Sex with ex's

[Cailin]

Ok I was with my boyfriend since last June but for the last few months it wasn't going well at all. Losts of problems, it seemed like he didn't even want to be with me even though he said he did. but anyway we broke up on good enough terms. We were still in touch but nothing seroius or anything. I was meeting other people and i'd say he was too. But one night I met a friend of his and he rang me the next day and totally flipped out. This crushed me cause he was so cruel and I still loved him!!! he said some awful things. He made me think it was all my fault and I was a slut. But my friends were so mad at him cause he treated me like shit for months.
Anyway we kinda sorted it and I forgave him (what a fool I am) but then a friend of his told him something about me that was a complete lie and he attacked me on the phone about it!
I explained and he believed me it wasn't true. I forgave him again but now we're friends like he wants to be but he wants to still have sex!! Hello isn't this weird. He says cause I was with his friend he couldn't go out with me anymore but he still wants sex. I love him for no reason. Its really strange. could someone give me some advice on what I should do. I have no idea if people can even understand what I'm on about or not but if you do help is needed. I'm constantly depressed and I don't need it cause i'm doing exams.
Thanks

[TempleOfDreams]

I think they all sound a bit immature hun :(

But - if you like the guy - and you understand it's only sex he wants - and you WANT to go along with it, then just be fuck buddies. I don't think it would be a good idea though, because if you still have strong feelings for him, and the 'fuck buddie' thing breaks off, it could seem to make your life crumble.

If I was you, I'd totally fuck him off, even as a friend if I had to, and just have fun, find someone new who respects you and isn't immature like this guy and his mates seem to be!

Good luck!! With this and your exams :)

[Cailin]

Thanks!!! I really do want to forget about him. I'll see him everytime I go out though. I know when I see him next he'll come up to me and try and be all nice and stuff. I know he likes the way I look and goes for that evrytime. I want to just walk past and bearly acknowledge him even when he says hi to me but I dunno if I can be that strong. Ya I was thinking about the whole fuck buddy thing but it could crush me if he decided to end it.
I haven't seen him in a few weeks so I don't know how i'd react to him now. Thanks for all your help and i'll try to be strong and get rid of him for good this time!!!:)

[eefs]

Originally posted by TempleOfDreams
I think they all sound a bit immature hun :(

But - if you like the guy - and you understand it's only sex he wants - and you WANT to go along with it, then just be fuck buddies. I don't think it would be a good idea though, because if you still have strong feelings for him, and the 'fuck buddie' thing breaks off, it could seem to make your life crumble.

If I was you, I'd totally fuck him off, even as a friend if I had to, and just have fun, find someone new who respects you and isn't immature like this guy and his mates seem to be!

Good luck!! With this and your exams :)

good advice here. he sounds quite immature. there are so many other men who are worth the time you spend with them. go find them :)

and, is it the LC you're doing? or college exams? good luck!!

[sxy bunny grl]

I wouldn't advise being fuck buddies, as you will get more attached to him, i think to have a fuck buddie there should be no emotional strings attached which there obviously is as you say you love him! i think its a very bad idea to do this as you will prob get more hurt in the end of it.

Also you can prob go out and find someone much nicer who will treat you better and not be so imature.

Hope it goes well babe:)

[davedavidson]

I went out with this girl for 14 months and we had an "active and fullfilled" sex life. We enjoyed it so much, that 4 months afterwards we were still sleeping together, despite being friends. No we are no longer friends and we dont sleep together. But nice memories all the same

[Cailin]

Ye are all so nice in here! Yer advice is really helping me. Ya I think your right about the fuck buddies thing. I think I would be really hurt in the end of it all! Not trying to sound full of myself but I could find someone else that would treat me good! But I dunno I think I'm drawn to these fellas that make me feel like crap. Sounds weird but really thats what I think. Does anyone else think that its always the fellas you don't like like you and vice versa? Annoys me!!
Ya I'm doing my leavin cert by the way!

[davedavidson]

Yes, it always seems to be the people you like who dont like you. Typical **sigh**

[Mr_Wobble]

Just remember this. Ex'es are ex'es for a good reason, and so is your ex. If the sex between you was good, and you're not getting any, and you want it, then I don't see any harm in being fuck buddies. But don't do it if you have any feelings left for him, because that will only bring you grief.
If you're still that pissed off with him about what he did, then I'd say fuck him, but not literally.

Mr_Wobble ;)

[Cailin]

Ok I was out last night and as you do when your drunk you ring people so I rang my ex and we were talking so he said he'd come in for me and we could "talk" more. Well you can guess what kind of talking we did!!!!;) So now I dunno whats going on. It was so relaxed and nice to be with him again. He was so nice to me I know yer probably thinking he was just nice to get what he wanted (sex) but it wasn't like that. He has text already today which is unusual for him! So now what should I think or do?
lol I really am pathetic

[Mr_Wobble]

Doh! Unless you wanted sex, then you're just going to end up getting all screwed up about it. :(

Mr_Wobble ;)

[Cailin]

Ya I thought I would be but I'm totally fine with it now! Its kinda like we're with each other again cause we're not meeting other people you know! So its kinda cool. I had a really great night! And I want some more of that!:naughty: