Let me know just how you feel.

[Pepsi_104]

I am so terribly confused. I fancy this guy right, and at a party recently he was so nice and we talked quite a bit in one of the bedrooms. However, I happen to have heard from one of my mates hes going out with this girl lets say her names Kirsty. When I ask him he kinda says shes my sorta- then he stops and says he like, made it out he was going out with her so to save his dignity. And I thought, 'ok this is good' although, as always at this point someone stumbles into the room. So i suggest we go to another room. But dum de dum hes phone goes off and its...youve guessed it..kirsty. And its 1am.

So...do you think he was lying to me and WHY? cos i really cant see how soemone whose just a mate would ring at that time. How do I go about finding out or actually getting him to like me??????????(impossible..quite).

[blonde__batman]

first of all u need to ask urself do u really want to be with him if he is lying to you?

i think u need to sit him down somewhere that no one will interupt u and talk to him about it.

theres not much else u can do until u know whats going on with him and kirsty

[byny]

Heres what has happened...

he's found himself in a room with a girl he finds attractive. He IS going out with 'Kirsty' but kind of thinks he may have a chance of a small (but casual) thing with a girl called 'pepsi' so he kind of stops himself from telling the truth. when push comes to shove and 'kirsty' calls he realises that he's a wee bit dumb for being vague about the whole thing.

You should maybe consider the feelings of 'kirsty' who is probably a very nice girl and (perhaps stupidly) trusts her boyfriend to be honest about their commitment.

If you go ahead and dive in with said 'gentleman' then you possibly become another 'kirsty' with no suspicion that her man may oneday find himself in a room with another 'pepsi' and may one day find himself being vague with the other 'pepsi'.

Anyway - what kind of man says he is with someone to 'save his dignity'?

Just chalk it up as an experience, and part of lifes great learning curve and find someone who doesn't already have a girlfriend!!

[Pepsi_104]

Originally posted by byny
Anyway - what kind of man says he is with someone to 'save his dignity'?


hmm....well it was to his ex. shes going out with one of his mates and shes kinda..well..shes quite patronisng if you dont ahve any one and I can see SOME sence in it...
hmm....
yeah I suppose your right. Although I odnt think its gunna be that easy to get off him.

[Cute_Baby_Bear]

You'll soon find someone else hun,u always do....:p
lol
n y would u wana be with mr. perma-orange-tan anyway....??dont.understand the attraction there myself....

[Pepsi_104]

Originally posted by Cute_Baby_Bear
You'll soon find someone else hun,u always do....:p
lol
n y would u wana be with mr. perma-orange-tan anyway....??dont.understand the attraction there myself....
quite. he has a nice bone structure/eyes/hair.....
but a really orrraaaaange tan and not a very good complection..hmm

yeah well....I do fall for the most odd guys

[Acrobat]

maybe it was purely innocent phone call.my friends ring me at 1am, but then again im just strange like that(nocturnal).wouldnt the easiest thing be to ask whats going on? Or if you dont want to be that obvious, try and find out from a mate the situation?

And if he is lying, then you can do better hun :)

[Pepsi_104]

Originally posted by MoonShiner
maybe it was purely innocent phone call.my friends ring me at 1am, but then again im just strange like that(nocturnal).wouldnt the easiest thing be to ask whats going on? Or if you dont want to be that obvious, try and find out from a mate the situation?

And if he is lying, then you can do better hun :)
I think he wa slying to me. One of my friends asked him....the same question and he said he was goin out with her.
AND he was flirting with me by txts.
gawd boys are EVILLL
(well most anyhow).

[Cute_Baby_Bear]

Guys lie to get what they want usually without worrying if they cause pain n hurt to those around them...NB.not all guys are like this!!!
He does have nice bone structure/hair/eyes....??Cant say i noticed myself....But then im all loved up...:D n the day-glo orange tan put me off looking any closer.....

[Pepsi_104]

Originally posted by Cute_Baby_Bear
Guys lie to get what they want usually without worrying if they cause pain n hurt to those around them...NB.not all guys are like this!!!
He does have nice bone structure/hair/eyes....??Cant say i noticed myself....But then im all loved up...:D n the day-glo orange tan put me off looking any closer.....
hmm.....yeah but I dont actually know if hes lying to me or other people.....
Ill probably play it by ear...try not let mysefl fall to deep and be quite flippant. I dont wanna get hurt again.

[lisa simpson's saxophone]

Ooh ouch, sounds horribly familiar.

I liked this guy once, and he was really really flirty and kept asking me to go out for a drink. Then one day I though ok, I'll go for it, and asked him if he had a girlfriend. It was like getting blood out of a stone but eventually he admitted that yes, he did, but things were 'complicated' and he thought he'd be finishing with her soon. We went out for a drink but I was determined that it would just be a friendly thing until he finished with his girlfriend. Over about the next couple of months he kept trying to keep me interested and kept telling me that things were going to be over with his girlfriend soon. I gave up in the end and found myself a lovely boyfriend whom I'm still with. Then a few months later this guy rang me... oh guess what, he'd finally finished with his girlfriend. I realised after that that he was never going to finish with her, he was just trying to keep his options open.

I think what I'm trying to say is it sounds like this guy's doing the same sort of thing. Sounds like he's not sure about this 'Kirsty' but he still wants to keep his options open so he can have his pick of the girls? Anyone get what I mean?

[Pepsi_104]

Originally posted by lisa simpson's saxophone


I think what I'm trying to say is it sounds like this guy's doing the same sort of thing. Sounds like he's not sure about this 'Kirsty' but he still wants to keep his options open so he can have his pick of the girls? Anyone get what I mean?
yeah I get what you mean..but he's like my mate and I wouldn't even think of him doing that..surely he'd think about my feelings?
oh no hang on..
hes a guy.
(no offence to boys let me be cynical)