don't get it!

[bacardi]

why is it that when i go out (eg dancing) i get chatting up, brought drinks, danced with, told that im good looking and so on; yet in my normal day i don't even get a second look by guys?(im a girl)

i have alot of older male friends (about 20 years older) who i meet at the pub, who says that they can't believe im single and they say that im good lookin and funny. i also have male friends my age (16) who say that im a laugh too.

so why is it that no-one will ask me out.? (please bare in mind that im not desperate, just kinna concerned/worried)

[sexy little thing]

well when you go out dancing most peoples intention is to pull. But in a normal day, you don't go out with the same intention. That's why.
You also can't expect the lads to look at you, you've got to make an effort to look at them aswell. If they notice that your looking at them they might be interested.

[Balddog]

What do you look like?

[BumbleBee]

Originally posted by bacardi:
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i have alot of older male friends (about 20 years older) who i meet at the pub, who says that they can't believe im single and they say that im good lookin and funny.</STRONG>

Perhaps these older blokes are after one thing? Of course blokes are going to say things like this when you're out dancing and drinking because they want to cop off with you!

[Lexxie*]

That's exactly the same as what happens to me - when I go to the pub/clubbing, i constantly get chatted up etc, guys tell me I'm gorgeous, yet I'm still single! What's up with that? Ugh, men!!! <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[leese]

yeah same happens with me to, maybe we're too good for bastard men

[angelbabe]

its probably cos when you got out your surrounded by pissed blokes, and we all know how randy blokes are when there pissed dont we!!! <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[leese]

not all guys thank you!

[angelbabe]

ok, not all guys but a very high majority of them!! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[Harmless]

bacardi i bet lots of blokes see and like you and want to ask you out

yet in my normal day i don't even get a second look by guys

Its maybe for lots of reason, Bloke being shy, You maybe don't look so freindly to ask out, (You look so good is not worth trying to talk to you because your already have a bf) all things i find that stop me talking to girls in the street.(Plus we all feel braver when we had a drink).

Why can't you ask out a guy if you see one you like??????

If you leave everything to us men nothing will get done!! <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

why is it that when i go out (eg dancing) i get chatting up, brought drinks, danced with, told that im good looking and so on

Not trying to be nasty but blokes will tell you anything to get you in bed!!

[leese]

afterthought: maybe we dress too slutty when we go out - discuss!

[UniqueFreak]

"we all know how randy blokes are when there pissed dont we!!!"

Of course, and we all know that women NEVER think about sex or get horny when they're out drinking in a pub/ club atmosphere (??!!)

Get a group of women together and they're ten times worse than men.
I know, I drink mainly with girls and I'm often shocked by how loud and offensive they can get!!
Women dress to pull, whether they admit or not.
Why do they spend so long choosing outfits, doing hair, make up etc when they're "only going out with the girls"?!

[rampant]

Bacardi what sort of men are you after? Do you go to places where they are?

[bacardi]

answers to afew questions you guys have asked:
i have very long hair, brown eyes,size 12, (or ten in america) big (ish) boobs...
i go for slightly older guys, who have to be able to make me laugh and to able to treat a girl right eg let her like her football!lol
oh and i do go out alot, pubs, movies, meals, football (i know it is now the end of the football season!)

[Night]

Not trying to be nasty but blokes will tell you anything to get you in bed!!
have to agree with Harmless...this is in no way a slight on you (your description sounds very nice), just an observation on men....

At nightclubs, most people are on the pull, during the day they aren't always....to get a guy to ask you out you need to have guys, of similar(ish) age to have conversations with first....


Night

[bacardi]

maybe i didnt make myslef clear i do have lots of friends my age (and older)all who know me long/well enough to know that im single

[KinkyWizard]

EASY--- alcohol--- gets rid of all inhibitions and worries people may have and they just go for it-- plenty of people will fancy you durin the day, but simply be too embarassed to go up and ask you-- in a club, obviously the atmosphere is more orientated around sexual contact, and the openness of every1 gives people the confidence to ask-- happens to everyone hun, dont worry <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[Toast]

Seriously don't stress. It's when you're not looking that you find what you want...me and my ex case in point. I was hurt and bitter and didn't want a relationship, I met her and went out for two years. Relax, enjoy life, there's more to it than finding someone to go out with. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[Loopi]

*cough* relationships *cough*

[rampant]

Bacardi
I agree with some of the posters. You don't need to worry. You seem like a well balanced girl and your description seems like you are attractive.

Some blokes in clubs can only be after one thing but some are not. But its best to air on the side of caution in those sorts of environments.

In terms of your daily life there isn't a lot of opportunity to "chat" up women/men in society. Maybe at work you can flirt and meet someone you like , but work relationships can be dodgy.

You will meet loads of other people as days go by. Meet them in the Gym, coffee shop etc The best way to meet people in a relaxed area is a house party (again be careful with smooth talkers) where you can be surrounded by your friends and be able to relax witha drink.

If you get desparate you could always try the online dating sites. Don't be embarassed this is just another way to meet people.
Take Care <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[Kat]

Originally posted by bacardi:
<STRONG>why is it that when i go out (eg dancing) i get chatting up, brought drinks, danced with, told that im good looking and so on; yet in my normal day i don't even get a second look by guys?(im a girl)

i have alot of older male friends (about 20 years older) who i meet at the pub, who says that they can't believe im single and they say that im good lookin and funny. i also have male friends my age (16) who say that im a laugh too.

so why is it that no-one will ask me out.? (please bare in mind that im not desperate, just kinna concerned/worried)</STRONG>

Yeah same here. Annoying is'nt it?