sex and porn

[Ellie]

I have been going out with my bf for 5 years. Over the past year I have noticed a decline in his sex drive and have talked to him about how it makes me feel. He says he is just tired. Then a month ago I found out he had been secretly looking at porn when I was out. I have confronted him about it as I feel inadequate and hurt. He didn't have any answers.What should I do?

[barbie]

I had a similar problem with my boyfriend. I was hurt that he would rather look at porn than have sex with me. I wouldn't have minded if our sex life hadn't got so bad, but that was the final hurt. We broke up not long after. Sorry, just telling what happened. I hope you can work things out.

[angelbabe]

I think you need to add a bit of space into your sex. After 5 years the novelty has worn off now and he's probably just getting abit bored. Change how you do it, try new positions, this should get him re-interested. As for looking at porn, that just shows he's a typical male!:rolleyes:

[Ocean Sailor]

Rather than get on at him, which will probably make him feel worse, why not use the porn to help spice up your sex life again.

[happy_pants]

Hi

I'd agree with that, use porn as part of your sex life.
It sounds stupid, but can be incredibly stimulating, maybe buy a polairoid so if he feels he needs porn, at least he would be looking at you.
Sorry if that sounds pervy, its not meant too!!!!!!!