I like too many people!

[Franki]

Ok, so I like three people, but the first one I am supposed to be going out with, but he is 3 years older than me (I'm 14 hes 17) and he lives on the other side of the country. I love him and I know he loves me too, but I can't handle being with him anymore, I will hardly ever see him, at least not until I move up to live near him next summer, but I don't want to hurt his feelings by saying that I don't want to be with him anymore, I still love him! The next boy, well what can I say, he's practically perfect in every way. I have liked him for around about a year, but I haven't seen him for a long time until yesterday but I was so scared because it was a shock seeing him that I couldn't say anything! He is 4/5 years older than me but he is so sweet and he is SO fit! The last one, I only started really talking to him online a few weeks ago (one of my best friends knew him before and gave me his addy) but I already really like him, but every time I see him (the first time I thought my eyes were going to pop out he is SO fine!) neither of us talks to each other, although online we can talk for AGES! He is 2 years older than me, but fancies my friend, who happens to be with his best mate! I don't know what to do!!! I like way too many people it can't be healthy!

Help me sort it out!?

[molo]

well a 18/19 year old is unlikely to go for a 14 year old

long distance relationship between a 14 year old and a 17 year old looks bad

and this guy online, he fanices a girl whose taken, maybe he likes more than one person as well! (i.e you!)

i think he's your best bet (but thats jus from readin your post briefly while waiting for dinner :D)

[BumbleBee]

I personally think you are far too young to have any real grasp of what love is. I don't think you can love this person if you also fancy two other lads.

These people are all too old for you. It amazes me that someone who is 4/5 years older than you would ever look twice.

The lad you talk to online fancies your mate, so I would say that one was definately out of the question.

The 17 year old needs his head sorting and this older one, well he does too.

Find someone your own age and stop putting so much importance on having a boyfriend, you are only 14 for gawds sake! You aren't expected to make some lifetime committment!

[Franki]

Ok, I get the 18/19 year old thing about him probably not liking me, but at least he is my friend and that is ok. But that doesnt answer the other thing about how do I tell long-distance relationship boy about how i dont want to be going out with him anymore??

[DaisyChainThing]

Just tell him that you want to see other people because you don't think you can wait that amount of time for him. It's not too hard.

[Cute_Baby_Bear]

It aint that hard to do, all you gotta say is that you arent ready for a long distance relationship and he should respect your wishes, long distance relationships are hard to cope with, esp if u aint sure how u feel about the other person. It aint fair on either of u, if ur together but dont realy wana be with him. When i was 14, i had a 18 yr old after me, but he only wanted one thing, which he sure as hell didnt get from me!!

[Franki]

Ok, I will try and tell him, although it will be hard because at the moment we are relying on email communication, he hasn't installed AIM yet and I am banned from MSN, and he NEVER has any credit on his mobile! But I will tell him as soon as I can, thanks for the advice :D

[BumbleBee]

I think the fact that you are relying on email communication speaks volumes!

Also, don't you have a telephone?

Perhaps speaking to him person to person would be a better way to do it?

[Franki]

I would phone him but the problem with that is that when I met him I could only just understand what he was saying to me because of his accent, and on the phone I think it might be worse!