my best mates dating my crush!

[shit_happenz]

my best mate has recently started dating the guy i fancy, they both know that i have feelings for him, and me and him have kissed in the past. i told them both that i was cool with them dating because i didn't want them to hold it against me if i told them i didn't want them to see each other, but now its really getting me down, and making me feel bitter against them both, but i can't tell them this. his mate has asked me out but i turned him down because i didn't fancy him and i'm feeling as if every guy is going to be second best to my crush. what can i do to stop feeling this way?

[KinkyRed]

Wait.

Unfortunately time, and time alone will sort you out. But you will get there :yes:

[VinylVicky]

wat lots of chocolate and have a good cry..get it all out of your system...I always feel better when ive had a good cry and told someone how I feel. Apart from that, theres not much, you just have to try to get over it and meet someone you do fancy. Maybe it would help if your mate wasnt with him when you spend time together. Its a bit heartless of them but you cant help who oyu have feelings for, can you? good luck x

[KinkyBoots]

Aye, it usually sucks when your friend is going out with the guy you like. I would know cos its happened to me several times! But in the end its not worth getting upset about because there are lots more people out there that would love to be with you, whether they show it or not. Just forget about it and be happy for them :)

[mjombly]

I am in a very similar situation just the opposite sex. I did the same thing and told them I was OK with it but it soon became obvious to my crush, who is also a very good friend, that I wasn't OK with it at all. She spoke to me but I pursuaded her it would all be fine because once again, I didn't want to cause problems. Most recently my 'mate' started to spread rumours about me, he told most of the people in my year at college that I'd made a pass at her and that I'd taken her for a romantic meal at a restaurant that him and her were planning to go to just to spite him. He also threatened me to keep away from her. I told a friend this and asked them not to tell her because it would just make things awkward but they ended up having an argument and the secret came out in all the anger. She accused me of making it up and being spiteful for saying it so I have lost both of them as friends.
Some of my friends have suggested that this is because he is jealous of how close me and her continue to be.
Basically this is a bit of a warning, I thought my mate was the nicest guy but jealousy can be a horrible thing. I think you need to tread carefully and either back off or sit them both down and tell them how you feel, if they value your friendship enough they should be prepared to split up. I wish I'd taken the oppertunity to keep both my friends.
As she once said to me, partners come and go but friends are forever.
Sorry for rambling on.

[Kermit]

Grow up and get over it. It sucks, but dont brood on it for weeks, your crush will have disappeared in weeks and so will his relationship.