No oral please

[kosari193]

I have a slight problem concerning my boyfriend and giving blow jobs. It's not that I don't know how to do them or want advice on them, its just that I simply don't like giving head. It makes me feel sick and I can't bare to touch him like that. Does this make me weird in some way? I just don't feel comfortable and I don't know how to say to him that I don't enjoy it. I was up at his house last night and he wanted to do 69 and I just couldn't bring myself to do it. It's odd as I have no qualms about anything else and am worried that its going to affect our relationship. :(

[big_man_with_a_]

he can't make you

don't if you don't want to

it'll be HIM that has a problem, not you... if this is so he'll tell you how "everyone else does it" not true. if he starts on with this and can't understand that you don't want to do it then leave... sex is supposed to be fun, you shouldn't be forced into doing ANYTHING you don't want to.

[Teagan]

Originally posted by kosari193
I have a slight problem concerning my boyfriend and giving blow jobs. It's not that I don't know how to do them or want advice on them, its just that I simply don't like giving head. It makes me feel sick and I can't bare to touch him like that. Does this make me weird in some way? I just don't feel comfortable and I don't know how to say to him that I don't enjoy it. I was up at his house last night and he wanted to do 69 and I just couldn't bring myself to do it. It's odd as I have no qualms about anything else and am worried that its going to affect our relationship. :(

Never do anything you don't want to do! Simple! If he doesn't like it, tell him to lick your arse in return. That'll shut him up! :D

[budda]

Sex should always be enjoyable, dont do it if you dont like it. I wouldnt approach it in terms of well I'm not doing it and if you dont like it go stick it.
Just explain to him that its not that you dont like pleasing him or that he doesnt turn you on but your not comfortable doing it.

[D'OHnut]

Originally posted by Teagan
Never do anything you don't want to do!

Totally agree.

Sex is, like a relationship itself, about compromising, understanding and communication, and if he is unwilling to accept that you do not wish to give him oral sex then it must suggest that he is inconsiderate and unkind in not respecting your decision. Talk to him about it and express your unwillingness to giving him oral sex. If he is decent, he will be understanding and supportive, and he will not force you into do it.

[angelbabe]

Don't worry hun I'm exactly the same, but my boyf doesn't make me do it so I only do it if I'm really in the mood for it ;)

I agree with the others, if you don't like it don't do it, he shouldn't make you do anything you're not comfortable with :)

[Lickalotapuss]

I agree with the others in that you shouldn't do anything you don't want to do.
But neither can you expect oral if your not going to return the favour.
Hopefully for you he will give oral and not expect any in return.

[D'OHnut]

Originally posted by Lickalotapuss
But neither can you expect oral if your not going to return the favour.

That's a little harsh and immature, isn't it? It's like saying 'you stole the biscuit last week so you can't have one now.'

[big_man_with_a_]

Originally posted by Mobily's Ghost
That's a little harsh and immature, isn't it? It's like saying 'you stole the biscuit last week so you can't have one now.'

not really, it's hardly the same... why should he spend time getting her off when she won't do the same? it's a bit one sided.

though if you can't come to a compromise then it has to end. no point in going on.

[D'OHnut]

Originally posted by big_man_with_a_
though if you can't come to a compromise then it has to end. no point in going on.

Exactly! That's what a relationship - and sex - is largely based on, and if it does not exist or if it is one-sided, then it would be unfair.

[Sir Cum]

Compromise with a tit wank for him.

Why did everyone at the start of this topic jump on the "Don't let the barstard make you do things you don't want to!" bandwagon? From what I read he hasn't forced her at all. He just asked if he could have some.

[Mr_Wobble]

Originally posted by Teagan
If he doesn't like it, tell him to lick your arse in return. That'll shut him up! :D If I were given a proposal like that, she would get her arse licked, then I'd expect a blow job. :D

Originally posted by big_man_with_a_
don't if you don't want to

it'll be HIM that has a problem, not you... if this is so he'll tell you how "everyone else does it" not true. if he starts on with this and can't understand that you don't want to do it then leave... sex is supposed to be fun, you shouldn't be forced into doing ANYTHING you don't want to.Yeah, ok, but no oral! :crying: I'd miss it if it were my girlfriend who didn't like giving oral. :(

Mr_Wobble ;)

[badabing]

Mr_Wobble long time no see helloo.

only do what you want to do, and sweety, if this guy loves you he wont mind. he wont care, it wont cross his mind twice.

[Mr_Wobble]

Originally posted by badabing
Mr_Wobble long time no see helloo.
Hellooooo! You can see me? I'd better stop scratching my privates and turn of the webcam then!

Mr_Wobble ;)

[Sir Cum]

I wonder if the girls here would respect the wishes of a man that hates licking pussy? They'd probvably go find someone elsewhere that does.

Fair enough you shouldn't be forced into doing something you don't like. But if you decide you want to do something you don't enjoy because you know it makes the person you love happy - Then good luck to you!

[jacaranda]

Do what you feel most comfortable with. I am like yourself when it comes to going down on a male. I feel ill and cant do it. My boyfriend does not want to push me into doing anything I am uncomfortable with and I would not push him to do something he was uncomfortable with either. You each need to state where the boundaries are i.e. what you feel uncomfortable doing and comfortable doing. If he forces you or pressurises you in anyway to do it then he is not the guy for you.