Confused!

[Nash]

Hi, i'm not one for posting under this topic but well i need to get things off my chest at the moment.
Ok so me and my girlfriend have just split up after about 3 months of a fairly serious relationship. She's told me she loves me and would never ever want to loose me as i've been the best person she's met. After everything she's told me that statement seems pretty honest as well.
Well in this past week there was one big event that i think has changed everything. I'm almost 17 and she's 15 and she has known this lad called jamie (19) for quite afew months and they have become good friends, which i approved of. But thing have got a bit more heated on his side, he's been saying he's never met anyone like her and that he loves her and he feels for her blah blah blah! Anyway i was thinking this guys just feeling sorry for himself after what i'd heard, because he has been let down alot by girls in the past.
Well afew days ago he picked her up from school to take her to get some dinner, and he said he'd forgotten his so they went back to his place where he then proceeded to make a pass at her, she kissed him back and then pulled away apparently. She was crying and he took her back to school. I'm guessing this was a plan to get her around his house. Anyway she had the decency to tell me about what had happened, and after alot of talking about it i decided to leave it and get on with it as i feel so much for her.
Moving on i saw her yesterday, she was anxious and i could see she was nervous around me and i repetedly asked her what was up, but she kept on putting it off and saying nothing. Well as i was about to go so i asked her again and she said she didn't feel as though things were like they used to be, she said the 'spark' had gone, she still loves me but she just didn't know what she wanted, and she wanted to call it a day after everything, completely out of the blue. I asked her was it because of jamie, and she said it wasn't.....

Now i don't know what to think, i can't get a straight answer off her for anything. Its too coincidental for what has happened and now she tells me thats it. I'm really pissed off and i guess i'm just looking for sympathy, but i don't know what too think anymore...

Sorry for boring you guys, but do you think its too co-incidental for her to finish it after this guy tried something?

James

[oliglynn]

Mate u need to find a way to get her to talk frankly about what she really feels. Maybe get her round and tell her all you feel and then she may talk honestly to you. Try not to make it sound like you're accusing her of anything - just tell things as you feel they are, and ask her to fill you in. Everyone hates feeling shut out - that's when loads of crazy thoughts go through your mind, and you only make things worse for yourself.

Hope that helps :thumb:

[Mr_Wobble]

I've got to admit that, from what you've said, it does sound a bit too suspicious, as if something has/is happening.
If she won't talk to you about it, then it looks like it's over between you two, and you will have to talk to her to find out what's happening and if you two have a future together.
Sorry I can't offer any real advice here. :(

Mr_Wobble ;)

[Mwaaaa]

Awwww' *huggles Nash*

It seems that she is confused! But she shouldn't have shut you out :no: It does sound suspicious but don't jump to any conclusions just yet, otherwise you'll end up going mad :) Try again & again to talk to her about it! But if she still doesn't want to talk or have anything to do with you, id leave it & move on :( It is hard but you'll only end up getting hurt.

At least she had the decency to tell you about the day that Jamie picked her up from school. That shows that you obviously did/do mean something to her.

Good Luck matie :thumb: xxx

[Nash]

Thanks for the replies guys, its helped me out and made me think to myself abit more clearly than before!
So i guess i should try and talk to her about it all again, and if she doesn't like it then i'll have to just leave it how it is and move on, how hard that might be.
Also i unfortunetely know where this guy lives, although i'd rather not take my frustration out on him......i'm just annoyed.

Thankyou :)

James

[QuickStar]

get her round to yours and ask her what she feels. dont badger her too much though cos she may think your being overprotective. it may just be a coincisence (sp*). you know her better than we do so we can only help you out so much.
if you can get her to talk openly about how she feels maybe you could still have a chance together. shes probably just as confused as you are.

hope ive helped and good luck

[Nash]

Well here's a pretty significant update! I've spoken alot to her tonight about every different issue concerning us and all the issues related to why she finished me. And well it seems as though she's been really putting pressure on herself after what happened and just indefinetly thought it was the best to end it with me because she felt really guilty and wanted me to do better than her. I've explained that i told her i'd forgiven her and she realized that, but still thought she was right because she didn't know what she wanted at all.
Well tonight has been strange, she hinted to me that she wished she never ended it and asked me if i still love her and i said i did. So then this has progressed into what would you like to do now kind of thing, so she basically wants to go on a date and i'm hoping to wipe the slate clean. I've told her to talk to me tommorow and hopefully we can sort something out.

Nothings guarenteed yet, but thanks for all you guys that have cleared my mind after it was all so cluttered. :)

Thankyou

James

[Sir Cum]

Good luck to ya mate but I wouldn't have believed the naive "He took me home and tried to kiss me and I kissed him and then thought 'NO'" act.