Too good for you?

[Sir Cum]

Reading other posts in here today got me thinking ...

When a girl says "You are too good for me" or "I don't deserve you" is she really saying "I have done some bad things before I met you/to you" or similar? Or could she sometimes actually be looking down on herself as undeserved?

[TheCymruKid]

Sometimes i think they are fishing for compliments, although my gf says it a lot, i think her ex didn't give a fuck about her and used to be a right twat. I treat her so well and she says she's not used to it.


I dunno!!! Women!;)

[perfect***day]

If I said that, it would be because I thought the guy was really sweet and lovely, and would make some girl very happy, but wasn't actually particularly attracted to him, or didn't actually want to be in a relationship with him any more; kind of like an excuse.

But everyone's different. :)

[Faith]

Originally posted by TheCymruKid
her ex didn't give a fuck about her and used to be a right twat. I treat her so well and she says she's not used to it.

I think if a girl said you were "too good" for her, then it's quite likely to be because she's not used to being treated that nicely and so doesn't think she's worth it!

[sexyassmoma]

Originally posted by Faith
I think if a girl said you were "too good" for her, then it's quite likely to be because she's not used to being treated that nicely and so doesn't think she's worth it!


yep

[maccy]

I've said that when I havent liked the boy as much as he liked me. Sadly I must just be the odd mean one though.

[hotphoenix]

Originally posted by Faith
I think if a girl said you were "too good" for her, then it's quite likely to be because she's not used to being treated that nicely and so doesn't think she's worth it!

yeah i agree with that

[molo]

i have a theory (called the cosmo/friends theory)

that a lot of girls will say things because they sound sweet without actually thinkin of the meaning, getting these quotes from there cosmopolitan magazines and watchin tv programes (such as friends) for example

think about it

[Lickalotapuss]

I said it to my ex GF as one of the excuses to get out of the relationship.

[Sir Cum]

Oh of course some people will say it when breaking up "Its not you its me" "You are too good for me" etc.

I'm talking more when a partner that IS totally loved up says in general lovey dovey talk "I don't deserve you".

I can't help but think its because they have done something wrong or something to hide.

[Lacy]

Originally posted by Sir Cum
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I can't help but think its because they have done something wrong or something to hide.

I really do doubt that.

Ive said it to people in the past when ive done nothing wrong. Usually cos im not used to lads being nice to me, and in past relationships ive been made to think i dont deserve love and attention. So when people do give it to me i wonder why and think i dont deserve it. Thats when i tell people i dont deserve them. Cos i think i dont.

Its not that complicated really. If shes had shit experiences or has low self esteem and you are nice to her, shes bound to say that.

Of course she could also just be saying it to compliment you.

[BumbleBee]

Personally, I think they are just looking for some compliments in the majority of cases. In some cases they may be suffering from depression of something else that requires their partner to have a high level of understanding and perhaps in those cases they really think it.

[Lickalotapuss]

Originally posted by Sir Cum

I can't help but think its because they have done something wrong or something to hide.
Maybe. When I said it to my ex GF as part of breaking up, I had done something wrong which she didn't know about.

[TheCymruKid]

i asked my GF last night why she says it to me and this was her answer......no shit.


"I think ur too good-looking for me, ur kind to me, ur generous,ur always there for me,i just think u could do better, but most of all i think im so lucky to have you"

Good answer!

Wow!

(they all arent true)


But i think exactly the same about her though. Suppose im lucky too.


:D

[perfect***day]

No, Sir C I think you're wrong - they haven't necessarily got something to hide. As the CymruKid has just pointed out, some girls really do just think their men are too good for them! Or at least they're just telling them how grateful and happy they are to be with someone whom they like so much.

[byny]

Originally posted by Sir Cum
Reading other posts in here today got me thinking ...

When a girl says "You are too good for me" or "I don't deserve you" is she really saying "I have done some bad things before I met you/to you" or similar? Or could she sometimes actually be looking down on herself as undeserved?

She is saying 'I don't fancy you in any way but I still want to be a good friend ..If I tell you the truth it will hurt you, but if I don't say anything at all then you'll keep following me round like a saddo asking me out...so perhaps I'll just tell you that you're too good for me'

[The Philosopher]

Isn't it all about trust and belief? I mean, do you believe that when your girlfriend (or boyf) says that they don't deserve you, they really mean it?

I think people are always wary of these compliments (probably more now in this day and age of dishonesty) and always look for some hidden meaning when in a lot of cases there is none and they really do mean it. Some people have been treated so badly by others that supposedly "love" them that they never believed themselves that someone nicer could exist and like them for who they are.

It's happened to me with my girlfriend too but I don't regard myself supremely nice, just acting how I think I should towards someone else and someone who I love.

[Sir Cum]

Originally posted by byny
She is saying 'I don't fancy you in any way but I still want to be a good friend ..If I tell you the truth it will hurt you, but if I don't say anything at all then you'll keep following me round like a saddo asking me out...so perhaps I'll just tell you that you're too good for me'

I'm talking a long term girlfriend not a girl i've bumped into on the streets lol