Kazooz
19-07-2002, 09:15 PM
Hi there.
Well, recently (about a month ago actually) I split up with my first serious boyfriend who I had been going out with for 5 months. It really did damage me and I said to myself that I would have a break from all males.
Then a couple of weeks after we broke up, one of my ex's good friends asked me out. I turned him down, saying that I didn't want to go out with anyone for a long time yet. I don't fancy him either but I didn't say that because I didn't want to be too personal and upset him. He seemed to accept this but still kept texting me saying that he has never felt this way about anyone before! I like him, but the only thing I find attractive about him is his sense of humour.
Last week I went to a party and he was there. We were getting on fine! There was also another lad there who I have always found attractive. I was sitting, talking and dancing with this other lad for a while and then the party games started...we were passing a sweet along using our teeth. I passed the sweet to the boy I find attractive and he actually kissed me! I was really happy about this! As the night went on we continued to stay with each other and kiss a bit more. The boy who asked me out got very upset basically.
Since that night, he has been texting me saying how hurt he is and how he feels so strongly for me. The thing is, I told him that I don't want a boyfriend, but the more I see the other boy (the one I kissed) the more I fancy him. We get on so well and I feel really comfortable with him. I'll be seeing him more over the holidays and I want to know how he feels. I really really fancy him!
I've told the other person that I don't want to go out with him, but I'm finding myself wanting to go out with the boy I kissed at the party. Do I tell him that I want to go out with him? He is a really nice bloke and I never know if he is flirting or just being nice. I like the other lad but I don't want to hurt his feelings. I'm basically stuck in a sticky situation. Should I just explain to everyone how I feel? I need to do it tactfully, how should I go about it?
Thankyou (if you understand that is!)
Kaz
Well, recently (about a month ago actually) I split up with my first serious boyfriend who I had been going out with for 5 months. It really did damage me and I said to myself that I would have a break from all males.
Then a couple of weeks after we broke up, one of my ex's good friends asked me out. I turned him down, saying that I didn't want to go out with anyone for a long time yet. I don't fancy him either but I didn't say that because I didn't want to be too personal and upset him. He seemed to accept this but still kept texting me saying that he has never felt this way about anyone before! I like him, but the only thing I find attractive about him is his sense of humour.
Last week I went to a party and he was there. We were getting on fine! There was also another lad there who I have always found attractive. I was sitting, talking and dancing with this other lad for a while and then the party games started...we were passing a sweet along using our teeth. I passed the sweet to the boy I find attractive and he actually kissed me! I was really happy about this! As the night went on we continued to stay with each other and kiss a bit more. The boy who asked me out got very upset basically.
Since that night, he has been texting me saying how hurt he is and how he feels so strongly for me. The thing is, I told him that I don't want a boyfriend, but the more I see the other boy (the one I kissed) the more I fancy him. We get on so well and I feel really comfortable with him. I'll be seeing him more over the holidays and I want to know how he feels. I really really fancy him!
I've told the other person that I don't want to go out with him, but I'm finding myself wanting to go out with the boy I kissed at the party. Do I tell him that I want to go out with him? He is a really nice bloke and I never know if he is flirting or just being nice. I like the other lad but I don't want to hurt his feelings. I'm basically stuck in a sticky situation. Should I just explain to everyone how I feel? I need to do it tactfully, how should I go about it?
Thankyou (if you understand that is!)
Kaz