Hmm, 14 or 16?

[DaisyChainThing]

Ok, I am mega miffed. Rargh, and I just said mega. :/

ANYWAY!

I was talking to my friend today, blah de blah, and we were talking about all this sex shit for some random reason.

Now, I’d always thought that I lost my virginity when I was 16 but my friend thinks differently. :/ I mentioned that when I was 14 I had this older boyfriend guy for a bit (*sigh*) who I almost had sex with. Hmm. Cos rargh, we were going to have sex BUT, euugh, God, he like went in and it hurt, so I decided that I didn't want to have sex with him because I don't do well with pain and so we stopped blah blah blah. :p
So yeah, she said that because he was inside me (argh, I hate talking bout this shit) that I lost my virginity when I was 14 :eek2: and that I've slept with 8 people, not 7. :|

Now I personally didn't think this counted because well, I don't know. :/ I don't really tend to think about it and I have a strange mind, maybe :eek2:.
But....argh, I just don't know.

Please don't shout at me or tell me I'm stupid etc cos I feel really crappy and it'll probably make me cry again.

[Mist]

*edits*

If he went all the way in then 14, otherwise 16. I reckon.

[TempleOfDreams]

Awwwwwww, no crying, it's just not good :(

I wouldn't count it hun... forget what your mate says, if you don't class it as sex then it wasn't. I don't think I would count it either to be honest!!

Edited, I'm crap at spelling!!

[*Lisa*]

I'd say you lost it at 14.

[vodka babe]

if he went in then you lost it at 14.

[DaisyChainThing]

Aww, bless ya for replying.

Originally posted by Mist
*edits*

If he went all the way in then 14

Curses. :/ Ah God, I was going to go into details on thrusts (ooh, love that word) and stuff just then but I will avoid that for now till I can think how to word what happened in a way that people understand rather than as just ramble.

*shuts up*

[*raver*]

I think loosing your virginity is a mental thing rather than the actual act. If you don't want to think of it as loosing your virginity then it isn't.

If someone was raped and it was their first time having sex they probably wouldn't say they lost their virginity because of that.

[Flexigirl]

dont count it if you dont want to
Fraipas

[Sopycookie]

something kinda like that hppened to me but i never counted it as loosing my verginity i dont know why really i just never did so i think 16 not 14.

sopy

[Tinkerbelle]

Originally posted by *raver*
I think loosing your virginity is a mental thing rather than the actual act. If you don't want to think of it as loosing your virginity then it isn't.

If someone was raped and it was their first time having sex they probably wouldn't say they lost their virginity because of that.

so true

[kosari193]

You could say that if he went all the way in you lost your virginity at 14 but if you feel that it was when you were 16, then that's up to you. Was your friend present when you were having sex? I presume not (unless you're very odd!) so I think you should know better than other. Don't get too stressed out about it. It is only a numbr after all.

[Mr_Wobble]

If he went in, then you're no longer a virgin, and therefore you lost your virginity at 14. I suppose if he had tried to enter you, and you gave up you could claim to still be a virgin, but even then I suppose technicaly you wouldn't be.
However, I see your point of view that if he just went in, it was like "ouch" and then he withdrew, that you didn't have sex, and therefore could be seen as still being a virgin. But he went in, therefore you're not. :p

Mr_Wobble ;)

[Harmless]

Originally posted by Flexigirl
dont count it if you dont want to
Fraipas I wish It were that easy :p :D

[molo]

does that mean i can say i didn't lose my virginity to that minger that tried to steal it??

YAAAAAAAAAAY :D

god i hate her :lol:

[DaisyChainThing]

lol, I'm not a virgin anyway. Oh my, I'd be getting a lot of use out of my hands if I were. Not that anyone wanted to know that. :eek2:

Thank ya all for your help. :)

I guess I just didn't count it because it didn't really seem like sex or something. :/ I don't know. I mean, if someone said to you that 'Omg I had sex with this well fit girl/guy the other night' and then they said 'Yeah, I was only in her for a moment and then she asked me to pull out/he was in me for like a second but I made him pull out cos it hurt' I wouldn't think of that as sex. :/

I know what I mean at least. *sigh* Ah well.

[Mr_Wobble]

Originally posted by DaisyChainThing
lol, I'm not a virgin anyway. Oh my, I'd be getting a lot of use out of my hands if I were. Not that anyone wanted to know that. :eek2:

Thank ya all for your help. :)

I guess I just didn't count it because it didn't really seem like sex or something. :/ I don't know. I mean, if someone said to you that 'Omg I had sex with this well fit girl/guy the other night' and then they said 'Yeah, I was only in her for a moment and then she asked me to pull out/he was in me for like a second but I made him pull out cos it hurt' I wouldn't think of that as sex. :/

I know what I mean at least. *sigh* Ah well. I've figured you're no longer a virgin, I was writing as if it were back then, just after your.... encounter. :) Yes, I know what you mean, but I don't agree - you lost it at 14 in my opinion.
Oh, and if you ever need anybody to lick your fingers clean, just call. :naughty:

Mr_Wobble ;)

[DaisyChainThing]

Originally posted by Mr_Wobble

Oh, and if you ever need anybody to lick your fingers clean, just call. :naughty:

Oh my! *is shocked as she is oh, so sweet and innocent* :p

[Poi Boy]

Originally posted by *raver*
I think loosing your virginity is a mental thing rather than the actual act. If you don't want to think of it as loosing your virginity then it isn't.

If someone was raped and it was their first time having sex they probably wouldn't say they lost their virginity because of that.


Avatar Thief ! :mad:

[Bandit4911]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by kosari193
[B]You could say that if he went all the way in you lost your virginity at 14

So, if hed got 6 inches and only went in 4 inches it doesnt count because he didnt go all the way in? :confused:

Does that mean a guy with 10 inches who can only get 8 inches in is still a virgin? :confused: :confused:

Sorry, I know what you mean, I just feel like being argumentative :chin:

[slinkyGirl1]

In technical terms, you only lose your verginity when your hymen breaks and you bleed after , which means that it is possible for girls to lose their virginity horse ridding!!

So the question is "Did you bleed the first time or the second time"

Emotional virginty is differrent , what i mean is my gay friend lost her virginty with a girl , no penatration , but in her mind they "made love" and that to her is the first time that she had sex, what i am trying to get at is , it is up to you which time you lost you "emotional virginity"???;)

[eefs]

it's the horse thing again....:eek2: why does this keep coming up?

[katchika]

I have EXACTLY the same position as you DaisyChainThing, I always thought I lost it when I was 14 and felt pretty disgusted at myself, however now, looking back with hindsight I don't count that, I count an encounter when I was 16 which was undoubtably sex.

It's a hard one to define. If you walked in on your chap, naked with a girl with his bits inside her, you would class that as sex. Not wanting to get over technical, but personally I count sex as at least a few thrusts, not just an attempt which you then give up.

At least I am hoping so, otherwise my reputation will be ruined. :rolleyes:

In the end though, who cares..

[TempleOfDreams]

Originally posted by slinkyGirl1
In technical terms, you only lose your verginity when your hymen breaks and you bleed after , which means that it is possible for girls to lose their virginity horse ridding!!

So the question is "Did you bleed the first time or the second time"

Sorry, but that's balls. You lose your virginity when you have sexual intercourse. It's got fuck all to do with your hymen breaking, although that can happen at the same time.

[Mr. Slinky]

Originally posted by *raver*
I think loosing your virginity is a mental thing rather than the actual act. If you don't want to think of it as loosing your virginity then it isn't.

If someone was raped and it was their first time having sex they probably wouldn't say they lost their virginity because of that.

Well said :thumb:

[Sprouts]

"Virginity is rather a state of mind"

Apparently

[Knee High Stripy Socks]

Daisy, if you felt like you were still a virgin when you were 14 and after that happened, then surely that's what matters?

When I 'lost' my virginity to my boyfriend it hurt and we gave up, and I still counted myself a virgin (then we un-gave up and then I wasn't a virgin :rolleyes: )

If you feel that you lost your virginity at 16 then that is when you lost it.

Anyway, if only a little bit went in, (not like loooads of inches, but say the end or whatever) surely it isn't sex because it isn't actual penetration, is it?

*laughs cos Daisy knows about what I said about me and I'm only doing it in thesite language cos that's were we are!*

[Acrobat]

I agree that it is a physical thing, but I like to think of it as a mental thing.
Technically it was 14. But believe its 16 if thats what you think is right. :)

[angelbabe]

The same thing happend to me, but I sooooo don't want to count it so I'm not! It's tricky though, he went in but then again came straight back out so it's hard to tell, if you don't want to include it then don't as it wasn't full on sex, just penetration.