Put My Head in a Jar....coz im Pickled!!!

[TheCymruKid]

Right........Im not sure what im gonna say here....hang on.

Got it.

Right.

If i start waffling, then im sorry, but i tend to do it when im typing.


HERE GOES:

My and my GF have been with eachother for about 9 months. She's 18 and im 22.(i dont think thats a problem, but it's an ingrident sp???)

Im madly in love with her....ive never met anyone like her in my life. She's funny, sexy, very very good-looking(too goodlooking 4 me!) She's the only thing i think about all day. The sex is amazing aswell!

I know what ur thinking..."what's this dickheads problem?"


I think im too much in love with her. I really think ive become dependent on her. I see her all the time, im always over her house or we're always doing things together. When we're apart it fucking kills me! I'll do anything for her, i buy her things and i'd never cheat on her. I treat her like a princess, she says im too good for her and i treat her too well.

I really think she's the one for me, i can honestly see me loving no-one else but her. I'd love to marry her, and she says the same. She says im the one for her. Everything is great.

Thing is though, sometimes she treats me like shit. The way she talks to me sometimes really really upsets me. The other night she made me cry. Its like she didnt give a fuck about me. There's her Ex who she still is friends with....who im really jealous of. No matter what she tells me, im just jealous. Simple as. He phones her like 10 times a day. Then the other week we had a little row and she told me how nice this guy is...how good-looking he is and so on and so on. I couldn't help it and i started crying. I phoned her back up coz i was so angry and finished it. The next day all i could think about was her. I realised i'd made a big mistake, so we talked and decided to give it another go. Everything is then cool.

Im really really happy....everything is going great.
Then BANG! she goes to see a fortune teller who tells her that she cant see me being the "one" for her and that she'd give us 8 months. She says my GF should spend more time with her friends, and stop wasting her life on me! That was just like the biggest kick in the bollocks i have ever recieved! My GF says she doesn't believe her and that she wants me and everything's gonna be fine. But ever since then im been trying to seperate myself from her.....as if im still looking for the "One", and i honestly cant see if lasting much longer. Whereas everything she used to do didn't bother me, now it just pisses me right off. I just find her so fucking childish sometimes. This is where the age gap comes in. We've talked about living together, getting married, kids and all that shit and then it hits me....she's still only 18! I know she wont wanna be settling down at 20/22. I'll be 26 and thats when i want to be starting to settle. Its really bothering me.
Then the other day she told me that when we have arguements, she doesnt come crawling back(its always me) because she knows that theres plenty of other blokes and she's only young. Is this the talk of a girl head over heels in love with me? I m not too sure.
I really think im too much in love with her and expecting too much from her and im not being fair on her or myself.

Am i just being paranoid. All of a sudden everything she does, makes me mad. Is it me?


For the first time in a while we wont be seeing eachother for a few days. This could save our relationship or it could break it. I dunno.

I really dunno what i want anymore and its killing me.

:( :( :( :( :(

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Sorry for going on!

[Faith]

Awwww hun *hugs*

In my opinion it sounds like, yes she does love you, but maybe she just doesn't see herself as spending the rest of her life with you? I'm your age aswell and I've also got to the stage where I'm thinking about finding someone to spend the rest of my life with, but at 18 you don't really want that yet do you? Sounds as though she is just thinking of the present rather than about the future as you are.

As for her ex, fair enough she's mates with him still but it's very insensitive of her to go on about how nice he is etc, esp. if she knows how it makes you feel. And as you said that's probably down to the fact that she's so young.

Sounds to me like this situation has just made you notice things that you didn't see before cos you were so happy and loved up? You have to think about whether you're content with just being happy for now and spending time with someone you love, even if it's unlikely that it's going to last. Sometimes you have to get out of relationships like this, just so you don't end up getting even more hurt in the longrun. :confused:

Hope some of that helps a little, I have a tendecy to waffle aswell! ;) Feel free to PM me if you want to talk about it.

[TheCymruKid]

Thanks Faith, u pretty much just summed up what ive been thinking. I really want this to happen. We've talked about this so much, she's really easy to talk to. She says give her time and maybe she will feel different in a few years, but im really not sure what i want. Do i stay content with my life at the moment, or do i try and change things and lose one of the most important thing in my life.
Its a gamble, and i really dont like gambling.
I txted her earlier, and told her that we need to talk. Ive been watching my beloved Cardiff City get thru to the play off final(sorry i had to add that!!) So she's ringing me a bit later.

I want her to understand how im feeling, i want her to realise that i get hurt sometimes.

thanks a lot faith :)

[TheCymruKid]

Ive just got off the phone to my GF. Ive got make a descision of whether or not i wanna be with her anymore.


I really wanted her to try and persuade me that its worth it and its gonna last.She didn't. At the moment i think its best to finish it. But i dont wanna regret anything, i dont wanna wake up one morning....alone. im so fucking scared of losing the only girl i have ever loved. But maybe she aint right for me!


I just dont know. im so fucking tired so im off to bed for sum more thinking!!!!!:(

[The Philosopher]

Good luck matey. It's hard enough making a decision that might affect your future, but even harder when it's about someone you love. My advice is think about her. Does she mean the world to you, no matter her faults and shortcomings? I'm sure you can agree with her to sort out the "bothering" by her ex but find out if she has feelings for him or not. Basically, if she does mean everything to you; take a chance with it.

Loving someone and giving up your heart is always a big risk but sometimes you've just got to trust that it'll be ok in the end.

;)

[Lickalotapuss]

I'd suggest to stay with her cos its obvious you feel strongly about her. Also, I think you both need to spend less time together and do things on your own. She might be getting pissed off with the fact that your always together and at that age it won't last that long and she'll end up finishing it. So stay with her but spend more time apart and see how it goes.

[TheCymruKid]

Thanks guys, its nice to see some good advice, and i assure you that its much apprieciated.


She's phoning me after work, so hopefully everything's cool.

I havent stop thinking about her today, and i agree that we need more time apart. i think we're living in eachothers laps.

Ive gotta trust her when she's with her ex, if she tells me there's no feelings and nothing's gonna happen then i need to believe her, otherwise whats the point of a relationship without trust?


I'll let u guys know how its goes(that's if u care!!!)


Once again thanks.


:)

[perfect***day]

Originally posted by TheCymruKid
and i agree that we need more time apart. i think we're living in eachothers laps.




That's what jumped out at me most after reading all these posts. I agreee with most of what Faith said so I can't be bothered to post it all over again, but this is important too - she's only 18 and doesn't want to settle down yet, so maybe you just need a bit of space? To be honest, it shocked me when you said that you were spending 'a few days' not seeing each other 'for the first time in ages.' She's probably feeling a little suffocated, or at least taking everything for granted.

It sounds like she can make you really happy, so do try to save the relationship if you can, mainly by spending a little less time together. Remember, every relationship goes through a rough patch from time to time. Look at it as a test - try to make it work out, and if you can then it will make your relationship stronger and even better :) ...and if you can't, then maybe your doubts are right and she's really not as devoted as you are. But I hope that's not the case.

Good luck :)