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[vodka babe]

Hey all I haven’t really been on for a while, for lots of reasons oh well. I thought id post it’s not for advice its just to clear my head and people can give me advice if they like or share their opinion. Also sorry if its in the wrong forum!

I guess I should start from the top so that you all don’t get confused. Well on Saturday I went to my mates 21st birthday party and I was quite drunk and I wanted to see my bf as he didn’t come to the party with me. So I left the party at 12 and I went to my bf’s house. I wasn’t that drunk but quite. Because his family was all in bed I had to sit in his car with him then he decided we should go for a drive. Although it was like 12.30 at night. So we when out and we were driving and we were driving for a bit and then we got somewhere tuned around and started to come back. Unfortunately on the way back a lad ran out in the road and my bf moved to miss him and we ended up having a car crash. We ended up in a ditch I was crying a lot although I wasn’t hurt I was still in a great amount of shock. My bf was fine and calm and helped to try and calm me down. We were both fine, none of us were hurt thank god.

Although the crash wasn’t bad and the car was alright and we were alright I cant seem to get the accident out of my head its all I can think about. And when I think about it all I do as cry I keep thinking what if and I end up crying myself to sleep thinking the crash over and over my head. For some reason I feel like its my fault that we crashed because if I didn’t go round to his house that night then we wouldn’t have had the car accident. Maybe im just being stupid and letting things get to me. Its really made me think how much I love my bf and how much I want to be with him.

Ok sorry it’s long. I feel kind of better now that ive let my feeling out hopefully my post made some kind of sense.

[KinkyRed]

Oh sweetie.

*hugs*

It's not your fault at all! These things happen, you can't blame yourself. I guess guilt is a natural reaction & I'm not surprised that you're shaken up.
Talk to your boyfriend, I'm sure he doesn't think it's your fault, you just wanted to be with him which is perfectly natural.

PM me if you want to chat some more, I'm more than hapy to listen (/read).

*mote hugs*

[lil_minx]

:( it cant be easy... ive been in god knows how many crashes. i dont really have any good advice, but you shouldnt blame yourself.

Think of it this way, everything that happens leaves a trail of repurcussions... you went to the party and ur bf didnt which resulted in u going to ur bfs, his rents were in bed which resulted in you going for a drive cus if they were awake you would have gone inside etc... you cant blame yourself.

If your mate didnt have a party then maybe you would have been at ur bfs earlier that night and that wouldnt have happened cus you wouldnt have gone for a drive. How ever you look at it, its not your fault. Things happen and that means other things happen. Its just a trail of events going back through many people.

You cant blame yourself hun, when things like that happen its just the way it works out.


hope ive not confused you--thats just my theory!

[Rio]

Awww

Dont worry vodkababe,

Look at it this way, you should be happy that you and your BF are all ok, etc... and forget about the actuall thing, i have had kinda similar experience, but looked on the bright side of it and it made it much better, got over it no probs.

[molo]

Originally posted by vodka babe
Its really made me think how much I love my bf and how much I want to be with him.


why you upset then? its a good thing! :D

surely anything that made you realise something like that is positive

so what, one car. A car is nothin compared to love!

thats how i would see it. Try my viewpoint, i bet its a lot nicer!

[ho_hum]

agree with everything above.

if the guy behaved like he did, ie he was driving his car just to be with you, crashed and still was not miffed about the car and only how you were then i would be very happy.

he is obviously a diamond geezer so be happy that you've got someone decent there for you, nice one.

[Makoto]

That's shock. DOn't always come out for a few days.

[vodka babe]

heya all thankz for all your replies it made me feel alot better, im felling better now anyway im trying to forget about it, but thnx anyway! :)