Ok, whats going on??

[Lady Lu]

Ages ago I posted a thread about sleeping with my best mate (she is female too) while I was with my ex. I wasn't embarrassed or anything, I did enjoy it.

I have been single now for about six months and have been on a few dates. I have recently been out with this guy (about 5 times) and do like him but the thought of having sex with him doesn't interest me.

Right, I've started going out with my best again, she has made some new friends and I've been out with them the last two weekends. I get on really well with them all.

There is this girl who is kind of seeing one of the guy's from the group. My best mate and I were talking and both agreed that we find her very attractive.

Last weekend we all went to a club and got hammered. It was a really cool night. This girl, my best and I were all dancing and snogging, just messing about, winding the guy's up. This girl and I went to do it and she said come to toilets. Anyway things happened (I'm sure you can all guess what).

She told me after that she had never been with another woman, so obviously I was quite proud that I was her first. We had a little chat after and I made sure she ok with the whole thing, she was cool. We even agreed that we both would like to do it again, very soon.

The thing is I am very keen to do it but I'm just confused as to why I don't feel that towards this guy. I am attracted to him (and other men) I just don't fancy the idea of sleeping with him :confused:

[VinylVicky]

you lucky girl.
Dunno what advice I can offer apart from your probably just going through a phase. Wait a few more months, then see how you feel :p

[sar's the lady]

yeh vicks right you are lucky i wanna have a one on one with another girl but im not gonna do it behind my fellas back.........guess my time'll come.

just enjoy yourself dont read to much into it, like vick said see how you feel in a couple of months

[NinjaMaster]

Anyone thought about the guys feelings?

If I had posted saying that I was seeing this girl but I had slept (and was wanting to sleep with again) a girl behind his back you would all be slating me calling me a arse/twat/dog/**** (Delete as appropriate)

If you are wanting to experiment with this other girl then surely it's only fair that you finish your current relationship.

Or at least ask him if he wants to join in. :naughty:

[KinkyRed]

Originally posted by NinjaMaster
Anyone thought about the guys feelings?

If I had posted saying that I was seeing this girl but I had slept (and was wanting to sleep with again) a girl behind his back you would all be slating me calling me a arse/twat/dog/**** (Delete as appropriate)



But would the reaction be the same if you slept with a guy behind your girl's back?

[NinjaMaster]

Originally posted by KinkyRed
But would the reaction be the same if you slept with a guy behind your girl's back?

Doesn't make any difference. Cheating is cheating wether you do it with different sex, same sex, dead chicken or your brother.

My point is that if she is seeing this guy but is wanting to experiment then surely the decent thing to do is finish things with him first.

[Olive]

Originally posted by NinjaMaster
Doesn't make any difference. Cheating is cheating wether you do it with different sex, same sex, dead chicken or your brother.

My point is that if she is seeing this guy but is wanting to experiment then surely the decent thing to do is finish things with him first.


:yes:

have to agree.

doesn't matter that it's a girl.

sleeping with anyone/thing else other than the person your supposed to be with is cheating.

[sar's the lady]

Originally posted by Lady Lu

I have been single now for about six months and have been on a few dates. I have recently been out with this guy (about 5 times) and do like him but the thought of having sex with him doesn't interest me.



i dont agree with cheating in a serious relationship but lets be honest does this sound like a serious relationship :no:

sounds to me like they're both taking it as it comes, how does this guy feel about you lady lu if he really likes you i suggest telling him, you dont wanna hurt his feelings he needs to know where he stands.
as long as no ones gettings hurt then i dont see a problem with it :)

[Stud_Man]

After reading some of these posts ...

A Question springs to mind ....

Why is it that women are willing to have it off with other women while men having it off with other men is absolutely disgusting from a man's point of view...

What is it that makes a woman want to try it with another woman ??

I gotta say that the idea of a man having it off with another man is absolutely disgusting and even if it was a one off it is still a disgusting thing to do and I would never do it or not even willing to try it- I'm sure all you guys agree with me .... but women are willing to try having it off with other girls - WHY ?? Come on girls - your views will be greatly appreciated .....

Maybe This should have been a new thread but sorry to hijack this thread !!

[KinkyRed]

Cos women in general are more attractive
:p


*runs for the hills*

[VinylVicky]

Originally posted by NinjaMaster
Anyone thought about the guys feelings?

If I had posted saying that I was seeing this girl but I had slept (and was wanting to sleep with again) a girl behind his back you would all be slating me calling me a arse/twat/dog/**** (Delete as appropriate)

If you are wanting to experiment with this other girl then surely it's only fair that you finish your current relationship.

Or at least ask him if he wants to join in. :naughty:
Ninj I totally agree with you babe. However that wasnt the question she asked and who am i to interfere? I just give advice on what they are asking ;)

[NinjaMaster]

Originally posted by VinylVicky
Ninj I totally agree with you babe. However that wasnt the question she asked and who am i to interfere? I just give advice on what they are asking ;)

The reason I brought it up hun was because of this part of the post

Originally posted by Lady Lu
We even agreed that we both would like to do it again, very soon.

I agree with all said before. If your wanting to give it a go then go for it. You'll never really know your true sexuality if you always think what if?

But I would check with the guy first. He may really like you Lady Lu and he might end up feeling hurt.

[SuzyCreamcheese]

Originally posted by Stud_Man
After reading some of these posts ...

A Question springs to mind ....

Why is it that women are willing to have it off with other women while men having it off with other men is absolutely disgusting from a man's point of view...

What is it that makes a woman want to try it with another woman ??

I gotta say that the idea of a man having it off with another man is absolutely disgusting and even if it was a one off it is still a disgusting thing to do and I would never do it or not even willing to try it- I'm sure all you guys agree with me .... but women are willing to try having it off with other girls - WHY ?? Come on girls - your views will be greatly appreciated .....

Maybe This should have been a new thread but sorry to hijack this thread !!
Ive been thinking about this a lot lately, and this might seem a bit deep and political, but im sure its somethign to do with the way women are portrayed in the media more and more as sex objects and like products which we all covet. Women arent immune to advertising so we see this `product` being advertised left right and centre and of course we want it. its conditioning, im sure there are far more bisexual women around now than there ever were, and im sure a lot of it is to do with women wanting to do something sexy as a performance for other blokes, and they get off on the thought of other people thinking what they do is sexy rather than it being their true sexual preference. I dont think this is necessarily the case with lady lu, as she obviously prefers women at the moment, and thats fine.

[Skateside]

Originally posted by rainbow brite
Ive been thinking about this a lot lately, and this might seem a bit deep and political, but im sure its somethign to do with the way women are portrayed in the media more and more as sex objects and like products which we all covet. Women arent immune to advertising so we see this `product` being advertised left right and centre and of course we want it. its conditioning, im sure there are far more bisexual women around now than there ever were, and im sure a lot of it is to do with women wanting to do something sexy as a performance for other blokes, and they get off on the thought of other people thinking what they do is sexy rather than it being their true sexual preference.
I always got the impression that it's more taboo for two guys to be at it than two girls. I don't think guys want to step forward and say that they're interested unless they're really confident in their own sexuality.

I don't think you can really be conditioned to find the same sex desireable. Something there just doesn't ring true with me.

[VinylVicky]

Originally posted by NinjaMaster
The reason I brought it up hun was because of this part of the post



I agree with all said before. If your wanting to give it a go then go for it. You'll never really know your true sexuality if you always think what if?

But I would check with the guy first. He may really like you Lady Lu and he might end up feeling hurt.
yup, your right babe :D

[Mr_Wobble]

Well, it sounds like you're just stringing that bloke along. Break it off. If you keep seeing him, and he is led to believe you two are having a relationship, then that's cheating. And yes, it is cheating. Whether you shag someone of the opposite sex, or same sex, it's cheating.

Mr_Wobble ;)

[spanner]

Originally posted by Lady Lu

The thing is I am very keen to do it but I'm just confused as to why I don't feel that towards this guy. I am attracted to him (and other men) I just don't fancy the idea of sleeping with him :confused:

To answer your original question, it sounds like you are confused about your sexuality. It's perfectly normal to want to experiment with both sexes, but like the others have said, try to keep it fair.
You may like to read some of our features on this subject to help you address your feelings.
You'll find a list of them here (http://www.thesite.org/info/relationships/)
;)

[Scorcher]

I read somewhere that being sexuality is not black/white, it's shades of gray.

You float in middle sometimes you feel more 1 way than an other & other times different. Perhaps at the moment you feel like having a same sex relationship. Maybe the feelings of attraction you feel towards the guy is just strong friendship.

I have been in this situation, & it's difficult.

Cheating is cheating though, so if you want to experiment don't let someone feel their in a relationship with you. There is common line of thought, which I didn't believe anyone could actual believe in till a bloke said it too me which is "I'm not cheatingon my g/f if it's another bloke". Rubbish.