Friends

[Ice queen]

I have recently split with a mate of mine. The reaosn being was she treated me like shit. She's only 14 yet she has slept with a few people who she doesnt even know the names of. She's dependant on smoking dope to be happy and she is constanty in a bad mood. WhenI got a new b/f i spent all my time so i had a good reason to be away from her.I told her she was a slapper and we have fallen out for good. At the timeI thought it was a good idea. After all she did treat me badly but now i dont have many friends. Was I right tell her I dont ever want to be friends again?

[KinkyRed]

Originally posted by Ice queen
Was I right tell her I dont ever want to be friends again?

You've burnt the bridge so right or wrong you're stuck with it I'm afraid.

[Zella]

once she grows up abit she should realise that what you said was true...although the way you said it could have really hurt her and stuff so i doubt if you do eventually kiss and make up things will ever be the same again. why dnt you try and find some other mates that will treat you well?

[Zella]

and by the way this should be in relationships not sex

[Ice queen]

Yeah, im new to this. mistake on mypart. apalogies to y'all

[Amira]

wen it comes to fighting with ur friends about these sorts of things i think i know pretty much all there is to know, wat u said about ur friend would definatly hurt her but it may also help the friendship by bringing her bac down to earth...

you need to give her time to realise that wat she's done and has done to u is wrong. with some luck that shouldn't take more than a week or two...however is she is stuborn and headstrong it could take six months as happens with my best mate.

rite now i think u should giv her some space and if she continues the way she's going other ppl are bound to comment and she'll soon realise that u were a good friend and that she should have listened to u instead off fighting.

and i dont really agree with wat kinkyred *runs and hides* cos friends argue all the time its just a case of the guilty party realising that they were wrong

[Kiezo]

Why does it matter to you who she has sex with and who she doesn't? It doesn't, or shouldn't, affect your relationship with her.

As for the dope thing, she wont need it to be happy, she'll just enjoy doing it. Same as when people drink to socialise.

[perfect***day]

Originally posted by Kiezo


As for the dope thing, she wont need it to be happy, she'll just enjoy doing it. Same as when people drink to socialise.
That's a silly thing to say! Ever heard of an alcoholic?

Anyway, back to the qn - as KinkyRed said you've burned your bridges now - it's probably too late. It might have been more tactful not to have such a go at her for sleeping around, I personally would disapprove if my friends did that, but I'd still keep my nose out of it as far as possible - someone's love life is their own business. As for the dope... not good either but there's nothing you can do.

But after all's said and done, if you didn't feel she was a good friend to you then you've made the right move, just have confidence in yourself and find some friends who'll treat you better :)

[Kiezo]

Originally posted by perfect***day
That's a silly thing to say! Ever heard of an alcoholic?

That wouldn't be drinking to socialise then, would it?

Ever heard of a cannabis addict? No? Neither have I.

[carlito]

Originally posted by Kiezo
That wouldn't be drinking to socialise then, would it?

Ever heard of a cannabis addict? No? Neither have I.

No, but I know plenty of people who are cannabis dependant, or have been in the past.

[perfect***day]

Originally posted by carlito
No, but I know plenty of people who are cannabis dependant, or have been in the past.
:yes:

[lisa simpson's saxophone]

How was she a bad friend? You've mentioned sleeping around and smoking dope, but how did she treat you badly? I just want to know because at the moment you haven't mentioned it, so it's hard to say if you were right to say what you did.

[Ice queen]

she would take everything from me. She would expect me to give her anything when she wanted. If she wanted a drink she wouldnt say please she would just demand. If i was ever upset about anything she would just moan on about herself. On my birthday she shagged my ex boyfriend who i still liked. If i didnt phone her or meet her she would get angry. She didnt get physical hardly ever but wen she did if she was in a really bad mood she could really hurt. She took her bad moods out on me and then when i walked away from her she would blame me of being in a bad mood. I know i am going on but i felt really stupid about sticking around so long.

[Kiezo]

Originally posted by carlito
No, but I know plenty of people who are cannabis dependant, or have been in the past.

Have you fuck!

[molo]

right here are my thoughts

14 year old girls always fall out don't they??

yes there are people dependent on cannibus, but i'm not gonna say anything bout that again.......

why the fuck you wanna be friends with her???

quick escape before you catch her 'townie syndrone'

and to who said that it doesn't concern her who she shags, this was her mate whose 14, FOURTEEN and gettin around with nameless guys? what the fuck??

i bet this girl wears soveriegn rings hahaha

don't worry bout losing this person cus you ain't lost a friend....

[Kiezo]

Originally posted by molo
yes there are people dependent on cannibus, but i'm not gonna say anything bout that again.......

*sigh*

Only to the same extent of tea or coffee, hardly a dependence.

and to who said that it doesn't concern her who she shags, this was her mate whose 14, FOURTEEN and gettin around with nameless guys? what the fuck??

I agree, it's a bit young to be doing that, but it still shouldn't affect their friendship.

[carlito]

Originally posted by Kiezo
Have you fuck!

Well what woukd you define dependent as then?

I'm talking about guys who smoke a joint when they get up in the morning, buy every day, spend most of their money on the stuff, won't have a good time when they're out because they havent got any, and will be up-tight and irritable, get depressed when they're away from it even for a few days.

I went on holiday with some friends last year, one of whom stayed in his room 22 hours a day because he didnt have any, randomly went up to members of the public asking where he could get some etc when he did come out, and was generally miserable.

Whether you can be cehemically addicted or not is debatable, I think you have to be pretty extreme and dogmatic to deny that people can be dependant/reliant on cannabis.

[Kiezo]

Only because they'd have had convinced themselves they can't have a good time without it.

Had they even tried, I'm sure they'd have found it easier than they thought.