am i gay?

[EVERYONESA?]

I have been with my gf for 2 yrs and i love her with all my heart and the sex is great. Just recently i have been getting very close to my best friend and he is the same sex.
the other nite we went out on the piss we got very drunk and i spent the nite at gis house as i had spent so much money on drink i couldnt afford a taxi.
when we arrived back at his house we decided that we would start drinking even more, we were watchin porn on the tv and both got very horny, anyway the top and bottom of it is i gave him a blow job it felt great and in the morning we repeated the act again but went all the way. help me its the first time i am not atracted to blokes but i think i have just fallen in love with him and would love to do it again he keeps giving me the come on too. HELP

[Bangkok Chick Boy]

That's a very gay thing to have done.

[angelbabe]

if your in love wih your girlfriend but you say you loved giving your mate a blowjob, then your bisexual! if you had done the act when drunk then it could have been the drink, but becasue you repeated it in the morning, you obviously knew what you were doing.

is your mate gay?

[Turtle]

I'm not too sure. You're not attracted to guys, yet you claim you love this guy. You love your girlfriend as well.

Now, this is bigger issue at hand: You just cheated on your girlfriend of two years. Suddenly, the matter of your sexuality becomes largely irrelevant. I seriously suggest you somehow find a way to tell her you just screwed her best male friend.

Actually, I've come to the conclusion you're actually just a nymph, and you'll screw anything that moves. Just hope it's human and alive.

[Zeno]

Well, you could be bisexual but it's also likely that your attraction towards your girslfriend is due to your 'social conditioning'... most gay men first 'come out' by saying they are bisexual... then this becomes homosexual.

It's quite normal, but my advice is this - know who to trust. You may feel alone and need someone to talk to... choose wisely. This happened to a friend of mine (honest).

Now I bet Turtle has something sarcastic to say to me... <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[EVERYONESA?]

I AM NOT A NYMPH, I HAVE ONLY HAD TWO SEXUAL EXPERIENCE`S AND I AM 20, WITH MY GF AND ONE WITH MY FRIEND COULD THIS JUST BE MY HORMONES PLAYING UP OR IS THIS JUST ME BEING A TWAT.

IS THERE ANYONE ELSE OUT THERE THAT HAS DONE THE SAME OR SIMILAR OR ARE IN THE SAME SITUATION AS ME CRITISISUM AND OPINIONS ACCEPTED

THANKS <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[Bangkok Chick Boy]

I think you're a fool for doing it. If you love your girlfriend and the sex is great, you should never have done it.

[EVERYONESA?]

THANKS ZENO IIAM GLAD THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE THAT UNDERSTANDS PROBLEMS AND REALIZES THT ITS NOT CALLED BEING A FREAK ITS CALLED LIFE!!!!


THANKS AGAIN LETS HOPE I CAN SORT MY HEAD OUT <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[mr turbo head]

Originally posted by EVERYONESA?:
<STRONG>THANKS ZENO IIAM GLAD THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE THAT UNDERSTANDS PROBLEMS AND REALIZES THT ITS NOT CALLED BEING A FREAK ITS CALLED LIFE!!!!


THANKS AGAIN LETS HOPE I CAN SORT MY HEAD OUT <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

your problem is your fucking caps lock.

[EVERYONESA?]

Sorry, Not everyone is a perfect as your Turbo head

[mr turbo head]

Originally posted by EVERYONESA?:
<STRONG>Sorry, Not everyone is a perfect as your Turbo head</STRONG>

Of course not <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[Mr Maypoo]

Originally posted by EVERYONESA?:
<STRONG>Sorry, Not everyone is a perfect as your Turbo head</STRONG>

We all wish we were! <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[*DEVIL*]

Originally posted by mr turbo head:
<STRONG>

your problem is your fucking caps lock.</STRONG>

<IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> How do you fuck caps lock? <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

Back to the question... I think you should be honest with your girlfriend before she finds out. Explain to her you didnt know what you were feeling and how you are sorry and that you need time to work your feelings out a bit.
<IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> hope things go well

DEVIL

xxx

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[thaistixx]

yep, you are gay. or you can call it bisexual if you want <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

If you suck a dudes dick and like it and do it again, you're gay, period.

[kathryn]

I don't think you should try and pidgeon (sp?) hole yourself.

I'm sure that there are many people out there who have experimented with both men and women, you really need to work out which you prefer for yourself.

The real problem, as everyone else has said here is that you cheated on your girlfriend, and you will need to talk to her about both this event and the new feelings you think you are having.

Good Luck. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[Balddog]

Im happy to pigeonhole...


If you like the cock then you are gay.

[100% Chevalier]

Originally posted by thaistixx:
<STRONG>


If you suck a dudes dick and like it and do it again, you're gay, period.</STRONG>

Oh the poetry. <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

<STRONG>most gay men first 'come out' by saying they are bisexual... then this becomes homosexual.</STRONG>

I never knew that, damnit did it wrong, must be punished....anyone care to help? <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[scarlettcloud]

it would be unfair to say that if you love your girlfriend and the sex is great then you shouldn't have done it, cos you were drunk...HOWEVER...the fact remains that the next morning you did it again whilst sober...so what does this tell you? i think...and i this is just my opinion...the reason you love or think you love this boy is perhaps just because you are such good friends? and the sex was perhaps just an experiment?
you cheated on your girlfriend though and if you respect her at all you will tell her...but not until you figure out in your own head your sexuality.
i have quite a few gay friends and they have come out as Bi later to reveal that they are actually gay...
its all very well posting and asking for advice and no one minds giving advice i'm sure, i understand you want to get other people's perspective on this...but you are the only one who can answer your question.
you just need time to figure yourself out.
i dont know if this has helped.
good luck <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
Megsy

[Zeno]

"you are the only one who can answer your question"

I wonder if a pun was intended with the use of the word "head"???

Anyway, I think you shouldn't worry so much... things will sort themselves out. Another explanation might just be that you were hungry... eheheh, jus' kiddin'

thaistix (or whatever) - America didn't fight for it's freedom, it slaughtered the many thousands of indigenous people to gain theirs. Just a point...

[scarlettcloud]

heeheehee no pun intended by the use of the word head...sorry....

[Bangkok Chick Boy]

He's a gayboy. It's simple. Thats it, topic closed.

[CLEVERTONI2002]

Everyonesa,

Life sometimes is simpler that it seems to be. Why don't you give yourself enough time to find out what your preferences are??
From my very personal point of view, having had sex twice with your girlfriend, and once with your best friend, is not enough tries to really be able to say what you like better, true??

To say wheather you are gay or not at this stage, is not the most important thing in the world. Regardless your sexual preferences, you have to look for happiness, and in both ways (Gay, straight,bi- or any others), the most important thing is that you feel fulfilled with the way you live, and the way you enjoy your sexuality.

In any case, what does your boy best friend think about all of this?. I think he probably has an opinion, which might be quite relevant for you both.

Don't talk to your girlfriend, until you are 100% sure of what you want to say, otherwise you might hardly hurt her, and that can be avoided if you know what you are talking about.

I had a similar experience a few years ago, and now I am extremely happy that it happened.

Do not rush, try to be natural (do not force yourself), follow your instincts and feelings, and the most important thing, come to a resolution that <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">MAKES YOU HAPPY

Good luck!!

XXX

[EVERYONESA?]

Thankyou i think thats helped me alot it takes time but i am sure i will come through it.

thanks again

X

[SconeBeast]

Originally posted by Balddog:
<STRONG>Im happy to pigeonhole...

</STRONG>

Now, that's just sick.... <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[Balddog]

Originally posted by SconeBeast:
<STRONG>

Now, that's just sick.... <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

Im shocked at your smutty innuendo...Especially on such a serious, civilised place as this sex board.

<IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[Diver]

Being Gay is great however if you decide you are it's really going to hurt your girlfriend, and once you've decided to tell ppl your gay it's very hard to go back and say actually "i was wrong i'm not really gay" so think about it very carfully b4 you make any rash decisions.
And finally it has to be your chouise don't let anyone else make it for you,
And Being gay is great <IMG SRC="cool.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
Diver

[CLEVERTONI2002]

Originally posted by Diver:
<STRONG>Being Gay is great however if you decide you are it's really going to hurt your girlfriend, and once you've decided to tell ppl your gay it's very hard to go back and say actually "i was wrong i'm not really gay" so think about it very carfully b4 you make any rash decisions.
And finally it has to be your chouise don't let anyone else make it for you,
And Being gay is great <IMG SRC="cool.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
Diver</STRONG>

Hello diver,

Can I just ask you what is so great about being gay??

Thanks


<IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[nosferatu1000]

well, i'm not diver, but the best thing about being gay for me is just that i finally can say i'm gay, which took a long time...oh, and sucking cock is the best thing ever <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[s3xk1tt3n]

So coz i've kissed a couple of girls does that make me a lesbian. Most of the people that have a problem with the whole gay issue is men.
If anyone is gay it might be your mate you should talk to him and give him the cold shoulder

[Balddog]

Originally posted by s3xk1tt3n:
<STRONG>So coz i've kissed a couple of girls does that make me a lesbian. </STRONG>

He didnt just kiss the other bloke though did he <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[CLEVERTONI2002]

Originally posted by nosferatu1000:
<STRONG>well, i'm not diver, but the best thing about being gay for me is just that i finally can say i'm gay, which took a long time...oh, and sucking cock is the best thing ever <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

ha, ha, ha.... good remark about "the dick sucking".... but I guess (surely guessing) it might be even better when you are sucked at the same time... ups <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> sorry, this is getting dirty talk...

Talking seriously now, I know what you mean... is such a relief when you can talk about it openly with friends and family.... well done!!! there are still many people keeping it as their biggest secret, sad.

Have a good suck then... I mean a good time. <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

(My friends also say that gay clubs are better fun, even if you are stright)

[Greenfields]

Hi all,
Ok I thought i better try and steer the topic back on track <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> . Personally, I think the guys story does sound quite self explanatory to me. Surely if your gay, you find males attractive sexually or otherwise. Now, ok there's experimenting when your drunk or whatever but he actually did it again in the morning...? You sound gay to me, if not bi. <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

<img src="http://www.shropshirevts.com/greentag.gif" alt="image">

[CLEVERTONI2002]

Originally posted by s3xk1tt3n:
<STRONG>kissed a couple of girls does that make me a lesbian. Most of the people that have a problem with the whole gay issue is men.
If anyone is gay it might be your mate you should talk to him and give him the cold shoulder</STRONG>

Have you also being eating punani's darling??

"Most of the people that have a problem with the whole gay issue is men"... that sounds so clever and witty!! Yep!! Let's gonna mark the differences between men and women again!! I do not even dare to make any comments, what do you mean anyway??
<IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[100% Chevalier]

Originally posted by nosferatu1000:
<STRONG>well, i'm not diver, but the best thing about being gay for me is just that i finally can say i'm gay, which took a long time...oh, and sucking cock is the best thing ever <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

Tisk, Tisk Nosser! You'll be given gays a bad rep <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

The best thing for me about the gay thing is not just to be able to say I'm gay, but to be proud of it, and, thankfully, be accepted for it.

[CLEVERTONI2002]

Originally posted by 100% Chevalier:
<STRONG>Originally posted by nosferatu1000:
well, i'm not diver, but the best thing about being gay for me is just that i finally can say i'm gay, which took a long time...oh, and sucking cock is the best thing ever <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

Tisk, Tisk Nosser! You'll be given gays a bad rep <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

The best thing for me about the gay thing is not just to be able to say I'm gay, but to be proud of it, and, thankfully, be accepted for it.

100% agree indeed!!!

[Balddog]

Why are you proud of being gay?

[s3xk1tt3n]

alot of men are homophobics though. I haven't been down on a girl before (come close to it though, her b/f stormed out). I don't see as trying something once puts you straight in the Gay category, even though you done it in the morning too. Tell your girlfriend you have got mixed emotions about it all and tell you mate the same if you love them both you need to set them both straight

[100% Chevalier]

Originally posted by Balddog:
<STRONG>Why are you proud of being gay?</STRONG>

Shouldn't I be?

And I dont think I mean proud, more that I've accepted it as part of who I am, but not all of who I am, if you get my drift.

[Balddog]

Originally posted by 100% Chevalier:
<STRONG>

Shouldn't I be?

And I dont think I mean proud, more that I've accepted it as part of who I am, but not all of who I am, if you get my drift.</STRONG>

That sounds more sensible to me <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

I just dont get the whole 'proud to be gay' brigade....Sexuality is sexuality, its not something you have control over so how can they be proud? Its not as though its an achievement. Im not proud to be straight, its just how I am..

[CLEVERTONI2002]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Balddog:
[QB]


"I just dont get the whole 'proud to be gay' brigade....Sexuality is sexuality, its not something you have control over so how can they be proud? Its not as though its an achievement. "

Mate, you are absolutely right!!!! But.... there are so many people struggling how to tell their friends and family, that when they finally do so, it feels so great (the fact of being free and brave to tell everybody), that the feeling is very close to proudness. <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[Bangkok Chick Boy]

I can't believe this has got to 3 pages! Just leave the Gayboy alone! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

[Deeeeb]

Originally posted by Bangkok Chick Boy:
<STRONG>I can't believe this has got to 3 pages! Just leave the Gayboy alone! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

It wouldnt get that far if you didnt keep on replying with stupid comments <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">