anger problems...

[curly_boy]

hey all
my life is a mess right now, behind on college work, fallen out with my parents yet again, well, nothings new there but recently i'm just getting really really angry i want to punch the person or thing thats making me so angry, and i hardly ever what to punch anyone, the only time i've done that is when i've been pushed around loads.

Basically today i saw the girl that i like, not much has really changed on that front, tried to tell her how i feel but she doesn't pick up on hints to well, but every time i see her with this guy from college, who was dating her best friend and now wants to date her, i just want to beat the crap out of him, I no that i just want to protect her but the guys a real asshole, i mean, breaking up with a girl for her best friend, wtf. this isn't the only time, at hockey training theres some lippy little shit whos not half bad but if he scores against me, which rarly happens, i want to just wrap my stick around his head and hes like only 12. Those are just 2 times when it happens like 10 times aday, I'm normal really calm and the one that stops fights and i'm scared of gettting into fights, not because i'm gonna get hurt but because of why, i have no idea y i'm getting so angry. I have no idea what i can do?? sorry its a bit of a rant but its a way of calming me down some times, seems to have helped me

[Soph001]

Hi curly boy
I can see you've got a problem there, and I'm glad you're posting about it here rather than going and punching someone, even though you sometimes feel like it! In the short term, have you read this (http://www.thesite.org/healthandwellbeing/mentalhealth/otherconditions/dealingwithanger)article about anger management? There are quite a few useful websites out there, from how to recognise and manage your boiling point (http://www.yourboilingpoint.org.uk/v1/Default.aspx) to this more health-oriented online booklet from Mind (http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/How+to/How+to+deal+with+anger.htm).

I think it would help if you read these and got yourself a few coping techniques, but in the long term my feeling is that this will pass quite quickly - especially if you remain as rational and sensible about it as you're being now. If you find that it doesn't, there are therapies like Cognitive Behaviour Therapy or even hypnosis, that may be worth trying. I'd put it down to a temporary hormone imbalance, but there may be something slightly more serious in it, so if it continues for I'd see your doctor. I hope this helps, please let us know how you get on and which strategies work for you, if you like.