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freefallinangel
14-09-2002, 05:44 PM
Hey!
Am new here - obviously - and thought I would pick your brains as to why my ex is playing head games here.....

Long story short... He was working at my place of work doing some maintenance work. He'd been split up from his babymother for 3 months and I was engaged. He chased me constantly until he finally won me over. I split up my guy and we went together. I knew from the first that he was a 'bad boy' but thats half the attraction isnt it? He had 1 kid of his own and another that he looked after.. the MOST important things in his life. I knew that and understood that and thought we'd just have fun. He pushed it and went further and said that he fell head over heels in love for me. We were together most of the time when we werent working or he wasnt with the kids! The connection was immediate and we found our 'Soulmates', if such a thing exists. He was worried tho that he was a part time dad and it bugged him a lot and so I told him to go back and work it out about 8 times. I tried to leave him about 4 times. But NO - he loved me sooo much and i made him soo happy. In the end he dumped me and we said we'd be mates cos he cant bear to be without me in his life. Im the one who understands him and the only one he can talk to. Believe me, its not easy but I was willing cos I love him. But he keeps getting jealous, keeping tabs on me, telling me he loves me and playing hurtful games.... telling me hes made a mistake, that they both know it but that they're giving it a go, that he wants to be with me. TELL ME WHY????

SuzyCreamcheese
14-09-2002, 06:17 PM
he doesnt want you but he doesnt want anyone else to have you either, Or he does want you but he wants his other women too.
sounds like a control freak to me.

*TiNK*
14-09-2002, 10:17 PM
i agree with rainbow on this one..control freak u need to get rid of him

Lacy
14-09-2002, 10:32 PM
Usually when people do this, say they love you...they dont mean it they just see it as a way of holding onto someone.

If you give into people like this it'll only happen time and time again :)

Tashmania
15-09-2002, 12:06 AM
He's playing games.... and will continue to do so for as long as you continue going back for more. He wants to have control over your life, a sort of "I can't have you so nobody else can" scenario. He can't bear the thought of letting you go and get on with your life, so he plays these games to keep yuo close to him.

Get out of the situation now, or else history will keep repeating itself.

BumbleBee
15-09-2002, 12:21 AM
I feel really thick now because I am don't have a lcue whats going on! I couldn't follow the story!

So, just get yourself out of this situation because you deserve much better. :)

Edited because I spelt 'thick' wrong. Oh the irony..... :o

freefallinangel
15-09-2002, 03:17 PM
Believe me, I aint going back to him even if he begs! I dont do repeats.... and I can be friends with him cos Im that sort of person... besides, I can play games better than him! His mate likes me so if he starts playing any further, he'll regret it! We are really close and dont wanna lose him as a friend... hes like a brother to me... :rolleyes:

BumbleBee
15-09-2002, 03:31 PM
Right, so you're willing to play games with him then? And you'd go with his mate to annoy him?

I take this back then:
you deserve much better.

:(

freefallinangel
15-09-2002, 03:36 PM
Nah - not what I meant! Immediate reactions are bad and thats what that is... dont wanna play games just using humour as a defence mechanism.... Im not that sort of person! Not a bitch, just confused and upset!

Gimme a break!