Not sure where to put this really..

[**Cinderella**]

Ive just got thinking about a lot of things. Mostly due to realtionships in my life so ive decided to put this post in here.
Im getting to the point that if nothing good happens in my life soon then im going to crack.
I feel trapped in my realtionship with my boyfreind...im not sure whether he is the one for me, even though i think hes tried to convince me that i am. Because of him i hardly see my freinds and i know its my own fault really, but im scared of trying to get back in touch with them on a regular basis because they'll think im just using them-maybe i am?
They have changed a lot though since we all used to go out all the time and im not sure if im liking how theyre turning out. Most are in realtionships but nothing as serious as mine.
Ive told my boyf how i feel a million times and since hes just booked me a holiday for the summer holidays i feel even more trapped now. I cant break up with him before hand (thats if i really want to) because hes paid out a lot of money and i cant do it anytime after that because he'll think i was just using him for that.
When hes working im at home doing nothing, not that it bothers me all the time but im getting really down now.
I dont know what im wanting people to say, but please just offer me any advice, cos it might make me feel a whole lot better.
Thanks x

[Kermit]

If you are worried about the relationship then talk to him about it, dont be afraid to tell him that you are concerned about how the relationship is going. Take a breather from each other, socialise with different people than normal; make friends away from the relationship.

Buit if you decide that you dont love him enough to stay with him, then end it. It will be better in the long term to end it, rather than staying with him then ending up resenting him for "keeping" you in the relationship. Itll be kinder on him too; no matter what you do it will hurt him, but sometimes you need to look after number one, nasty as that sounds. But dont worry abgout the money; hell get it back if he cancels, less a deposit and charges. But money shouldnt keep you togetehr if you dotn want to be there; you will end up being resentful of it if you dont sort things out now, whatever that means.

Dont rush into anything though, talk to your bf about your worries. If more couples worked things out thered be less break-ups, but if you feelk a break-up is best then go for it.

[BeckyBoo]

It seems to me as though you have got yourself into a rutt, doing the same boring routine things.
I think you should arrange to meet your friends on a regular basis. Say have a girls night out or even a girls night in with a pizza or something like that, make it a regular once a week thing.
Just because you are in a relationship you shouldnt loose your friends.
When hes working why dont you go out? or have friends round?
I think having more female company for yourself will make your relationship so much better. It sounds to me as though its just you and your boyfriend and to be honest it is very easy to get yourself into that dreaded rutt. Get yourself a life apart from just your boyfriend and maybe you will be a lot happier :)

[**Cinderella**]

I know i need to see my freinds. Ive told my boyf umpteen times, but everytime i suggest going out with them or whatever he'll go in a sulk and im too soft so i'll let him get his own way all the time.
My mam says i should put my foot down but thats not my nature. I like to please everyone, but i can win in this situation.
Yeh i am stuck in a rutt, and im just trying to find a way out, but im not sure how to.
I was best freinds with this girl when we first met. She told some lies to my boyf about me and caused so many arguments between us.
The thing is since i fell out with her, thats when i have become more dependant on my boyf.
I keep having dreams about her and i know inside i do miss her and the laughs we had when we went out together, but its been nearly a year, do you think i should try and contact her again? the thing is i know my boyf wont be happy about it. What do you think?

[byny]

Don't contact this friend unless you are going to clear up the issue about her lies to your boyfriend.

You must have other friends you want to see more and if they are real friends then they won't mind you getting back in touch.

You mustn't let your boyfriend control you like this but nor must you only contact your friends to get at him..do it for yourself and for your self esteem.
Make a date with your mates and make it clear to your boyfriend that your plans to go out with them are non-negotiable. He has no right to stop you from seeing other friends and perhaps if you do get out and about without him a bit more you will be clearer in your mind about what you want to do about the relationship.

Its nice of him to get you a holiday but he shouldn't be blackmailing you with it. He should be doing it because he loves you and wants to make you happy, not because he is trying to buy you or make you feel grateful.

In fact...surely there are nights you don't see your boyfriend - you don't live together do you? He doesn't have to know what you are doing all the time and so you don't even have to tell him that you are going out with your mates. It will have more of an impact if you tell him casually 'I went out to the pub with so and so last tuesday' or whatever, and will hopefully make it clear to him that you are not going to consult him about everything you do before you do it.