trying to get her to settle down, because hes at a different stage in life to her. As long as hes not being abusive or coercive then theres nothing wrong IMO. Just because hes older doesnt mean hes any more likely to do that.

[dr_smith]

Irrelevant of whatever your personal tastes may be, you've got to agree that he's found someone who's simple existence makes him happy.

And that's marvellous :D

[dr_smith]

I guess you just have to put up with a certain number of raised eyebrows. I still don't see anything wrong with it (as long as both parties are 16+!!!)

[g_angel]

I would agree more with that statement if you changed the age to 18+.

16 = kid - no matter what anybody says
18 = "adult"

[Sera]

When I first started dating my boyfriend I was 16 and he was nearly 19. At times that's even been too big an age gap. There's a lot of things that I'm completely clueless about that he just expects me to know, and often we have totally different points of view, purely because he's had more experience of the world than I have.

It would also depend on how streetwise she is. My boyfriend's parents were married when his mum was 16, and they were pretty happy then. But she was very streetwise - if the girl's still at school and still very much a child then it seems unlikely, to me, that it's going to work out. You'd both be wanting different things from the relationship. You also have to look at how it would affect your reputations - I know it's not supposed to be an issue, but if you're both going to get a lot of stick from your mates for the age gap then it could eventually begin to bother you.

Most people, at 16 though, are still pretty "young". And at 25 you tend to be a LOT more grown up, therefore there probably is too big a gap.

[Shogun]

If you love her go for it, seriously though, if you really love this girl then stay with her, she could be the one for you. Do her parents know about you?

Does anyone think an 18yr old going out with a 15 yr old is a big age difference?

[rachie004]

Originally posted by Shogun
Does anyone think an 18yr old going out with a 15 yr old is a big age difference?

It's still only 3 years but the maturity levels will probably be different (actually if the 18 year old is a boy then they'll prolly be much the same :p )

I don't have a problem with it if the 15 year old is mature enough

and 16 = old enough by law to have a child, fortunately people suffer from individuality so you can't tarnish everyone with the same brush

( and I hate that saying )

[Namaste]

Debatable... sorry, but I don't think any woman is fully mature at 16... it'd be like dating a kid in my opinion. I mean I never realised the age gap when I was 16 but even at twenty I can see the difference in maturity of people (I'm in college).

I mean go for it if you want, but if I were in your position I wouldn't. People are still naieve at 16, I mean how many 16 year olds know what they want from life at that age? How many are 100% aware of their sexuality, of who they are?

No offense, just an opinion based on life. I know people in relationships that have bigger age gaps that do Ok.

Does anyone think an 18yr old going out with a 15 yr old is a big age difference?

Not if you're a pikey :lol: (jk)

[solid_L]

Originally posted by TheShyBoyInTheCorner
Im 16 and I have a friend whos 13

Lol, i thought I'd typed that bladdered, n not remembered it - coz I'm exactly the same, ive got a friend I flirt with whos 13 n im 16, but only messin around etc. n just good m8's. I don't really get called a perve for it though. N if i did I would laugh it off:D

Anyone noticed that it seems to be the older generation which seem to find the age more of an issue than the younger people on the forum.... maybe because they may be parents and had these worries themselves....

just a thought

[dr_smith]

actually if the 18 year old is a boy then they'll prolly be much the same

HARSH... (but fair)

[dominatrix]

Originally posted by Shogun
Does anyone think an 18yr old going out with a 15 yr old is a big age difference?

Yes. I'm 18, my 2 kinda major relationships have been with boys who are now 17. That's probably the youngest I would go; maybe 16. But I have a completely different life to those lads now. When I went out with them I was at 6th form and they were at school, and now they're at 6th form and I'm at uni, and I think that's partly what broke me and my last boyfriend up. :( But on the other hand... if the person who made the thread and this girl are in love then it's blatant stupidity for them not to give it a go.

[BeckyBoo]

Originally posted by solid_L
Anyone noticed that it seems to be the older generation which seem to find the age more of an issue than the younger people on the forum.... maybe because they may be parents and had these worries themselves....


Not just because we may be parents part is because we have been 25 and we know what its like to be 25. I cannot understand why a 25yr old would be interested in a kid, unless its like to have some trophy on their arm kinda thing............sorry but if she was 18/19 and he was 25/26 then id think totally different, at 18/19 she is an adult and will have properly matured (hopefully) ;)

[rachie004]

but who is to say how mature the 16 year old will be??? I was more mature at 16 than some 19 year olds I know now!

[BeckyBoo]

Originally posted by rachie004
but who is to say how mature the 16 year old will be??? I was more mature at 16 than some 19 year olds I know now!

Nobody can say really, but if we base it on an age thing then a 16 yr old needs to be meeting people somewhere near her own age, not someone who is 9 years older. A 25 yr old has had his fun and should let the 16 yr old have her fun. If they happen to meet up in a couple of years and they wanna carry on then go for it, but just wait that bit of time.

[SuzyCreamcheese]

Originally posted by BeckyBoo
Not just because we may be parents part is because we have been 25 and we know what its like to be 25. I cannot understand why a 25yr old would be interested in a kid, unless its like to have some trophy on their arm kinda thing............sorry but if she was 18/19 and he was 25/26 then id think totally different, at 18/19 she is an adult and will have properly matured (hopefully) ;)
thing is im an old fart, and I dont see the difference between someone my age (nearly 28) and a 20 year old. Ive got friends who are 18 and 20, and I dont really see myself as any different mentally, apart from ive got a kid so I dont have the freedom they do. I know i didnt have as much life experience at 16/17 and therefore was more immature in that way, but I had older friends when I was 16, Ive always been able to hold my own in intelligent conversations even at that age. I dont think he should push to go out with the 16 year old, but leave the ball in her court and see what she wants to do, because at the end of the day, shes the only one whos likely to get hurt in this at all.

[BeckyBoo]

Originally posted by rainbow brite
because at the end of the day, shes the only one whos likely to get hurt in this at all.

Agree totally and then have her growing up thinking all men are Bastards.

[solid_L]

Originally posted by BeckyBoo
Not just because we may be parents part is because we have been 25 and we know what its like to be 25. I cannot understand why a 25yr old would be interested in a kid, unless its like to have some trophy on their arm kinda thing............sorry but if she was 18/19 and he was 25/26 then id think totally different, at 18/19 she is an adult and will have properly matured (hopefully) ;)

not disagreeing with you hun, just an observation that there seems to be a divide in this thread

[CheeseOnToast]

My girlfriend not long ago turned 17 and I'm 20. Not 21 until November but even I sometime feel out of place being with her!

Get this, she used to go out with a 35 year old right after her 16th birthday, and she was sleeping with him.. and he knew her for like 4/5 years before hand..

Does anyone else think that is a tad FUCKED up?

[1983]

Originally posted by CheeseOnToast
My girlfriend not long ago turned 17 and I'm 20. Not 21 until November but even I sometime feel out of place being with her!

Get this, she used to go out with a 35 year old right after her 16th birthday, and she was sleeping with him.. and he knew her for like 4/5 years before hand..

Does anyone else think that is a tad FUCKED up?

It is a bit, but I think you should confront her with this if you're still bothered by it, rather than flaming her for her past.

[rachie004]

Originally posted by CheeseOnToast
Does anyone else think that is a tad FUCKED up?

the jumping into bed bit yes..

him being 35 and her being 16 no

[CheeseOnToast]

I'm not flaming her for her past, her past is her past and it can stay there.

We have had a lot of conversations about it so it's all OK.

Personally, my younger sister is 16 and I think for anyone to be looking at her in that way who is 35 years old in my books is as good as a pedophile, and I'd soon be building a patio in my garden if anyone did go for her who was that old..

When my girlfriend would be turning his age now, he'd be 54!

IMO, sicko.

[1983]

Different strokes for different fowks.

Whatchu talkin' bout, Willis!

Anyways, my sister had a Sugar Daddy when she was 17, he was like..40 odds.

She says it's an experience however it would just sicken me, unless it was Brad Pitt, or Bruce Willis..:flirt:..I'd be WELL into frolicking toward the sack with either one..or both at the same time..:chin:

[solid_L]

Originally posted by 1983
She says it's an experience however it would just sicken me, unless it was Brad Pitt, or Bruce Willis..:flirt:..I'd be WELL into frolicking toward the sack with either one..or both at the same time..:chin:

:lol: :lol: :lol:

[Sera]

Originally posted by rainbow brite
I know i didnt have as much life experience at 16/17 and therefore was more immature in that way, but I had older friends when I was 16, Ive always been able to hold my own in intelligent conversations even at that age.

I'm 18, and I certainly don't feel grown up at all. I've always been mature for my age, yet I'm still pretty naive. Maybe that's just the type of person I am though. Hmm. I couldn't see me dating anyone older than my boyfriend (he'll be 21 in July).

Someone said something about the 16 year old wanting to go out clubbing and the 25 year old wanting to go to pubs. I can honestly say I've never had the urge to go clubbing, and would much rather go for a nice chat in the pub anyday. So in that way they may not be that different.

[Shogun]

At the end of the day if the thread maker here loves this girl then he won't be able to stop the relationship, they will miss each other too much.

[PartyAnimal1245]

Originally posted by CheeseOnToast

Personally, my younger sister is 16 and I think for anyone to be looking at her in that way who is 35 years old in my books is as good as a pedophile

I agree. That is pretty fucked up.

[swank]

*blank*

[rachie004]

if a guy who be 35 goes out with a girl who be 16, how does that make him a paedophile?

yeah yeah at 16 she could still be seen in the eyes of the law as a child, but at 16 she is at the age of 16 and most likely won't look like a child..

I think a saying he's a paedophile is way harsh

[Sera]

Originally posted by rachie004
if a guy who be 35 goes out with a girl who be 16, how does that make him a paedophile?

In America it's spelt without the A.

[CheeseOnToast]

Originally posted by rachie004
if a guy who be 35 goes out with a girl who be 16, how does that make him a paedophile?

yeah yeah at 16 she could still be seen in the eyes of the law as a child, but at 16 she is at the age of 16 and most likely won't look like a child..

I think a saying he's a paedophile is way harsh

Well the fact this guys brother, went out with her sister, if you catch my drift.

So this guy has seen her grow from like 12 years old up to 16 (and she hardly looked it), waited til pretty much her 16th birthday before bedding her, cheating on her, fucking her up on drugs then going back to his wife and kids..

And sorry but if she was a month younger and she was still 15, would you consider him being a paedophile then???

[rachie004]

Originally posted by CheeseOnToast
And sorry but if she was a month younger and she was still 15, would you consider him being a paedophile then???


No I wouldn't..

If she'd been what I would consider really young like say 12 or under then I think I'd have a problem with it

[Sgt Hicks]

what about 16 and some who is aged 19 do you see that as a problem?

just a personal situation.

hicks

[ryoko_rock]

Originally posted by Sgt Hicks
what about 16 and some who is aged 19 do you see that as a problem?

just a personal situation.

hicks

thats just getting silly, of course it doesn't matter. in my opinion it starts getting weird when the other person's 10 years older or over... well, that's my opinion anyway. 3 years apart is a healthy gap in a relationship, surely...!

[rachie004]

Originally posted by ryoko_rock
in my opinion it starts getting weird when the other person's 10 years older or over...


:( :(

:p

[lucifer devil]

Originally posted by rachie004
:( :(

:p

i'm sure they meant to say it was okay really. :D

[ShyBoy]

Originally posted by ryoko_rock
thats just getting silly, of course it doesn't matter. in my opinion it starts getting weird when the other person's 10 years older or over... well, that's my opinion anyway. 3 years apart is a healthy gap in a relationship, surely...!

so you wouldnt be objected to me going out with a 13 yr old? :hyper: :p

[SuzyCreamcheese]

Originally posted by TheShyBoyInTheCorner
so you wouldnt be objected to me going out with a 13 yr old? :hyper: :p
well no, not really, youre only 16 yourself. Depends what you wanted from her really.

[ShyBoy]

Originally posted by rainbow brite
well no, not really, youre only 16 yourself. Depends what you wanted from her really.

round here it didnt seem to matter. all my friends had a go at me me when I told them I had a 13 yr old mate and I hung out iwht her in the park! And there were rumours around school. So if I did go out with her I expect it would be a thousand times worse.