50-50?

[tri_me]

I've been going down on my girlfriend (licking her out) since we first started going out - about one & a half years now, & we both love it!!

The thing is she has never once recipricated!

I don't want her to feel pressured, so i have never asked for it. Should i ask? I don't even want to discuss it with her because i don't want her feel guilty cause she isn't - & all that baggage etc.

What do you think i should do?

[Turtle]

Erm...you went her to lick you out?

Well, ok, but, that's a bit worrying. <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

Ok, no, seriously, ideally, she should reciprocate, but you could just talk to her about it, ask her if she's got an aversion to it, and be prepared to accept the answer.

Good luck.

[*DEVIL*]

LOL @ Turtle <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

I agree you will never get it until you can talk to her.

Maybe try dropping subtle hints. <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[Diver]

If you've been going out with your girlfriend that long the one thing you should be able to do is talk honestly with her!!!! I'm mean you should be able to ask her mean it with no pressure, after all she's probably just as worried as you are about it!!

SO TALK TO HER
Diver <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[Hamper]

sorry but what's reciprocate? im not english

[Schnap me Baby]

have the same thing with my bf and we've been together for 9 months. i cant really explain why i dont want to do it but i think its just a mental thing due to bad bj experiences in the past. i wouldnt pressure her because although my bf doesnt mean too i often feel pressure when he asks me about it. you may just have to except that it is something that she doesnt want to do mate sorry

[Kiezo]

"Sub-consciecely" (sp?) sing the Blow Job Song, by Blink 182 <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

lol

[smoif]

Originally posted by Hamper:
<STRONG>sorry but what's reciprocate? im not english</STRONG>

To return the favour, giving and recieving.

[smoif]

I was with one partner for 11 years and didn't return the favour once. The main reasons were that, 1. He didn't ask, 2. I didn't ask, 3. I was shy about sex and we didn't talk about things like that and 4. I was scared I'd do it wrong.

The best thing all round to do is ask her. If she is not willing to return the favour then you can feel well within your rights to withhold cunnilingus from her. On the other hand if it doesn't bother you that much keep things the way they are but still let her know you'd like it if she did.

Let her know she doesn't have to go the whole way (let you cum in her mouth), maybe just start by stroking you or kissing you there, until she feels comfortable with the sight and smell of you so close up. Make sure you are spotlessly clean and maybe use some flavoured oils.

I was lucky; my first time at fellatio was with a very understanding and patient man. He was great at telling me where I was going right and wrong and never once pressured me into doing anything I didn't want. But I doubt he would have kept pleasuring me if I had never reciprocated. How could I have blamed him really?

[ 22-05-2002: Message edited by: smoif ]

[tri_me]

Thanx for the comments guys!