Feeling at a constant low

[welshgirl]

Recently, I've been feeling so low. There are a number of factors which seem to be contributing to me feeling like this:

- The stress of college is slowly starting to get to me. It's a more academic course than A Levels (IB if anyone knows about it!). I am really organized and make sure that all deadlines are met. I flew my Christmas exams and I'm on the road to getting into the second year. However, I don't know why but I'm constantly beating myself up over things. I get really good grades but still say to myself "That's absolute shit I can do alot better". I dropped out of college last year because of it but I'm not allowing myself to drop out this year.

- Men! I was seeing someone who lives by me but he seems to have vanished. I haven't done anything to him. Nothing at all. I've hardly heard from him during last week. I got the odd text and that was it. He hasn't given me any explanation to why he's has just left. I keep thinking my self move on! Easier said than done, and I often wonder what part of me made him just go?

- My period is 2 months late. I'm not pregnant as I've taken a pregnancy test. I'm suffering from the worst period pains going and my mood swings are getting really bad. I'm worried that there is something wrong with me, I'm only 18 and I know it takes several years for your period to regulate but still, 2 months late!

I seem to put myself down all the time. Everything I do can be done better. I compare myself with other people and then put myself down because of it. I come across as really bubbly infront of my friends both in and out of college, but deep down I'm really quite sad.

I just don't know what to do now. I can't really continuing feeling like this.

Any help/words would be appreciated.

[omg hi]

it sounds like you're a bit stressed out honey. have you spoken to anyone about how you feel, maybe a teacher or your mum or a good friend? could you talk to your tutor at college and explain how worried you are getting over your work? study is important but it's not worth risking your health over it. it could be the stress over college that is making your period late. but if it doesn't show up soon you should see a doctor to check that everything is ok.

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[purplestarfish]

Hiya,

Firstly I can totally sympathise with you about college! I'm doing the IB at school too and so I know a bit about it... I find it really hard to meet deadlines because there seems to be so many! Probs due to the number of subjects and it can be hard to 'spread yourself around' to get everything done. It is also hard because above 40 points is incredibly difficult to achieve... (and well I think even above 30 is!) and so again I understand what you mean...

Anyway just being understood isn't that helpful... Is there a teacher / tutor you could talk to about the stress you feel under? And also I'm just wondering... do you have any plans for what you want to do after college? Perhaps it would help to set realistic goals for what you want to achieve at IB based on what you want to do in the future.

Secondly, i really doubt that you've done anything to make this guy just leave, and it must be really tough. Like you said it would be great if you could just move on but sometimes it really isn't that easy. Have you got a joint-friend that you can ask to have a chat with him? Maybe just to let him know that you won't be angry but you'd really like to know what happened so you can move on. If not perhaps send him an open and honest email asking what happened and if he doesn't reply within a few days then you can take that as a sign to move on.

With your periods... if its making you feel really unhappy, what with the pains and mood swings, try and go and see your GP. Maybe at the same time you could mention how you're feeling, and that everything is just getting a bit much. Have you got a friend you could confide in? Its good to be happy and bubbly infront of people... but not all the time if it isn't genuine. Friends are also there to support you, so if there is someone, please talk to them. Once you have someone, be it someone at college or a friend, hopefully you can open up to them and they can offer you any support you need. But I would really advise going to see your GP if things stay bad... they can help you with ways to change how you feel and hopefully make you feel better in the long run.

All the best with it, take care

[Cool2play22]

I am like that but it is school that does it for me.
But my Doctor tries to help.
And so do the people I see.
Have you tried the Doctors?

[Franki]

The stress of college is slowly starting to get to me. It's a more academic course than A Levels (IB if anyone knows about it!). I am really organized and make sure that all deadlines are met. I flew my Christmas exams and I'm on the road to getting into the second year. However, I don't know why but I'm constantly beating myself up over things. I get really good grades but still say to myself "That's absolute shit I can do alot better". I dropped out of college last year because of it but I'm not allowing myself to drop out this year.

If you're getting good grades for IB you should be really proud of yourself, particularly if it's across the board. Even if you're pretty good at everything, just keeping up with every subject is difficult. When I did it, we didn't even get that much homework (even though I was awful at doing it) but it was hard to keep up. And because you think that because you do IB that you SHOULD be great at everything, it's harder to ask for help. If you think you can do better, then that's a good motivator but don't be too down on yourself.

Also - well done for doing IB, I loved it and I don't think enough people do it. Good luck with your final exams when you do them, although I know it's a long way away :p.

[welshgirl]

I have read all the replies and I have to say, it brings music to my ears to hear other people who have/are doing the IB say positive things about it and are not slagging it off! I am enjoying it, sometimes it can get a little too much when you have other things festering in your head.

Thinking about getting 40 points on the course makes me want to pass out! I achieved 33 points in my Christmas mocks (and that was without courework!) so I'm on a roll!

As for the lad, I'm going to be seeing him tomorrow so will be able to tell him how I feel and also explain to him how his behaviour really hasn't helped matters at all.

Will also be going to the doctors asap to see if he can help me out.

Thank you so much for your replies!

[purplestarfish]

Yeah... I get really fed up of the constant "why aren't you doing A-levels?" questions!!! Like you... I'm enjoying it... i love doing 6 different subjects.. just gets to you sometimes! How are you getting along with CAS? 33 points is brilliant!!!! And yeah you're on a roll! Good for you for being positive about it!

Hope it goes / has gone OK with this guy! And I'm pleased you're thinking of going to the doctors..

All the best

[Franki]

Don't think about 40 points. 40 points is HARD. Only the very cleverest people get above about 37 (one of my friends in my first year of IB (I dropped out and started again 'cause they made me do higher chem) got 45, but he's an ubergenius). And all the best people get 33 ;).

[Aj fan]

Hi hun hope youre ok if your'e stressed that can have an impact on your periods it did with my friend for year go to dr have chat x

[Aj fan]

Go to your dr stress can have huge impact on your body +monthly cycle my friend like you+had no period year

[Aj fan]

Sorry about double reply i didnt think my comment had submitted