Arguments

[Ladon J]

A friend of mine is having trouble with her boyfriend. They're always arguing about the silliest little things and she's afraid of losing him. She loves him a lot, but she's starting to think he doesn't love her back.

They're both good friends of mine and I don't want either of them to get hurt.

What can you suggest I tell her to set her mind at rest- I've run out of things to say.

[Docter Lurve]

Quick 2 break without seeing or ringing each other much-
They say you dont know what youve got till its gone-
Shud make both parties realise if they want the rel r not'

[KinkyBoots]

I think they should have some time apart and like Doctor Lurve said, they'll be able to figure out whether they are meant to be together.

I used to have two friends like that, but in the end it was actually him that broke it off cos he didnt love her enough (plus he slept with her friend!!!) But some time apart might do them some good. :)

[Franki]

My best mate is like this, she says she doesn't love him although it's obvious she does! But she lives with her boyfriend who is 18 and she is 15, yes her mum allows it! But she is CONSTANTLY arguing with him about one thing or the other! He can get extremely irritating and it stresses her out. With her I can't suggest this because of the living together thing, but I think you should suggest they take a break from each other, just for a while, so they can sort their heads out and see whether it really is a good idea for them to be together. But be warned, my older sister has done this and both times the boys started going out with other people and she got very hurt. I think if they really are right for each other though this will work! Good luck to them :)

[BumbleBee]

All you can do is be there for her.

Try not to get involved because you will alienate one or both of them and they may even accuse you of interfering.

Perhaps you could advise them both to take a step back and get some outside interests.

[KinkyBoots]

Originally posted by BumbleBee
All you can do is be there for her.

Try not to get involved because you will alienate one or both of them and they may even accuse you of interfering.

Yeah, its probably best that you dont get involved cos you might get the backlash of it for interfering. Just let them get on with it and be there for them if things go wrong :)

[byny]

It depends what they are arguing about. Is she very clingy...does she want him to be responsible for her social life, is he jelous, do they live together, are their arguments about their values, morals, politics?

Its so easy to moan to your friends and yet do nothing about the 'terrible' realtionship you are in. I've done it...Remember..you might be getting only one side of the story.

Chances are they will be together in 8 years time. Just like me. the amount of moaning and arguing I did was unvelievable. But I'm still with my man, I still ove him..I've just learned not to talk about it all the time. Instead I talk to him, and thats just what she should be doing!

[Tequila Sunrise]

Originally posted by Ladon J
A friend of mine is having trouble with her boyfriend. They're always arguing about the silliest little things and she's afraid of losing him. She loves him a lot, but she's starting to think he doesn't love her back.

They're both good friends of mine and I don't want either of them to get hurt.

What can you suggest I tell her to set her mind at rest- I've run out of things to say.

erm.. think u better stay out..cos, they'll make up in no time (if they really feel for each other).

[slinkyGirl1]

Originally posted by Docter Lurve
Quick 2 break without seeing or ringing each other much-
They say you dont know what youve got till its gone-
Shud make both parties realise if they want the rel r not'

In my opinion relationships DO NOT need 'breaks' , if it doen't work the first time it aint gonna work the second time!

As far as what you should do, stay out of it, just be there for them when they need you and if they are both your mates then DON'T pick sides either!!!

[Franki]

Originally posted by megadawn
erm.. think u better stay out..cos, they'll make up in no time (if they really feel for each other).

They broke up last night and he's moving out :( She rung me up in floods of tears and today she could not stop crying.

[The Philosopher]

I think that arguments are a healthy part of a relationship and it shows that neither person is afraid to express their opinions. Arguments need not be aggressive or nasty, they can just be an airing of different views. I argue with my girlfriend all the time but then I'll argue with anyone given the chance ;-)

It's better to see how the other person reacts to arguements early in the game, than say a few years down the line and neither of you know what to expect from each other.

[Zella]

my mates are exactly like this! all i can say is that you cant really help them unless they want to be help themsleves...both of them need to be able to see the problems and have to be willing to try to change to make things better.