What do you suggest?

[D'OHnut]

I really like a lovely lass and she feels the same about me.

We currently live hundreds of miles apart, although this will be more than halved from September onwards.

We want to be with each other more than anything.

The problem is that we don't know what to do. Do we be 'friends with feelings' which seems silly and the least enjoyable option? Do we have a long-distance relationship and see each other as often as possible? Is it likely to last? Or do we just ignore our feelings and don't do anything? What do you suggest and why?

Any constructive help would be very appreciatated.

We are both adults.

[Lacy]

Originally posted by Mobily's Ghost
I really like a lovely lass and she feels the same about me.

We currently live hundreds of miles apart, although this will be more than halved from September onwards.

We want to be with each other more than anything.

The problem is that we don't know what to do. Do we be 'friends with feelings' which seems silly and the least enjoyable option? Do we have a long-distance relationship and see each other as often as possible? Is it likely to last? Or do we just ignore our feelings and don't do anything? What do you suggest and why?

Any constructive help would be very appreciatated.

We are both adults.

Anyone we know?!

Hmm i know being friends with feelings sucks. Thats kinda shit.

No one can tell you if its likely to last. You just have to look at yourself and the other person and ask yourselves if your strong enough for a long distance thing. They can an do work.

[KinkyBoots]

My friend had a long distance relationship with someone that lived in South Wales, but after a few weeks he moved here and left everything behind (They were in love I guess) but they not together anymore, after one year, he sleft with her friend :rolleyes: :(

My dad is in a long distance realtionship with his American gf (GITS, BOTH OF THEM!!!!! :mad: ) He gets to see her a few times a year and they keep in touch as much as possible by phone/email/internet chats etc. Think theyre gonna get married :crying:

[D'OHnut]

ask yourselves if your strong enough for a long distance thing.

I think that's probably one of the factors that will underpin it.

My friend had a long distance relationship with someone that lived in South Wales, but after a few weeks he moved here and left everything behind (They were in love I guess) but they not together anymore, after one year, he sleft with her friend

That could happen to anyone, whether they're living together, 200 miles apart or the other side of the world. So I don't think it's fair to relate that to such a situation.

My dad is in a long distance realtionship with his American gf (GITS, BOTH OF THEM!!!!! ) He gets to see her a few times a year and they keep in touch as much as possible by phone/email/internet chats etc. Think theyre gonna get married

Very sorry to hear about that, Kinky. You know where I am should you wish to chat about it. :)

I think that perhaps if you frequently communicate by various means, such as phone, email, net, and text, in addition to meeting as often as possible, then it could work. This assumes that there are sufficiently strong feelings and a willingness to actually make it work from both sides.

[KinkyBoots]

Originally posted by Mobily's Ghost
That could happen to anyone, whether they're living together, 200 miles apart or the other side of the world. So I don't think it's fair to relate that to such a situation.


Sorry

[lil_minx]

id suggest gving it a go--what have u got to lose?

ive been in a long distance relationship that lasted months, and only ended, not because of the distance but because of something that woulda ended us whether we lived close or far apart..

give it a go mate!

[Luce]

but after a few weeks he moved here


Kinky Boots, looking at your location, and then you don't specify where "here" is...........?? :p

[KinkyBoots]

Originally posted by Luce
Kinky Boots, looking at your location, and then you don't specify where "here" is...........?? :p

:lol: Get what you mean. To my home town - Bridlington in Yorkshire. Sorry for confusion :p

[D'OHnut]

Originally posted by lil_minx
id suggest gving it a go--what have u got to lose?

ive been in a long distance relationship that lasted months, and only ended, not because of the distance but because of something that woulda ended us whether we lived close or far apart..

give it a go mate!

Yep, thanks! :D We decided that we have nothing to lose and that it'll be silly to ignore feelings. So we're going for it. Of course it's not ideal, but my belief is that you have to make the most of what you have instead of moaning about what you don't - thinking postively, optimistically and confidently are all important.

[hotphoenix]

I've been with my bloke nearly 2 yrs and we hav a long distance relationship. You have to make sure you talk alot, letters, text, phone, msn etc. You need to have strong feelings but also a lot of trust coz being so far apart you don't get to see each other too often. Good luck, it can be done

[perfect***day]

My boyfriend and I were 'just friends' until last summer when we realised we had feelings for each other and decided to act on it! As I'm still at school and he's with the army on his gap year (therefore spending most of his time in Germany/up North/Wales), we're having to deal with a long-distance relationship. He's home every 3weeks(ish) usually, which is great :) so we actually see each other quite often compared with some couples! Although this time I'm not seeing him for more than six weeks *sob* - but anyway, it's worked out well for us. Positive story for you there :D

It can be hard sometimes but as phoenix said you need trust, and you can keep in touch properly with phone, txts, email etc and then you'll be ok :)

As regards the 'friends to lovers' thing, as it were... that's more difficult. It's a risky step to take because it can make or break your relationship, but if you've already both got strong feelings for each other, I think it's worth a try.

Good luck :)
(thought you'd been a bit 'off' the past couple of days, your posts have been really depressed/annoyed! hope you sort it out.)

[lil_minx]

Originally posted by Mobily's Ghost
Yep, thanks! :D We decided that we have nothing to lose and that it'll be silly to ignore feelings. So we're going for it. Of course it's not ideal, but my belief is that you have to make the most of what you have instead of moaning about what you don't - thinking postively, optimistically and confidently are all important.

go you :D

[KinkyBoots]

Originally posted by lil_minx
go you :D

:hyper: :hyper: :hyper:

.....ahem.... :D