Hard To Get?

[Faith]

Is there any point in playing hard to get? I like this guy and we have been texting each other quite a lot, my friend however told me off and said that I should be playing hard to get since I've only known him about a week! Is there any point in that, wont he just think I'm not interested? Does it actually make you more interested if the person you like plays hard to get? :confused:

[perfect***day]

I'd say you've got to strike a good balance - I can't be bothered with actually playing hard to get, but at the same time (when I'm single or newly in a relationship which hasn't been for a while I guess), I don't like to be constantly chasing, or to make myself too easily available - cos the guy could think I'm 'easy' or boring, and don't have much of a life except to see him.

[D'OHnut]

Hmm... if a lass was seriously playing hard-to-get and never hinted that she liked me, I'd probably lose interest. If, however, she jokingly played hard-to-get (which I like and do) and stated or hinted that she liked me, then that's good and in fact fun. So I think so long as you make it known that you like the person, be it subtly or otherwise, it's OK.

[VinylVicky]

It makes me more interested, not hard to get as in way over the top but always follow this rule
if they call before 7pm weds you can see them at the wknd if after then dont unless you arranged for him to call u after with intentions of seeing each other at the weekend. Basic stuff like not dropping everything for him and making him wait a lil bit for stuff. aim to get there a few mins after him if your meeting up and cancel on him once but not over the top. Stuff like this drops hints like they want u but your not everything but without saying it...and it auto gets me going str8 away, I have no control over it! Where if a guy always agreed to go out when I said, always on time always too nice and sweet always agreeing with me.....is a put of, theres plenty of time to be like this further down.

[perfect***day]

Good point Mobily, you men don't get subtle hints do you :p

So you've got to make sure the guy knows you like him first, and maintain that, but then you can still play a little hard to get.

[D'OHnut]

Originally posted by perfect***day
So you've got to make sure the guy knows you like him first, and maintain that, but then you can still play a little hard to get.

Precisely! It's like a game, then - fun and enjoyable. If it's neither of these, then you might have a problem.

BTW, sure men get subtle hints - a good snog will never fail! :lol: More seriously, small things, such as 'you make me laugh', 'you're great to talk to' and 'you're easy to talk to', or things like that, make me wonder. ;)

[Harmless]

No

Don't play fucking games. Back fires more often then not. Plus it kinda sets the relationship at that pace. You want to be open and honest.

[byny]

Depends what you mean by hard to get....do you mean not having sex for a while or acting like you are not interested at all or just setting some ground rules and not falling arse over tit within 24 hours?

Theres a lot to be said for retaining some independence...ie don't dump your friends everyime he wants to see you. You have to have some kind of independent life that you enjoy!

don't put all your eggs in one basket but don't play games either!