How do you know when a relationship has run its course?

[icey]

At the moment it seems everything my gf does irritates me - even when shes trying to do something nice.
I do love her but i just feel like i want to go off and do my own thing and cant even be bothered to ring her most of the time.
I've only felt like this for a couple of weeks so it could just be a phase..then again it might not be.. :confused:

I dont want to break up with her then realise it was a mistake later because its a big decision (been together 2 1/2 years)

[Nikki*]

I can't help much, but like you said, it may just be a temporary thing.

I've been with my boyfriend just a bit less than you and your girlfriend, and about 4 weeks ago, I would have said we wouldn't have been together by now, the way we were on at each other and sniping. This included several rather heated arguments, including one where I attempted to throw a balloon at him (only thing to hand.) But it all got sorted, and we're very much back to normal now. He's off out tonight, and I've demanded pictures of every girl that hits on him to laugh at in the morning.

I think, to be fair to her, I'd give it a bit longer before saying "no, thats it. Can't take it anymore". It depends how strong your feelings are though, but if you're still willing to admit you love her, it can't be ridiculously extreme surely?

[queenmab_roo]

Well been with my boyf 2 months and feeling like this, i've just gone on a break cos feeling like that isn't fair. at the moment i don't know if we'll get back together or what. I tried to ride out the feeling for about 3 weeks to a month but in the end i had to have some space.

[purplebutterfly]

Sometimes its just a phase, and sometimes you just now. Try riding it out for a month and see if anything changes. If not you might have to face the reality of it being over.

[Kermit]

When you know that things are wrong and you can't be arsed to even try and work through them.

[satehen]

I'd say the moment you start asking if it's the end, then it very likely is. With my ex i used to think about what it would be like without him and it wasn't bad. If i thought about life without my fiance it would be a nightmare scenario. That's how you know it's the end. You think about leaving them and find that it's not such a bad thought.

[**Helen**]

When you know that things are wrong and you can't be arsed to even try and work through them.

:yes: or perhaps when the relationship is becoming so draining that you can't be the person you want to be or you start to dislike/feel ashamed of your own behaviour. You might find the BBC's signs its over (http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/couples/heartaches_isitover.shtml) article has some food for thought. Take care ;)

[icey]

Well im happy again now and want to stay with her, guess it was just a phase.
We both seem to do this, I think its mainly because we see loads of each other and when one of us gets stressed about something we tend to take it out on the other person.
me = stressed about essay due in wednesday, also now loved up again :D

[wee wuman]

I'd say the moment you start asking if it's the end, then it very likely is.

me and my fiance have asked ourselves this a few times over the years and we have alwas got through it. we have been through some HEFTY problems that could easliy have made us call it a day but its not and next year we will be married and have been together ten years. dont get me wrong we still have our rough times where i thing aaaaaaaaaaaaarrrgghh (like tonight) but you know you have to work through these things.
give it some time. we have had times where we thought we could not sort things out and it wouldnt be the same and a week or two later things are fine!!

[fiona_liz01]

Sometimes I do feel that way but then again when I realized that this relationship was better than what I had then I start to change my course

[Dobbin]

I had the same with my ex when we'd been together 2 years. Give it time, you'll know what to do. It'll either get better or it won't... theres not really anything anyone can tell you that'll make it better, just have a bit f patience. If you want it to work, it will, but if deep down you've had enough, it'll soon become apparent

[**Helen**]

Hi - this thread is kinda old and icey seems to have resolved the situation now, so probably isn't looking for more replies.