how to support friend's decision

[intrepide]

hmm.. i just got home after dinner and drinks with a very close friend of mine.

earlier this year she got together with this guy and i thought (as did she) that he was really nice and good for her. after a few months, they broke up over his behaviour and then he treated her appallingly. he was really rude to her, quite manipulative and, on one night out, was really rude and derogatory to me as well.
nevertheless, they got back together after a little while. i still dont trust him though and i truly believe she will end up getting hurt but i have been polite to him and listened as impartially as i can to her, trying to be a good friend.

but tonight, she told me she is gonna move in with him in the new year. i just didnt know what to say, it was so hard to be all like "i am so happy for you" as she was totally happy and excited.

how can i be supportive while at the same time trying to make sure she doesnt get hurt?

[xsazx]

Explain to her your still wary about her decision because of previous events but will support her if she believes its the best thing for her. Just show you're there for her if she needs you but she shouldn't take the decision lightly if it didnt end well previously. How long have they been together? xxx

[intrepide]

theyve been together this time for about 4.5months

[nelly_bar]

I guess in the end it's her decision, even if you may think it could be the wrong one.
Theres no need to feel obliged to say that you agree to it...but as long as she knows you'll support her choice, even if you think it isnt the right one..
As xsazx says, if she believes it to be want she wants, then as a friend you should respect it..