two faced people

[AThiefAWhoreAndALiar]

I'm getting really annoyed with some of the people i talk to, i mean they're not people i'd call amazing friends, but certainly not people i hate either, but recently i've been finding out lots of them are all talking about me behind my back, and generally being completely two faced and bitchy, and i know it shouldn't annoy me if we're not even that good friends but it annoys me that all the stuff they're saying is based on lies, and im getting really paranoid about it, its gotten to the point where i really dread being around them, and wonder if what i've said is going to be twisted and turned against me. It sounds really stupid but i hate the idea of people not liking me, cause i like to think im generally a nice person and it makes me worry that the lies are being passed on to other groups and i dont like, its just making me feel like i should be completely reclusive but thats not what i want, but i know everything i say is gonna be twisted and they're not really people i can avoid.

Not really sure if im looking for advice with this or if i wanted to rant, but if anyones got any advice i'd love to hear it

[MancDan]

Only person you can trust fully, ever, is your mum. Still everyone says stuff about everyone sometime or another. You've got to show them it doesn't bother you, an they're soon kissing your arse again. The paranoia passes.

[clementine_the_tangerine]

I'm getting really annoyed with some of the people i talk to, i mean they're not people i'd call amazing friends, but certainly not people i hate either, but recently i've been finding out lots of them are all talking about me behind my back, and generally being completely two faced and bitchy, and i know it shouldn't annoy me if we're not even that good friends but it annoys me that all the stuff they're saying is based on lies, and im getting really paranoid about it, its gotten to the point where i really dread being around them, and wonder if what i've said is going to be twisted and turned against me. It sounds really stupid but i hate the idea of people not liking me, cause i like to think im generally a nice person and it makes me worry that the lies are being passed on to other groups and i dont like, its just making me feel like i should be completely reclusive but thats not what i want, but i know everything i say is gonna be twisted and they're not really people i can avoid.

Not really sure if im looking for advice with this or if i wanted to rant, but if anyones got any advice i'd love to hear it

I think everyone goes through a phase of this and it just shows insecurity. Rather then have a massive barney I'd just maybe hint and say 'If I ever do something to piss you off I'd appreciate if you'd let me know. I'd hate to think I was getting on everyone's tits' or something to that degree. If they consistently make you feel like shit or just continue to talk behind your back maybe break away and find some new friends who aren't so bitchy. The best advice I can think of is to just be straight with them without biting their heads off because it's the quickest for things to get sorted otherwise issues like that tend to spiral out of control.

[VinylVicky]

I tend to just cut people like this straight out of my lives, if I think what they are saying is bull shit and undeserved. I have no patience when it comes to this.

[Namaste]

Trust nobody but yourself because at the end of the day, most people you're going to meet in your life are out for a free ride.

[Kermit]

Unless there's a good reason why you can't, then I'd suggest you just cut them out of your lives.

It's a fact of life that people will bitch about you, but there's no point hanging around having your ego take a beating whilst they do it.

[SuzyCreamcheese]

I tend to just cut people like this straight out of my lives, if I think what they are saying is bull shit and undeserved. I have no patience when it comes to this.

:yes:

[Bri-namite]

I think most of us do have a bit of two faced-ness or bitchyness about us, the problem is when it becomes vitriolic and hateful because that's when it turns really unpleasant.

There's a girl at work I was REALLY pally with, but I text the team gossip when I was drunk that I was really fond of her (in a friends way) and since then there's been a funny atompshere because she's been bullshitted. To be honest, I know you'll always get gossips and bitchy people but it's more the fact that my friend couldn't feel she could come and have a talk to me about it that's hurt a bit, y'know? People were well sticking up for me and rounding on her though, but it's the sort of shit you can do without really.

Just rise above it as much as you can :yes: