New Girl

[SpikeIsland]

Ok, here is the scene. Met a girl in a club a couple of months ago. Been going on dates with her ever since. Lots of fun, but not sure where I stand. She has never referred to me as a bf, she talks about other blokes and stuff. Thing is I'm enjoying having a alugh just now and I don't want to get too seriosu. So here's the dilemma : should I come out and ask her where we stand and risk spoiling things, or just sit tight and wait and see what happens?

[brandonwalsh]

Ahhhh, the age old dilemma.<P class="body">Sounds to me like you've got a good thing going there mate: a greaT friend and all.<P class="body">But 0- deep down, do you want it to be more than that? <P class="body">Gawd, I feel like Oprah.

[SpikeIsland]

Well, a bit more than 'just' a friend really. I mean we sleep together about, ooh I dunno, once a week and stuff. Still not sure though.

[kim]

do u yhink shes worth the risk? if u want things 2 get seriuos u have 2 talk 2 her, u won't no if u don't ask. u can't read her mind (well u mite!)

[sarah21]

If you really do not want to get too serious, and she acts like you say (suggesting it is not serious for her either), you are in the perfect place. Do not f*ck it up by asking questions.<P class="body">You would like it to get a bit more involved. Well, why not act that way yourself, without getting to bf-like in the process - you might scare her off and loose a good thing.

[Golden Oldie]

Hello new girl, s'pose you're under 20 are you, not interested in a Golden Oldie who has only a keyboard for company, and only old memories of a lovelife. Just say goodbye now, it'll save on tears.

[SpikeIsland]

Erm, ok that last one makes no sense whatsoever...

[Alan london]

Originally posted by SpikeIsland:
Erm, ok that last one makes no sense whatsoever...<P class="body">
HAHA bless 'im you gotta laugh - he's obviously an oldie!!<P class="body">As for your dilemma, why don't you ask her how she feels? If you are sleeping together, you should be able to discuss such things, even if it is a little akward at first, just keep the conversation flowing.... GLuck<P class="body">

[SpikeIsland]

Ok, things have moved on in a genrally good direction since i did the original post and it is now kinda semi serious. Which is kinda nice.