Relationship without sex?

[Pauldnh]

Ok I had a random thought which I want to run by you guys. Could you cope with a relationship without sex? If not then why? Also how long can you go without really needing a good shag?

[whizzygirl]

i think there are a lot of people out there having relationships without sex, and i guess they are happy enough or they wouldn't do it, right???

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i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.

[Pauldnh]

Oh I agree, I only asked coz most of the people on this site seem to be in a relationship where they are sleeping with their partner.

[RachaelHolmes]

I have a friend who has been married for 2 years and been with her husbaund for a total of 7 years. They don't have sex, they haven't in 5 years or more. They both say they are happy together and don't see the point in having sex when they have no plans to have a family.

[Pauldnh]

Well I guess in a way that that is true love, the fact that they are happy without sex. But surely they don't need to have to want a family to see the need for sex? Well everyone is different.

[Snakeman65]

I was in a relationship without sex for over a year, it was ok, we got on fine without the sex. It wasnt easy but it still worked and hey, there are other ways to satisfy oneself!!

[This message has been edited by Snakeman65 (edited 27-06-2000).]

[fabio]

i dont know why people need sex so much these days lol

[lucy180485]

im in a relationship where we are both virgins!!!

[Pauldnh]

Originally posted by lucy180485:
im in a relationship where we are both virgins!!!

Cool! I think it's really good when you can be in a relationship without sex. It shows you like them for the person they are and not just the looks.

P.S. For all those of you in a sexually active relationship, I am not saying your shallow and can't cope without sex. Please don't think that coz I don't want to cause an uproar.

[Caliph]

Originally posted by mark harrison:
I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now and we haven't had sex. we kiss & cuddle. We fall asleep together in each others arms. We are deeply in love and we haven't even considered sex. Couples who rush into sex before building a stable relationship will in the long run be unhappy & miserable (in general) cause the relationship will get boring if its just sex. Am I right? Me and my girlfriend lie in bed and talk for hours on end. What do you all think a good relationship depends on? Sex or communication?

Communication every time, they may be great at sex, but in the long run being able to talk to someone is far more important, Ootherwise you might as well marry an inflatable doll.

[Alan london]

Whilst I agree that a good relationship is all about communication, I have to cite the old adage of "you can't bake a good cake without all the ingredients!".

That said, a non-sexual relationship does not mean a non-physical relationship. At the end of the day it depends on individual taste.

Personally, I believe that the sexual element is as important as the communication.

Regards



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Alan London

[Turtle]

Originally posted by Alan london:

...I have to cite the old adage of "you can't bake a good cake without all the ingredients!".


True, but then again you could think of sex as the icing. For some ppl it makes a relationship that much more special, whereas others may not need it so much.

That said, I can't really comment. I've never been in a deep and meaningful relationship. But what i say usually sounds good.

[Dancintoe]

I may be just a fly on your soup, but I think this topic is getting on the button. I have met elderly couples, in love still, who say that a good conversation and respect is essentiel for a good match. Especially at 80. But I am only 30 something and in a relationship with a great conversationalist and a very respectful man. I have to say that I really miss the sex and the meeting of two loving bodies which only makes for a more connected sense to the partner. Conclusion. A successful relationship should therefore be based on love (physical as well as emotional and intellectual)= (sexual compatibility, good conversation and compassion) But I'm just the fly on the soup! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">

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[Dancintoe]

But sadly... to answer your questions...
I don't believe so.
Because It is a need for a normal personnal growth and psycholgical health!
Without being frustrated or missing out on love... not too long.

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[Daze]

I think when u r in a long term relationship sex is a lot bigger a thing than just going out n getting it on with some girl u just meet on a night out. When ur really into some1 sex is a lot better and much more important, so although I think sex is a big part of a relationship it's definately good to have a non sexual relationship for a while at first.
If the non-sex goes on too long though people(especially the bloke) might start thinking about going elsewhere to satisfy needs.