too many men.....

[anonymousgirly]

I'm all confused. Not sure if this will make sense, but lets see.....

Ok....man no.1....boyf of few years, not getting on as well as we used to, feel a bit like the 'spark' has gone even tho still care about him a great deal and am very scared of the thought of not being with him. Man no.2, have faniced for a while, he flirts a lot and has asked me out several times - have so far declined cos of having a boyf already. Really really like man no.2, he's very good looking and cant stop thinking about him but think he's a bit of a ladies man and has said that he enjoys being single. Then there's man no.3, good looking bloke, get on very well and have a lot in common. Havent known him for very long, but he's already constantly telling me how much he likes me, wants to be with me etc. Which would you go for? Try and make things work with the long term boyf? Take your chances with no. 2? Or go for no. 3 who is the one who seems to like you the most? God....this is like blind fcuking date :rolleyes:

[perfect***day]

looks like you could be happier with men no.'s 2 or 3

HOWEVER

DO NOT FORGET you are still with man no.1 so forget about the others first while you sort out your current relationship. If you feel you're drifting apart and you're no longer happy with him (and given that you're talking about these other men it appears you want out), you should talk to him about it and you should think about ending it - yes it is scary to end a long and serious relationship, but it can often be worse to carry on when the life and soul and spark have disappeared.

If you find you still love your man no.1 then forget the other two. If you end it, then think about the others. In my opinion, no.2 sounds like a player - it would be dreadful if you chucked no.1 for no.2 and he then screwed you over, you'd feel like shit. No.3 sounds nice but don't go for him just cos he likes you! You might ruin a friendship and also at the end of this long relationship it might just be a rebound.

Umm that was a bit rambly but hope it helped!!

[anonymousgirly]

I know exactly what you meant! Firstly, I wont do anything with anyone whilst I'm still with my boyf, couldnt do that to him. But, like you said, the fact that I'm thinking this way about other blokes says something.....

I fancy no.2 the most, but am scared he just wants a bit of fun. Dont want to throw away my relationship for that. But, if he did want more than just a fling, I think I'd drop everything for it. I do also really like no.3, seem to get on with him better and know more about him, but with no.2....I dont know, maybe it's just more of a physical attraction? Oh I dont know :confused:

[BumbleBee]

I think the fact that you are even considering leaving your boyfriend for one of two different men shows that you can't care for him as deeply as you claim, you certainly aren't in love with him!

Ask yourself how long you have had these feelings of wanting to wander - if they're relatively new then perhaps it is just a phase?

Consider exactly how you feel about your boyfriend. What if you end things with him and realise you've made a mistake - you could ruin a good thing for very little. However, if you are unhappy in this relationship, why go straight into another. Surely that will hurt your boyfriend even more?