While the cat's away...

[perfect***day]

...his girlfriend is oh so tempted to play!!

My boyfriend's away a lot of the time (he's in the army for a year) and I only see him every 3weeks-1month. We survive even though it isn't a perfect situation, we care a lot about each other and are so happy when he's back and we're together :)

BUT we've been together for almost a year, and almost directly before that I was in another long relationship - and I'm missing the single life! A lot of my friends are single and when we're out they have such fun with blokes, it's a different one each night and it seems such a laugh - I'm almost forgetting what it's like to be single but I always I could just have a night out and flirt and pull without being *attached* and having to think about my boyfriend.

I feel really guilty and I wouldn't actually cheat on my boyfriend but I get so curious and tempted!! Anyone else in this situation? I know lots of TheSiters are in long-distance relationships like Meryn, angelbabe etc... anyone sometimes feel like having a laugh while their boyfriend isn't around?




...or am I a bad girl? :o

[BumbleBee]

You're a naughty girl! :)

Seriously though, it is only natural to consider "what if" but if the single life appeals to you more, perhaps that is telling you something about your relationship?

When I lived away from my boyfriend for a year, I can honestly say that I didn't give another man a second glance, but that is just me!

[Faith]

Originally posted by perfect***day
Anyone else in this situation? I know lots of TheSiters are in long-distance relationships like Meryn, angelbabe etc... anyone sometimes feel like having a laugh while their boyfriend isn't around?

I admit that when my mates are single i get a bit jealous, but i'd never ever cheat on my boyf. I've been with him for 3 years and only see him every 3 weeks ish now. If it got so that I really, really wanted to pull, then I'd have to finish it with my boyf first. You need to choose one or the other hun...relationship, or being single. Having the best of both world might seem a good idea at first, but it will just get complicated and end in tears.

[Mwaaaa]

My boyfriend is also int he army so I didn't get to see him much :( but now he is in iraq I don't get to see him at all :crying:

I have never been tempted to cheat on him though but I do get jealous of my friends when they get chatted up & can take it further :rolleyes: whereas everyone round me knows im with a army lad so they don't go near me *thats my excuse anyway* Hehehe :D

It's your choice about hwat you want to happen, why don't you try talking to him about how you feel?! I did that once & we both admitted that it was hard, but then I realised how stupid I was to think about any other lad other than him. But as I said it's your choice huni :)

Good Luck xxx

[Kermit]

If you see a fit lad and wish you could pull him its nothing to worry about especially, it happens in long distance relationships that something easy comes along and it makes you wonder if its all worth it.

But if you are finding that you are resenting your bf for not being single then end it, because something is telling you that its not right for you. Dont end up being bitter at your bf for being away, if you think that its not worth the effort then end it. But dont make any decision lightly.

[jacaranda]

I realise how tempting you may think it is to play. But if you are thinking about it or/and if you do it. Then think why you are doing it. Are you bored of your relationship? do you think that you have to give a man what he wants so that he will leave you alone? There are loads of possibilities why you may be tempted just ask yourself are you happy with your boyfriend and the relationship you are in.

[maccy]

u see 99% of my friends r single, and while i sometimes, yet very rarely, envy them, they envy me much more. they envy the fact that i'm in a stable relationship with someone i care bout and trust.....
so just compare the knowledge of how u feel bout each other to the thought of bein single, and u'll get ur answer....
seen me bein all mysterious:crazyeyes

[Kermit]

Originally posted by maccy
seen me bein all mysterious:crazyeyes

Id rather see you speaking English, not gobshite, but there you go...

[perfect***day]

Thanks everyone :)

When I think about what you're all saying, I do realise that I love my boyfriend to pieces so I wouldn't ever cheat on him, and it's just a mood I sometimes get in when I wish I could go chat up guys when I'm out and take it further, like Mwaa said, but Kermit I don't resent my bf at all and I'm not bored of being in the relationship - I think I just miss him and wish it could be *him* I was with!!

...well, only 6days till he's home now :D

[maccy]

o shutup, just cos im not as "mature" as you, don't give me grief